Recover Yourself: Out from Under the Influence

Happy 4th of July!!! Now let's dig into the wound of Independence. In this episode, I speak with Mary Wagstaff, a holistic alcohol coach for Women. She is radicalizing what it means to live alcohol-free through the lens of Women's empowerment for the aquarian age. We cover a lot of territories as we discuss masculine and feminine energy and the difference between independent and individual. "Independence" belongs to the group while "individual" belongs to the (surprise) individual.  So many people get caught in the story that they are independent, or that it is the goal if we want to be free. The problem with that is there is no independence for the individual. All too often individuals give up their dharma, their purpose, to follow the road of independence, which leads nowhere. As an individual, we are dependent on others, maybe not people but the earth, and animals if nothing else. We are absolutely dependent, but we can be our own individuals within that dependence. The more we flounder about trying to grasp at independence the further we may fall under the influence of that desire.   Check out Mary's website here www.marywagstaffcoach.com If you are a parent or the adult child of a parent you are caring for or if you are a professional caregiver in any field, you face the very real threat of burnout nipping at your heels every day. This podcast can help you take a step back from that and get a wider perspective but working with me on a 4 session Recover Yourself package can finally put to bed any fear of burning out. Once you know how to recover yourself out of any situation, you’ll begin to gain more with every little thing you give. You’ll become unshakable and avoid conflict and stress without even knowing they were an option. As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. This starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/ Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself Instagram https://www.instagram.com/martinjon/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MartinJonRecoveryMentor LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinjonarts/ Anchor https://anchor.fm/martinjon Pandora https://www.pandora.com/podcast/description/recover-yourself/PC:29611 Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178 Amazon https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/93c9f241-bbaa-45ff-80ea-7e6d6cc6f2b2/Recover-Yourself Link Tree https://linktr.ee/martinjon Venmo: @MartinJon_Garcia --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

I recently returned from Guatemala where I spent 5.5 days in complete darkness at The Hermitage Retreats. This experience gave me a lot to think about and a lot to integrate into my life. Darkness has always been beautiful for me. When I was much younger I used to sit in a bathroom in the house I lived in which got no light in it unless the basement light was on. Sitting in there I had beautiful experiences of space breathing, whatever that means. Needless to say, I was very excited to experience darkness again over a greater amount of time. This episode is really just me telling my friends Robin Dluzen, Tom Torluemke, and Linda Dorman about what happened there. It is not a deep dive into my psyche, but a travelog of my experience. Recovery, to me, has everything to do with knowing myself, and sitting in the dark over the better part of a week is one way to be with one's Self.  As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. This starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/ o Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself o Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178 o Link Tree https://linktr.ee/martinjon o Venmo: MartinJon_Garcia --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

Awareness is a cumulative process. If you start right now and open yourself to becoming aware of something that you previously were not aware of, like “What are you avoiding doing?” Whether there is a clear answer or not matters less than being aware that the question may have an answer. That is how we become aware, we can simply start by asking a question about how we feel about something and approach it with curiosity. Ann HInce is the author of A Pathway to Insight, published a year ago today as I write this. Ann has found that seeking out what we truly feel, and accepting those feelings, is the key to inner peace. Ann’s focus on awareness is arrived at through EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique) also known as tapping. We don’t cover tapping in this episode but there are plenty of places on the internet you can find instructions on that specific procedure. Awareness, however it is arrived at, is the focus here, and to add awareness to any aspect of your life is beneficial. I hope you will take this as a sign to become more aware of your thoughts and feelings so you can continue to recover yourselves. You can find, and contact Ann on YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, and through her website. As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. This starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/ o Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself o Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178 o Link Tree https://linktr.ee/martinjon o Venmo: MartinJon_Garcia --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

Harm reduction has been a huge focus of mine recently and I am happy to be conversing with Gretchen for this episode. I have to admit, I am a fan of toughness. That is not to say I am a fan of tough love, many people see my approach as one that stems from tough love but that’s not the case. Love, deep love, when we have it for ourselves and can offer it to others can very quickly look tough as it relates to the tough love movement, but it is what motivates those actions that are the measure. Love can at times look quite tough but there are a lot of things that cannot be explained along the journey of love looking like what we expect, and it looks tough. The “Tough Love” idea is a simple one, get tough and you’ll see results, but that has rarely been the case and like the disease model never was backed by research. However, that never stopped anyone from making the statement that it was backed by research. I have no problem with love looking tough but when we take steps to be tough alone we are only doing more harm. Gretchen Burns Bergman is the Executive Director and a Co-Founder of A New PATH (Parents for Addiction Treatment & Healing), a 22-year-old non-profit organization that works to reduce the stigma associated with substance use disorders through education and compassionate support while advocating for therapeutic rather than punitive drug policies. She served as California State Chairperson for Proposition 36 in 2000 (treatment instead of incarceration), and she was one of the three signers of Prop 64 in 2016 to legalize marijuana. She is the lead organizer of the Moms United to End the War on Drugs international campaign. Her articles on therapeutic justice and harm reduction strategies have been published nationwide, and she has spoken before countless audiences. Since 2014, A New PATH has been providing overdose prevention training and Narcan distribution in San Diego County. Currently, over 9000 individuals have been trained and 2040 lives are reported saved. She is also a fashion show producer and has two grown sons who are in long-term recovery from heroin addiction. • Websites: www.anewpath.org and www.momsunited.net • Facebook: facebook.com/anewpathsite • Youtube: https://youtube.com/user/PATHMomsUnited • To support our work: https://www.anewpath.org/support-usTeasers As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. This starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/ o Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself o Instagram https://www.instagram.com/martinjon/ o Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MartinJonRecoveryMentor o LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinjonarts/ o Anchor https://anchor.fm/martinjon  o Pandora https://www.pandora.com/podcast/description/recover-yourself/PC:29611 o .Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178 o Amazon https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/93c9f241-bbaa-45ff-80ea-7e6d6cc6f2b2/Recover-Yourself  o Link Tree https://linktr.ee/martinjon o Venmo: MartinJon_Garcia --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

All of my work revolves around this concept of "Recovering To." Without hesitation, I believe that if we can each recover ourselves and stop living under the influence of others we will not only live amazing lives, we will contribute, love, inspire, and support everyone around us without even trying. Doing that will also help us naturally evade unnecessary conflict, stress, and health problems. But we first have to recognize where we are being influenced.  I have been doing this work for a long time now, not that I am done, I have a lot of things that I still live under the influence of, however, I have been in the cycle of questioning and being curious for such a long time it is not easy to pick apart and express.  I am talking with @laurs_worldofsobriety today because she is much closer to the source of the transition into "Recovering To" and I wanted to present the things that come with that transition. the fears, the anxiety, all the things we have to face in moving into a healthy direction.  I always want to emphasize that sobriety is a beverage choice. It might be a very difficult one to make, and I am very proud of you for making it, but at the end of the day, it is simply a beverage choice. Recovery is what you choose to do with that and how you want to proceed in your recovery is your choice and I wish you the best, whatever that choice is. When we are in recovery, we want to examine if there is a destination, or goal we are looking to achieve. Laurie hosts Laur's World, an interview series of people recovering Out Loud https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7Qugr1ff5KeEa9fBkFNONA you can also find her on Instagram @Laurs_WorldOfSobriety If you are a parent or the adult child of a parent you are caring for or if you are a professional caregiver in any field, you face the very real threat of burnout nipping at your heels every day. This podcast can help you take a step back from that and get a wider perspective but working with me on a 4 session Recover Yourself package can finally put to bed any fear of burning out. Once you know how to recover yourself out of any situation, you’ll begin to gain more with every little thing you give. You’ll become unshakable and avoid conflict and stress without even knowing they were an option. As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. These start with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/ o Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself o Instagram https://www.instagram.com/martinjon/ o Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MartinJonRecoveryMentor o LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinjonarts/ o Link Tree https://linktr.ee/martinjon o Venmo: MartinJon_Garcia --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

In this episode With Jenna Velez, she mentions the phrase “Post Traumatic Growth” which I had not yet heard in my travels. It is such a great phrase for many of my experiences, because, yes, I have experienced trauma, but it was that trauma that I grew through. That is not to say I want others to experience that trauma as well but we, all of us on this planet, have resilience. In a recent episode with Ken Bain he mentioned that we punish people who try but have not yet succeeded. I mention that to say that if we are currently traumatized we are simply in a state of having not yet succeeded in overcoming it, not that we never will. We often write off people who have experienced and struggled with trauma, even ourselves. We can so easily not take into account the depth of resilience we have within ourselves. It is something I have addressed in many episodes and I cannot believe the will be the last either. Jenna applies her trade at The Mental Health Association of Westchester Inc and hosts the Surfacing – The Meaning in the Story podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/surfacing-the-meaning-in-the-story/id1553150810I was grateful to be a guest on that which you can find here https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recovering-to-with-guest-martinjon-recovery-mentor/id1553150810?i=1000534658040 You can find more information on MHAWestchester at www.mhawestchester.orgor follow them on social media Facebook: The Mental Health Association of Westchester (@mhawestchesterny) Twitter: @MHAWestchester LinkedIn: The Mental Health Association of Westchester Inc. Instagram: @mhawestchester As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. These start with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/ Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself Instagram https://www.instagram.com/martinjon/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MartinJonRecoveryMentor LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinjonarts/ Anchor https://anchor.fm/martinjon Pandora https://www.pandora.com/podcast/description/recover-yourself/PC:29611 Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178 Amazon https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/93c9f241-bbaa-45ff-80ea-7e6d6cc6f2b2/Recover-Yourself Venmo: MartinJon_Garcia --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

The system of treatment as it relates to substance use has not followed the research. There is no other way to put it. If we were to examine the system related to its actions and the outcomes they claim to desire we can easily see that the system has a problem. It is not acting appropriately and continuing to perpetuate problems.    This is not only the case for the addiction treatment world, unfortunately. We have already seen this play out in education, in my interview with Ken Bain, and in Criminal justice, in my interviews with James Kimmel and Tio Hardiman. We have systems that, although loud, have not followed the research in any way and are continuing to pull the wool over our eyes about their effectiveness.    Terry applies his trade at Above and Beyond here in Chicago. It is the only place that I would ever blindly support because I know they respect their position in the community. Too many treatment centers get blind support because most people just assume that they are being set up to help, unfortunately, that is not often the case. This is not due to malintent, but when you go out into the world wanting to help, the amount of help you can give is endless, daunting, and no matter what you do there will always be more.    When we experience that endless void of things to do, we will burn out. To avoid that, we look to easy solutions like abstinence. Since abstinence can be tested it is the litmus test for so many. Quality though, cannot be measured so it quickly gets overlooked as a metric. I am sure there are great centers all across the United States but more often than not the treatment center around the corner from you is not helping people but continuing to contribute to a diseased system that has erroneously label people diseased.   This is a recent article by Terry http://better.net/chicago/life/health/the-nature-of-addiction-you-dont-get-addicted-to-the-drug-you-get-addicted-to-the-experience/   As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. This starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/   The Recover Yourself approach is a path to your total wellness: Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual (however you define that). If you have pain or a major diagnosis, spiritual misgivings, or are easily emotionally disrupted, you are not whole. We give up on ourselves so easily. As children, we lived under the influence of our parents and that, for many, continues from one relationship to another. There is a you that you will be, which you have never known, that you can Recover To. Contact me when you are ready to step into that. Support me financially through Venmo: MartinJon_Garcia Find me on Instagram @MartinJon --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

NAD is a supplement. Similar to testosterone, if we are not producing enough, we want to supplement it. Well, NAD enhances the ability of Vitamin B3 to support cellular healing in the body. This is a naturally occurring element in the body in which production can decrease for several reasons. Substance abuse or any abuse the body suffers could potentially erode the production of this in our body, as well as aging. I am talking with Mike Godfrey and Stephanie Rose who are working together on a research project entitled “Perceptions of Mental Health and Recovery after Receiving NAD Treatment: A different Approach for Recovery and Withdrawal.” Although I do not support an abstinent-only approach, NAD seems to be a route for those that want abstinence. Withdrawal is painful no matter how you slice it, and when it comes to stimulants there has previously been no help, or harm-reductive approach, to detoxing. NAD is not only being used to detox people from stimulants but for those who are ready to leave their MAT (suboxone/methadone) behind, as well as alcohol. Not everyone is going to want to move into abstinence but for those that are interested in that route, NAD seems to get people to a place where they can step into sobriety with a mind that is thinking clearer than otherwise would be possible. Since doing this interview I have been taking NAD, I have not experienced any noticeable shift in my thinking or behaving. However, it should be noted that I didn’t take any tests to see the level of NAD I was producing, so it very well may have been a wash. I do have an MRI coming up in Dec for my MS, if I have significant shrinking in my legions or if it aids in any way I can detect, I will definitely let you know. The center doing the research is Incura in North Little Rock Arkansas. https://incura.life/ @incura.life on Instagram Dr. Stephanie Rose bio https://uca.edu/healthsci/facultystaff/rose/ Questions: Would you try NAD if you were in a position to face detoxing? Where do you see NAD treatment, taking the information you have heard here, being able to offer benefit. Is NAD offered in your treatment facility? The Recover Yourself approach is a path to your total wellness: Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual (however you define that). If you have pain or a major diagnosis, spiritual misgivings, or are easily emotionally disrupted, you are not whole. We give up on ourselves so easily. As children, we lived under the influence of our parents and that, for many, continues from one relationship to another. There is a you that you will be, which you have never known, that you can Recover To. Contact me when you are ready to step into that. o Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself o Instagram https://www.instagram.com/martinjon/ o Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MartinJonRecoveryMentor o LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinjonarts/ o Link Tree https://linktr.ee/martinjon o Venmo: MartinJon_Garcia --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

Harm Reduction is exactly what it sounds like, the desire to reduce harm. If you are not actively wanting to do harm there is no reason to oppose the ideas around harm reduction. We are looking to have a system that treats people with more respect than it currently does. Does that mean when we get you to treat people better, we will stop, no it doesn’t. Because when you treat people a little better, we will ask you to once again reevaluate and treat people even better than that.   Maia mentions in this episode 2 things I want to point to specifically.    1. That to practice harm reduction we have to look at risks in context and identify what harms we are looking to reduce.   2. If you are treating someone with respect and dignity you are practicing harm reduction.  Maia Szalavitz is the author of 3 books Help at Any Cost: How the Troubled Teen Industry Cons Parents and Hurts Kids, Unbroken Brain:  A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction, and her latest from Hachette Go Undoing Drugs:  The Untold Story of Harm Reduction and the Future of Addiction.   Maia Szalavitz is the author of 3 books Help at Any Cost: How the Troubled Teen Industry Cons Parents and Hurts Kids Unbroken Brain:  A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction and her latest from Hachette GoUndoing Drugs: The Untold Story of Harm Reduction and the Future of Addiction Questions for treatment center groups  1. What are the rules you have around for yourself around using your DOC? How do those rules affect how you have treated others in respect to relationships similar to that which you have to your DOC? Can you approach that in a more respectful way? 2. What are the rules of your treatment center around intoxication? How does that affect your relationship with your treatment center?   3. How have you been treated on your journey into recovery? What aspects of that were most helpful? Least helpful? Why?   o Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself o Instagram https://www.instagram.com/martinjon/ o Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MartinJonRecoveryMentor o LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinjonarts/ o Anchor https://anchor.fm/martinjon   o Pandora https://www.pandora.com/podcast/description/recover-yourself/PC:29611 o Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178 o Amazon https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/93c9f241-bbaa-45ff-80ea-7e6d6cc6f2b2/Recover-Yourself   o Link Tree https://linktr.ee/martinjon o Venmo: MartinJon_Garcia --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

I did bad in school. It’s no secret, but that experience kept me from seeking higher education. I also lived many years denying my own intelligence in an attempt to not have to face the pain of not fitting in. Many of you may know I do not enjoy reading, that is not an easy thing to own about oneself while surrounded by readers. It should be said that those who I surrounded myself with did love me, but it was my perceptions and fears that kept me from receiving it. All of that was because I was afraid I still didn’t fit in, that I was still a failure. ENTER SUPER COURSES: I was introduced to the work of Ken Bain through an article he wrote in The Chronicle of Higher Education entitled The Future of Teaching (https://www.chronicle.com/article/why-post-pandemic-your-campus-needs-more-super-courses) The interesting thing about this article and “Super Courses” Ken’s book that I immediately listened to, is that it spelled out my learning process. In a nutshell, it promotes the idea of failing and trying again, and again. I love learning but I would never go into a classroom again. My life is a Super Course and I drive it forward every day. This podcast is a Super Course on recovery. I have covered huge aspects of the topic ranging from personal experiences to causes, concepts, and conditions. We have covered the science, and now the contributions of education, and in upcoming episodes new ideas around harm reduction and care. And, all the while, asking the big question, “How, and what, do we Recover?” There is obviously no answer to that but there is information that will help you get curious about it, and that is what I want to do, help you be more curious. Kenis president of the Best Teachers Institute, a historian, and a learning researcher. His latest book is Super Courses: The Future of Teaching and Learning, published this year by Princeton University Press. He is on Twitter @KenBain1 In June Ken, and Super Courses will take center stage at the 25th annual Best Teachers Institute program, more details here http://www.bestteachersinstitute.org/summer-institute Get your copy of Super Courses here https://www.amazon.com/Super-Courses-Teaching-Learning-Scholars/dp/0691185468 As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. This starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out. QUESTIONS: How did you do in school? How did that effect your ability to continue learning outside of school? Do you learn differently than school had shown you how to learn? How might a Super Course approach have helped you in school? Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself Instagram https://www.instagram.com/martinjon/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MartinJonRecoveryMentor LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinjonarts/ Anchor https://anchor.fm/martinjon Pandora https://www.pandora.com/podcast/description/recover-yourself/PC:29611 Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178 Amazon https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/93c9f241-bbaa-45ff-80ea-7e6d6cc6f2b2/Recover-Yourself Link Tree https://linktr.ee/martinjon Venmo: MartinJon_Garcia --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

In this episode, I am speaking with Judy Grisel about the A and B processes. And this is something we all have to face. Have you ever drunk coffee to feel more awake and then, when it wears off you are more tired? That is the A and B process at work. The thing is though, as you hear in our conversation, that after a time, and increased use or abuse, the A process has to be used consistently just to feel normal. So, if you have been drinking coffee every morning for years it is likely that you, like Judy, will have to continue to drink coffee every day just to feel normal, because otherwise, you’ll feel like crap.  Judy Grisel, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized behavioral neuroscientist with expertise in pharmacology and genetics whose research focuses on determining the neural liability toward drug addiction. Her laboratory at Bucknell University is especially interested in identifying innate factors that influence the rewarding effects of abused drugs because initial sensitivity predicts disordered use. Recent work has focused on the role of endogenous opiate neurotransmission in sex differences in binge alcohol drinking. Professor Grisel teaches General Psychology, Introduction to Neuroscience, Psychopharmacology, Neuroethics, Behavioral Neuroscience, and Clinical Neuroscience, and author of Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction, a New York Times bestseller and NB Book of the Month.  Opponent Process Theory https://615f2205-b9ed-4547-8ec9-9f1729f471a4.usrfiles.com/ugd/615f22_280363794a7c467387404bca7d9c2c29.pdf  Science Plays the Long Game https://615f2205-b9ed-4547-8ec9-9f1729f471a4.usrfiles.com/ugd/615f22_ff3dea45daef4b87a26a50731f4fb484.pdf JAMA Article https://615f2205-b9ed-4547-8ec9-9f1729f471a4.usrfiles.com/ugd/615f22_ce27f6893e624d30bd2f7d6141d9f7a4.pdf  Judy’s Bucknell Website with talks and other in support content: https://www.bucknell.edu/fac-staff/judy-grisel  Scientific Publications by Judy: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/?sort=date&size=50&term=Grisel+JE&cauthor_id=32315606  Never Enough https://www.amazon.com/Never-Enough-Neuroscience-Experience-Addiction/dp/0385542844  I encourage any and all of you to reach out to Judy directly with questions at j.grisel@bucknell.edu If you are a parent or the adult child of a parent you are caring for or if you are a professional caregiver in any field, you face the very real threat of burnout nipping at your heels every day. This podcast can help you take a step back from that and get a wider perspective but working with me on a 4 session Recover Yourself package can finally put to bed any fear of burning out. Once you know how to recover yourself out of any situation, you’ll begin to gain more with every little thing you give. You’ll become unshakable and avoid conflict and stress without even knowing they were an option. As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. This starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

This episode is for Caregivers. If you are a parent, or a child caring for an elderly parent, a counselor, clinician, or even a sibling, this episode unpacks so much of the complex backdrop of caregiving. Over the past year, we have seen those in our lives who have usually been the most resistant, get taxed to their limit. This is because the normal resilient load has been multiplied, not only by more people but by more problems as well.    As the world gets taxed, and it gets increasingly difficult to avoid that we are physically, emotionally, and spiritually taxed to an unhealthy degree, those who are in the caring roles need to start getting recognized. There is no way around it those who care about burnout and fatigue are neither being thanked or adequately compensated for what they are offering the world, and that needs to change.   My guest this week is Dr. Eboni I. Green, a registered nurse, and family caregiver. She holds a Ph.D. in human services, with a specialization in health care administration. Green has contributed to several publications and given presentations that focus on training, assessing, and supporting caregivers throughout their caregiving journeys. Green is a published author and has written three books focusing on family caregiving: At the Heart of the Matter Caregiving in the New Millennium, and Reflections from the Soul.   If you are interested in the Emma Tool mentioned in this episode you can find it here https://emma.caregiversupportservices.com/index.asp   If you are a parent or the adult child of a parent you are caring for or if you are a professional caregiver in any field, you face the very real threat of burnout nipping at your heels every day. This podcast can help you take a step back from that and get a wider perspective but working with me on a 4 session Recover Yourself package can finally put to bed any fear of burning out. Once you know how to recover yourself out of any situation, you’ll begin to gain more with every little thing you give. You’ll become unshakable and avoid conflict and stress without even knowing they were an option.    As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. This starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/   o Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself o Instagram https://www.instagram.com/martinjon/  o Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MartinJonRecoveryMentor o LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinjonarts/  o Anchor https://anchor.fm/martinjon  o Pandora https://www.pandora.com/podcast/description/recover-yourself/PC:29611  o Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178  o Amazon https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/93c9f241-bbaa-45ff-80ea-7e6d6cc6f2b2/Recover-Yourself  o Link Tree https://linktr.ee/martinjon  o Venmo: MartinJon_Garcia --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

Energy is all around us and we interact with it at every turn, in every moment. There are things that energetically lift us and other things that weigh us down. How we interact with energy is one thing we can look at whenever we experience any sort of malady we can think of, even being a victim. This week I am talking with Dr. Marina Kostina about the energy of the choices we make. If everything we do has an energy cost associated with it then every choice, we make is filled with potential and if we can make better energetic choices we can move in a better direction. We all follow energy but sometimes when that disrupts follow our “rules” it can feel quite uncomfortable, and thus we turn from feeling though it and act upon it. Questions: 1. Where have you interacted with your guiding energy? Did you follow it or did you turn from it for a more intense “better” feeling? 2. What can be gained by following an energetic pull, even if that might invite a feeling of discomfort? 3. What actions are being asked of you by this energy, that you are either avoiding or afraid of considering? Find out more about Dr. Marina Kostina at https://www.drmarinakostina.com/ If you are a parent or the adult child of a parent you are caring for or if you are a professional caregiver in any field, you face the very real threat of burnout nipping at your heals every day. This podcast can help you take a step back from that and get a wider perspective but working with me on a 4 session Recover Yourself package can finally put to bed any fear of burning out. Once you know how to recover yourself out of any situation, you’ll begin to gain more with every little thing you give. You’ll become unshakable and avoid conflict and stress without even knowing they were an option. As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. These start with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/ o Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself o Instagram https://www.instagram.com/martinjon/ o Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MartinJonRecoveryMentor o LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinjonarts/ o Anchor https://anchor.fm/martinjon o Pandora https://www.pandora.com/podcast/description/recover-yourself/PC:29611 o Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178 o Amazon https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/93c9f241-bbaa-45ff-80ea-7e6d6cc6f2b2/Recover-Yourself o Link Tree https://linktr.ee/martinjon o Venmo: MartinJon_Garcia --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

So what is a pacifier? It is anything you do to soothe yourself when you are feeling uncomfortable. Some of these, like drugs, alcohol, or gambling have been known to cause serious problems in some people’s lives. That is primarily because people feel extreme levels of discomfort and want soothing. That, and the amount of dopamine, and other chemicals, these substances and activities are known to release, are such, that the person can easily be taken well beyond comfort and straight to escape. When these two aspects feet each other, the pain and the soothing, it could be a recipe for disaster. Today, in our consumer society, we’ve learned so much about how to activate these dopamine responses in people that almost everything we engage in is connected to “feeling good.” This creates a dangerous environment because if something doesn’t engage a dopamine response it is likely that a person will feel discomfort because they have an expectation of things making them “feel good.” It is this that then turns people to a pacifier. The thing about pacifiers is that they are often the things we enjoy doing. However, there are times when we will engage them less as a healthy enjoyment and more as an escape. Duston and I talk about reading and exercise being used as pacifiers as well as drugs and alcohol. We have to understand that it is within the expectation to be comfortable, or happy, that can get us turning to our pacifiers and those can turn out to become addictions in our lives. I agree that there are some substances that are far easier to become addicted to than others. However, in the world of addiction, we are going to want to step away from trying to define things as addictive or not addictive. This sort of approach has primarily been used to allow people to engage in pacifiers, at a greater level than is healthy, simply because they are not classified as addictive. These definitions also create bias, as well as stigma, depending on what drug you are engaging. If we look at “Cali Sober” there is a further stigmatizing of opioids and alcohol, which are deemed addictive, while marijuana and psilocybin as seen as saviors due to the widespread idea they are not addictive. As it relates to stigma, the idea of being addicted to a substance frame the one who suffers from addiction as weak. Questions: • Throughout your life you have had many different pacifiers, some of which you still use some of which you do not. Can you spot 5 things that you have used as pacifiers throughout your life? • Of those 5 things, can you identify times you are drawn to use them? If they are no longer options in your life can you identify what made you stop using this in particular? Did something replace it? • Can you identify in your life, an action or substance that you may sometimes use as a pacifier, but other times is simply for the enjoyment of engaging in it? What are the differences between the two ways of engaging? Contact Duston through LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/duston-morris-phd-ms-ches-chc-02b5bb10/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

Connect with Kaii on Instagram @KaiiMarie_LLC or through her website https://www.kaiimarie.com/ It is so important for us to look inward especially as caregivers of any kind. We want so often to be of help simply because we may feel lost ourselves. When we look to help are we looking to solve the problems of others? Or are we looking to be a temporary post for them to lean on while they get their legs under them again? I have spoken with many people on this podcast about how the role of the teacher, as we have grown to understand them, is changing if not being removed completely from our experience. I noticed it a number of years ago as the industry of the personal coach started emerging. It is a tell-tale sign that something is amiss when everyone is clambering at something that previously was paid no attention. Today we are being called to be ourselves in a new way, whereas a decade ago it was “Be Yourself – as long as it fits into what we can understand.” Today we are seeing that still spread like wildfire of course but under the surface of that you can witness the next wave of “Be yourself and I don’t even need to tell you, or show you, what that means.” We are evolving and if you have a keen eye for who you are and how you are connected to the rest of us, then you know it’s true. If you are a parent or the adult child of a parent you are caring for or if you are a professional caregiver in any field, you have the very real threat of burnout nipping at your heals every day. Questions - What actions do you take in your life that you would never consider questioning? What would happen if you were to question them? - Can you name something that you learned by observing or experiencing as a child, and have previously expressed as something you were "Taught?" As an adult is that, which you learned, accurate? How does that lesson show up in your life today? Can you change the meaning of that experience? - In your own words describe what a frame of reference is. How has that changed since you were a child? In the last year? In the last week? As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. These starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

The most important relationship we have is with ourselves. Now that I’ve said that let’s look at romantic relationships in recovery. You’re move to recovery was done for you; I hope. Your partner is going to experience a lot of benefits from your hard work but that doesn’t mean they don’t have work to do as well. In this episode I am talking with Chantal Jauvin about her new book Love Without Martinis which is all about relationships after treatment. In it she lays out the ASCENT approach which stands for § Assess your readiness to change. § Structure your time. § Create your community. § Engage in your life. § Nurture your spirituality. § Treasure your partnership. Each one of these is for each individual to achieve on their own, this isn’t one sided because if your relationship is one sided something is wrong. You can get your copy of Love without Martinis anywhere you buy your books for further links visit Chantal’s website here https://chantaljauvin.com/product/love-without-martinis/ You can also connect with Chantal on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/chantaljauvinauthor and Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lovewithoutmartinis/ As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. These starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/ Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself Instagram https://www.instagram.com/martinjon/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MartinJonRecoveryMentor LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinjonarts/ Anchor https://anchor.fm/martinjon Pandora https://www.pandora.com/podcast/description/recover-yourself/PC:29611 Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178 Amazon https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/93c9f241-bbaa-45ff-80ea-7e6d6cc6f2b2/Recover-Yourself Link Tree https://linktr.ee/martinjon Venmo: MartinJon_Garcia --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

The Long Game is not always something that is obvious. The world around us, especially here in the United States, wants us to focus on the Short Game. The Short Game gets us leaning on others, Google, status, money, and all sorts of things to help us feel more comfortable. We can fool ourselves into thinking the Short Game is the goal, like marriage. When the Long Game, which is hidden behind the Short Game, is where we are going to experience the most fulfillment. As it relates to marriage, the Long Game is wanting what is best for ourselves and our partner regardless of the status of the marriage. If we cannot embrace that idea we may be playing a Short Game. This relates to our recovery as well, if our goal is to count days, or define our lives from the perspective of a beverage choice, we are playing a dangerous Short Game. Your recovery is going to offer the world so much more when we can embrace the idea that we are recovering ourselves. I say this because you are much more to the world than your consumer loyalty. Questions: a. What is a Short Game in your life today? Is that contributing to a Long Game? b. How would you like others to change to make your life, or the world, better? What expectations do you hold that cause you to believe this is a reasonable request to have of others? Would you be willing to change to make the world a better place for those people that you want to change? c. How are you conceding to the beliefs of others? (this often looks like arguing an irrelevant short game rather than focusing on a Long Game) How can you begin to focus on the Long Game? What would that do to how you approach the situation you are interested in altering? As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. This starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/ Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself Instagram https://www.instagram.com/martinjon/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MartinJonRecoveryMentor LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinjonarts/ Anchor https://anchor.fm/martinjon Pandora https://www.pandora.com/podcast/description/recover-yourself/PC:29611 Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178 Amazon https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/93c9f241-bbaa-45ff-80ea-7e6d6cc6f2b2/Recover-Yourself Link Tree https://linktr.ee/martinjon Venmo: MartinJon_Garcia --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

Zero Tolerance is kind of a big deal. Like trickle-down economics, it doesn’t work but we (our society) keep on working it. When we turn away from the facts around zero tolerance like it causes more harm than good, which has been proven time and again, we are just kicking the can down the road. You see, Zero Tolerance is a bill that is going to have to be paid, but, and this is just like addiction, if we don’t face it head-on and make the changes we need to make now, well, we’re just paying the interest and the principle is still due.   Every day a child is born into a zero tolerant culture we are teaching them to treat themselves and others with zero tolerance. This is a vicious cycle that, if we started to address today would take at least a generation to start seeing the effects of that change. The United States, maybe the world, is not quite ready to throw out zero tolerance, but you can start to face it in your life.   Dr. Stephanie Rose bio https://uca.edu/healthsci/facultystaff/rose/   You can access UCA’s addiction studies department on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/UCAaddictionstudies and check them out if you are interested in their online program where people can become certified Addiction counselors with their Bachelor in Addiction Studies program.  Learn more by attending programs offered by the UCA Addiction Studies Program. 5 free online webinars are being offered this Summer to those interested in attending. The topics include:   Stimulant Use and Abuse: What are the Growing Concerns?   Gambling Addiction and Interventions Recent Trends in Addiction a Discussion   Pregnancy, Postpartum, and Infant Mental Health Issues Part 2 Ethics in Addiction Counseling   Questions: What black and white views do you hold onto? When you question them, do you immediately start to defend them? Is there a place your curiosity can add more variables to these ideas?   As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. This starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/   o Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself  o Instagram https://www.instagram.com/martinjon/  o Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MartinJonRecoveryMentor  o LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinjonarts/  o Anchor https://anchor.fm/martinjon --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

If we insist on waiting for the best time to do what we want to do or to do what is good for us, we’ll never get around to it. There is no perfect time to do anything. So, any time is the perfect time to do everything. I cannot tell you how frustrating it is to hear people use the phrase “Bucket List,” if you want to do something start doing it now. And that is no different when it comes to our vices.    The last 2 years I spent smoking I did not enjoy it, but it was an identity I carried, and it was just too scary to change that identity. And, although I am ashamed of this, it took my girlfriend at the time to announce where was quitting to get me off my ass and do the same. I do not want to sit around and wait to do something that I want to do and that will put me in a healthier orbit.   This episode is with Allison Walsh, the Vice President of Business Development and Branding for Advanced Recovery Systems based in Central Florida. Allison is an author, podcast host, and former Miss Florida. Her story includes a battle with Anorexia Nervosa and Bulimia Nervosa, and with 19 years in recovery, she has a lot of perspectives to offer, from her experience both personally and professionally.    We are unwrapping a lot in this episode and addressing the idea that, on paper, there is never a good time to start a transformational journey. Luckily, we can always start right now. No matter what is in our way, or on our mind, we can do it and it only takes making up our mind to do it, once we do that, the first step takes itself.   Allison’s Podcast She Believed She Could www.shebelievedshecouldpodcast.com    The Recovery Village Drug and Alcohol Rehab (part of the Advanced Recovery Systems) www.therecoveryvillage.com     Questions 1 What were some things that kept (keep) you from committing to taking that first step? 2 What are you doing, out in your life, to keep your recovery strong?   3 How do you check in with yourself when things are not going as planned?   As my work suggests I am always looking to recover myself completely and my aim is to help others recover themselves. I see a client for a total of 4 sessions which is designed to launch self-directed lives and separate us from the constant draw of codependency. This starts with my doing a portrait of my client. The portrait is an intimate experience, these open a vocabulary to trauma and are healing. This process is not for everyone and if you are not ready, I will not work with you. It is important that you are ready to step into yourself and stop playing a victim cursed by things around you. If you are interested in working together reach out at https://www.martinjon.com/  o Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RecoverYourself o Instagram https://www.instagram.com/martinjon/ o Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MartinJonRecoveryMentor o LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/martinjonarts/ o Anchor https://anchor.fm/martinjon   o Pandora https://www.pandora.com/podcast/description/recover-yourself/PC:29611 o Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recover-yourself/id1465440178 o Amazon https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/93c9f241-bbaa-45ff-80ea-7e6d6cc6f2b2/Recover-Yourself   o Link Tree https://linktr.ee/martinjono Venmo: MartinJon_Garcia --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support

Groups are a double-edged sword. They can act as a rocket booster to get us off the ground and moving in a direction. Just having done that in our lives we can be put in a position to idolize the group, and sometimes the people in it. Groups can intimidate just as easily as they support and groups can start out on one clear path and slowly, over time, completely change course. That is not to say an individual doesn’t do that as well, but we do it as it fits into our lives, whether erroneous or not. When we are part of a group we have to ebb and flow with the group and whichever way the wind is blowing within the group. You are the only one making your decisions, and the only one you’re making decisions for (the role of parents needs a whole book so we will leave it at that for now). When we are not living under the influence of something a group doesn’t know what’s best for us, neither do our partners, families, or friends. When your life is guided by you there is nothing that knows your answer better than you. Not Google, not some Instagram influencer, not even your spiritual leader or therapist. You’re on a path to knowing you have the right answer, and this can seem lonely but that is only how it feels as we stop living under the influence of others. Lexx is a Life Coach, Motivational Speaker, and sober advocate for mental health. She hails from a tiny little riverfront town in Ontario, Canada, and is on a mission to empower incredible humans like you to live in alignment with their authentic selves. Her passion is helping people to reduce overwhelm and embody their uniqueness in every area of their lives. www.lexxellins.com Questions What were some groups you fit into well? What sort of rewards did you receive from these groups and what did you have to do to receive those rewards? What groups did you not fit into so well? What was an expectation of the group that caused you to not fit in? Have you altered your friendships, relationships, or life because of a group? Examine if that was in favor of the promises of the group, or you're leaving the group whether by choice or otherwise. How important, traumatic, or exalting was this? You can find Lexx www.instagram.com/iamcoachlexx www.lexxellins.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/martinjon/support