Resentment-Free Relationships

Special guest Denita Bremer, LCS certified trauma coach , shares her story and insights into trauma healing. Learn how to identify and understand trauma, explore the role of the nervous system, and discover practical tools to navigate fear and build safety in relationships. Instagram @Denitabremer https://denitabremer.com/

In this podcast episode, we continued our conversation with Kristen Rutter about the Faith Matters Conference. Here are the main points: Jared Halverson talked about understanding opposites and encouraging open questioning without judgment. Patrick Mason discussed the importance of creating a safe space for open discussions and the commitment to stay in the faith for positive change. Jodi Moore addressed common fears related to faith and the need for empathy and understanding in addressing them. The compass analogy stressed staying grounded in faith while seeking truth from various sources. You can connect with Kristen Rutter on her Instagram (@Kristen.rutter.coaching) and find resources on her website (KristenRutterCoaching.com) for spiritual and self-connection.

Anger phobia is an extreme fear of anger in oneself and others. It can lead to avoidance of conflict, which can damage relationships and prevent personal growth. Key Points Anger is a normal human emotion, but it can be harmful if it is not expressed in a healthy way. There are two main components of anger phobia: judgment and fear. Judgment can lead us to believe that anger is always bad, while fear can lead us to avoid it altogether. Both judgment and fear can be based on past experiences, such as being raised in a household where anger was not expressed in a healthy way. It is important to challenge our judgments about anger and understand the underlying fears. Once we understand our fears, we can start to develop healthier ways of dealing with anger. Questions to Consider What is your relationship with anger? What do you think about anger in yourself and others? What fears do you have about anger? How do your fears about anger affect your relationships? What can you do to develop healthier ways of dealing with anger? Action Steps Start by paying attention to your thoughts and feelings about anger. Notice when you are judging anger or feeling afraid of it. Challenge your judgments about anger. Ask yourself if they are true. Explore your fears about anger. What do you fear will happen if you express or experience anger from others? Develop healthy ways of expressing and dealing with anger. This may involve learning new communication skills or seeking professional help. Conclusion By understanding our judgments and fears about anger, we can develop healthier ways of dealing with this emotion.

Tara Schmidt, a licensed marriage and family therapist, gives more real-life examples of communicating better in a family.

Tara Schmidt, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, joins the podcast to share her wisdom and advice on relationships. The episode explores essential aspects of relationships, focusing on presence, trauma, attachment, and effective communication. The Importance of Presence: Presence is crucial in relationships, as trauma often stems from past wounds. Trauma is defined as emotional wounds that affect our perceptions and responses. Relationship issues often result from individual learnings and past wounds. Staying present helps prevent misunderstandings and reactions triggered by unresolved traumas. Recognizing and Managing Triggers: Emotional reactions can signal underlying trauma or wounding. Slowing down and identifying the root of emotional reactions is essential. Communicating with your partner about your triggers fosters understanding and compassion. Cultivating awareness and self-regulation skills is crucial for managing emotional triggers. Attachment Styles and Their Impact: Secure attachment involves creating a safe environment where individuals can be themselves. Insecure attachment styles, such as anxious and avoidant attachment, result from inconsistent caregiving. Anxious attachment can lead to clinginess and seeking constant reassurance. Avoidant attachment may result in self-sufficiency and emotional distance. Nurturing Safe Attachments: Parents should create emotional safety and support in the home. Safety includes allowing everyone to be themselves without fear of ridicule. Healthy conflict resolution models positive relationship dynamics for children. Balancing authenticity with emotional support promotes secure attachments. Effective Communication: The speaker-listener technique emphasizes active listening and empathy. The listener's role is to understand the speaker's perspective without defensiveness. Suspending one's own narrative temporarily facilitates empathetic listening. Encouraging empathy and understanding in relationships leads to improved communication. Conclusion: Building resentment-free relationships involves presence, trauma recognition, attachment awareness, and empathetic communication. Effective communication requires active listening and suspending one's perspective temporarily. Nurturing safe attachments and emotional support within families is essential for healthy relationships.

How to create a new habit. The "USED" Acronym: U: Understand Doctrine, Principle, and Application. S: Start Small and Simple. E: Experiment to Find What Works. D: Drop Self-Judgment. Applying the "USED" Framework: Practical examples of applying the framework to daily life. Conclusion: Encouraging listeners to use the "USED" framework to follow principles consistently. Sign up for the Find Your Calm Yoga-Life Coaching Workshop at www.yogaascension.com

Episode Title: The Perfectionism Trap: Discovering the Path to Self-Acceptance Episode Description: In this episode, join Becky, your host, as she dives into the intricate realm of perfectionism. Sharing her personal experiences, Becky opens up about her battles with perfectionism, procrastination, and people-pleasing—challenges many can relate to. Drawing inspiration from Brené Brown's insights, she guides you through the true nature of perfectionism and its impact on self-worth. Explore the transformational power of redefining "perfect," liberating yourself from its grip, and embracing self-acceptance. Becky offers practical strategies for overcoming perfectionism and finding peace in imperfection. Key Takeaways: Discovering the interconnected struggle with perfectionism, procrastination, and people-pleasing. Brené Brown's perspective on perfectionism as a shield against pain, judgment, and shame. Rethinking the definition of "perfect" and its evolution across cultures. Unveiling the weight of perfectionism and its effects on self-worth. Recognizing the self-destructive nature of chasing perfection. Strategies to challenge perfectionism, including self-compassion and shifting expectations. Episode Highlights: The unexpected shift in topic reveals Becky's passion for addressing perfectionism. Insights from Brené Brown's research and her insights into perfectionism. Redefining the word "perfect" to encompass deeper qualities beyond flawlessness. Strategies for embracing authenticity and breaking free from the perfectionism cycle. Real-life instances of applying strategies, from video content creation to fitness instruction. Encouragement to identify perfectionism's presence and take steps towards change. Connect and Learn More: Ready to conquer anxiety? Join Becky's upcoming Yoga Life coaching workshop "Find Your Calm" on September 30, 2023, from 4 to 6 PM. Gain valuable tools to manage anxiety and find serenity in everyday life. Secure your spot now and take the first step toward a centered existence. www.yogaacension.com Thank you for joining. Connect with us on social media @beckysmithcoaching.com on Instagram and continue the conversation. Remember, self-acceptance is the key. Until next time, practice kindness toward yourself and embrace the beauty of imperfection.

Setting boundaries is an important part of taking care of ourselves. But it can be difficult, especially if we're used to putting the needs of others before our own. When we set a boundary, we may feel guilty, angry, or scared. These negative feelings are normal, but they don't mean that we're doing the wrong thing.

This episode offers 5 healthy ways to deal with family members you don't like. The good news is you don't have to like them to start creating a healthier dynamic right now.

In this episode, we explore the paradox of decision-making. On the one hand, we know that making decisions is essential to living a fulfilling life. On the other hand, we often find ourselves paralyzed by fear, indecision, or the feeling that there is no right answer. We discuss the different factors influencing our decision-making, including our thoughts, emotions, and values. We also explore some simple tools and techniques that can help us make better decisions, even when there is no clear-cut answer. Making good decisions is a powerful skill to help us achieve our goals and live our best lives.** Here are some of the topics we discuss in the episode: The different types of decisions we make in our lives The factors that influence our decision-making The difference between good, better, and best decisions How to overcome the fear of making decisions How to own our decisions, no matter the outcome Simple tools and techniques for making better decisions Enjoy this episode! www.beckysmithcoaching.com

Becky discusses the Enneagram personality type 2, also known as the Helper. She talks about the key traits of type 2, both positive and negative, and how type 2s can grow and transform. Becky also shares her personal experience as a type 2 and offers tips for other type 2s looking to improve their lives. The podcast is packed with valuable information for type 2s, and it is also a great introduction to the Enneagram for anyone who is interested in learning more about this fascinating personality typing system. Here are some of the key points: Type 2s are motivated by the desire to be loved and accepted. They are often very caring and nurturing towards others but can also be people-pleasers and codependent. Type 2s can grow and transform by learning to set boundaries, say no, and focus on their own needs. The Enneagram is a powerful tool for self-understanding and personal growth. If you are a type 2 or if you are interested in learning more about the Enneagram, I highly recommend listening to this podcast. It is packed with valuable information that can help you better understand yourself and live a more fulfilling life.

How to make Progress? Celebrate each step as you move forward. Acknowledge small wins. Reflect on your progress. Celebrate your small wins. Check out my new Website www.beckysmithcoaching.com

Tune in to explore the delicate balance between belonging to others and being true to yourself. Learn how knowing your own wants, setting boundaries, and building emotional tolerance will set you free from Resentment.

Learn how the lies we tell ourselves can imprison us. It is beautiful to realize that you are in charge of your own personal freedom, no one else. The president, Congress, Supreme Court, or even the Constitution cannot entirely grant you freedom. Freedom is an inside job. Set yourself free by clicking the link https://calendly.com/believefitness/45 to chat with me on a freedom discovery call.

Discover "Resentment Free Relationships": Uncover the secrets to stronger connections without resentment. If you're tired of feeling anxious, frustrated, judged, hurt, or resentful in your relationships then this is the episode for you. Schedule a free 20-minute call and start your "Resentment-Free Relationship" today. https://calendly.com/believefitness/45

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This episode explores the fine line between conflict and contention and why understanding this difference is crucial in relationships. Awareness is the first step in handling conflict with grace and fostering healthier relationships. Are you ready to resolve your conflicts before they become contentious sign up for my free Fix Your Relationship call now.

Join us as we explore the importance of accepting and learning from bad days in this episode. Becky shares her personal experience and highlights the value of allowing ourselves to feel emotions without judgment. Discover how curiosity and acceptance can lead to valuable insights on embracing life's ups and downs with grace.

Learn why recreation matters, and how it can help you re-create your marriage.

Becky gives you some language to think of yourself and to think of motherhood in a different way. One that's maybe a little more truthful, that's a little less perfectionistic, and one that can kind of shatter that pedestal and that idea, and bring it back down to the real world that we live in.