Groups are a double-edged sword. They can act as a rocket booster to get us off the ground and moving in a direction. Just having done that in our lives we can be put in a position to idolize the group, and sometimes the people in it. Groups can intimidate just as easily as they support and groups can start out on one clear path and slowly, over time, completely change course. That is not to say an individual doesn’t do that as well, but we do it as it fits into our lives, whether erroneous or not. When we are part of a group we have to ebb and flow with the group and whichever way the wind is blowing within the group.

You are the only one making your decisions, and the only one you’re making decisions for (the role of parents needs a whole book so we will leave it at that for now). When we are not living under the influence of something a group doesn’t know what’s best for us, neither do our partners, families, or friends. When your life is guided by you there is nothing that knows your answer better than you. Not Google, not some Instagram influencer, not even your spiritual leader or therapist. You’re on a path to knowing you have the right answer, and this can seem lonely but that is only how it feels as we stop living under the influence of others.

Lexx is a Life Coach, Motivational Speaker, and sober advocate for mental health. She hails from a tiny little riverfront town in Ontario, Canada, and is on a mission to empower incredible humans like you to live in alignment with their authentic selves. Her passion is helping people to reduce overwhelm and embody their uniqueness in every area of their lives. www.lexxellins.com

Questions

What were some groups you fit into well? What sort of rewards did you receive from these groups and what did you have to do to receive those rewards?

What groups did you not fit into so well? What was an expectation of the group that caused you to not fit in?

Have you altered your friendships, relationships, or life because of a group? Examine if that was in favor of the promises of the group, or you're leaving the group whether by choice or otherwise. How important, traumatic, or exalting was this?

You can find Lexx

www.instagram.com/iamcoachlexx

www.lexxellins.com

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