In this episode, Ray is joined by the remarkable Laura Cathcart Robbins, author of Stash: My Life in Hiding. Laura is an author, writer, speaker, and podcast host of “The Only One In The Room Podcast.” Together, they explore the powerful themes of vulnerability, transformation, and the courage it takes to break free from the shadows of addiction. Laura discusses her personal journey through addiction and recovery, as detailed in her acclaimed memoir. She shares how on the outside she was a PTA mom, successful businesswoman, and loving wife and mother. But underneath she was dealing with addiction to Ambien and alcohol. She opens up about the societal pressures and internal struggles she faced while hiding her addiction and how coming out of hiding became a pivotal moment in her recovery. In fact, she didn’t even want to be in recovery, but put her kids above her own momentary satisfaction. She discusses the importance of confronting one's truth and the transformative power of vulnerability in the healing process. Laura’s Toolkit: • Acknowledge your struggles • Seek vulnerability to open the doors to personal growth • Join a recovery program that will keep you encouraged • Create safe spaces for honest conversations • Build a support network to keep yourself accountable and encouraged • Share your story to help yourself heal and inspire others • Prioritize mental health • Prioritize children and family • Stay hopeful in remembering that transformation is possible Laura’s details Website: https://lauracathcartrobbins.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauracathcartrobbins/ The Only One in the Room Podcast: https://theonlyonepod.com/ Laura’s book “Stash: My Life in Hiding”: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Stash/Laura-Cathcart-Robbins/9781668005347 Connect with the show Website:https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest:https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube:https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/stackndayshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0 Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/ Add Stack’n’days to your calendar: https://id.podcal.app/1668847465.ics Instructions: Apple Calendar (iOS): Click “Calendars” > “Add Calendar” > “Add Subscription Calendar,” then provide the URL above Apple Calendar (macOS): File > “New Calendar Subscription,” then provide the URL above. Google Calendar: Go tohttps://calendar.google.com/ > “Other calendars” > “+” > “From URL,” then provide the URL above
In this special solo episode marking the 50th and final episode of Season 2, host Ray Donovan takes a moment to reflect on the profound journey of the Stack'n'Days podcast. He delves into how the podcast has not only been a platform for exploring the sobriety experience but has also been instrumental in his own personal growth. Ray expresses deep gratitude towards the guests who have fearlessly shared their stories, emphasizing the transformative power of vulnerability and openness in the recovery process. As Season 2 draws to a close, Ray Donovan extends heartfelt appreciation to the listeners who have accompanied him on this transformative journey. He reaffirms Stack'n'Days commitment to fostering a culture of healing, resilience, and inclusivity. With each episode, the podcast continues to serve as a beacon of hope, inspiring individuals to reclaim their narratives and embark on the path towards sobriety and self-discovery. The Power of Vulnerability and Openness in Recovery Ray talks about the impact Stack’n’Days has had on his own sobriety and wellness journey. As an introvert Ray hadn’t previously been comfortable sharing his vulnerabilities with others but through the podcast he has learned that silence is not a coping mechanism and healing as part of a community is so much more powerful than healing in a silo. Stacking Days as a Platform for Healing and Support Throughout the episode, Ray emphasizes the podcast's role as a catalyst for healing and support. He invites listeners to actively participate in the ongoing dialogue, fostering a community of empathy and understanding. Through sharing stories and experiences, Stack'n'Days serves as a sanctuary for those navigating the complexities of sobriety and mental health. The Need for Representation in BIPOC Sobriety and Wellness Ray acknowledges the pivotal role that BIPOC women and the LGBTQ+ community have played in leading the discourse on sobriety and recovery on and off the podcast, thanking both communities for their openness and willingness to share. He candidly addresses the underrepresentation of men of color in discussions surrounding sobriety and mental health. He calls for greater inclusivity, urging more voices from this demographic to step forward and share their experiences. By amplifying diverse perspectives, Stack'n'Days seeks to bridge existing gaps and cultivate a more inclusive dialogue. Consistency and Overcoming Challenges Reflecting on his own journey, Ray emphasizes the importance of consistency and perseverance in the face of adversity. He shares insights gleaned from his experiences, reaffirming the transformative power of showing up, day after day. Stack'n'Days stands as a testament to the resilience of the human spirit, inspiring listeners to embrace their own paths towards healing and growth. Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/ Add Stack’n’days to your calendar: https://id.podcal.app/1668847465.ics Instructions: Apple Calendar (iOS): Click “Calendars” > “Add Calendar” > “Add Subscription Calendar,” then provide the URL above Apple Calendar (macOS): File > “New Calendar Subscription,” then provide the URL above. Google Calendar: Go to calendar.google.com > “Other calendars” > “+” > “From URL,” then provide the URL above
In this episode of Stack'n'Days, host Ray Donovan engages in a candid conversation with Nyina Muigai, exploring her personal journey with alcohol and her decision to embrace sobriety. She talks about her reasons for going sober, how she got sober and about her non-alcoholic drinks and events business. Nyina’s Toolkit: Informing herself about alcohol abuse Connecting with like minded individuals online Finding non-alcoholic events Setting up her non-alcoholic mobile bar, Nolik Non-alcoholic drinks Running sober group trips Nyina's Journey Nyina candidly shares her experience with alcohol, rooted in the vibrant drinking culture of Kenya. From early social drinking to using alcohol as a coping mechanism for inner unrest, Nyina's narrative reflects the multifaceted relationship many BIPOC individuals have with alcohol. Turning Point and Self-Discovery The turning point for Nyina came with the stark realization on New Year's Day, awakening to feelings of anger and disappointment. This pivotal moment ignited her decision to embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth, leading her towards sobriety. Finding Support and Noliq's Inception Navigating her sobriety journey, Nyina found solace in online communities and non-alcoholic events. Empowered by her experience, she founded Noliq, a mobile bar and events company dedicated to offering inclusive socializing experiences through non-alcoholic alternatives. Nyina shares the evolution of Noliq, expanding its offerings to include ready-to-drink canned cocktails and sober travel experiences. Through authentic connections and transformative journeys, Nolik aims to redefine the narrative surrounding sobriety. Challenges and Perspectives on Sobriety Ray and Nyina delve into the diverse reactions towards non-alcoholic drinks, spanning from surprise to skepticism. They underscore the significance of acknowledging that drinking encompasses a sensory experience beyond taste, advocating for mindfulness and respect towards non-alcoholic options. Education and Wellness Dialogues Nyina shares her belief of the imperative need for early education and prevention strategies concerning alcohol consumption. Wellness and health should be central themes in this. Navigating Industry Dynamics Nyina and Ray dissect the implications of major corporations entering the non-alcoholic sector, highlighting the importance of nurturing smaller businesses and fostering innovation in the realm of sober experiences. Book Mentioned: What Color Is Your Parachute by Richard N. Bolles Nyina’s details NoLiQ: https://www.drinknoliq.com/ NoLiQ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drinknoliq/?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D NoLiQ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61551541672959 NoLiQ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@noliqbw Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/ Add Stack’n’days to your calendar: https://id.podcal.app/1668847465.ics Instructions: Apple Calendar (iOS): Click “Calendars” > “Add Calendar” > “Add Subscription Calendar,” then provide the URL above Apple Calendar (macOS): File > “New Calendar Subscription,” then provide the URL above. Google Calendar: Go to calendar.google.com > “Other calendars” > “+” > “From URL,” then provide the URL above
In this solo episode Ray looks at three issues he has experienced in his sobriety journey. He discusses the fact that very few celebrities of color speak about sobriety and applauds those who do. He highlights that the portrayal of sobriety online and in the media is different to the reality but emphasizes that despite this difference, sobriety is one of the most rewarding and beneficial things you can do for yourself. He also talks about sobriety fatigue and offers advice on how to get through it. Empowering Representation Ray begins by highlighting the significance of celebrities of color sharing their journeys of sobriety. He points to Tiffany Haddish as a powerful example of representation in the media. "You don't really hear a lot of folks of color, specifically black people, celebrities, that is, talking about some of these darker aspects," Ray reflects, emphasizing the importance of diverse voices in the narrative of recovery. The Misleading Portrayal on Social Media Ray dives into the misleading portrayal of sobriety on social media. He critiques the trend of "influencer sobriety," where addiction seems like a distant memory, painting an overly simplistic picture. "Influencer sobriety is a world where alcohol addiction is history, but it's all too neat," Ray remarks, stressing the need for honesty and realism about the challenges of recovery. Facing Sobriety Fatigue Ray shares his own experiences of sobriety fatigue. "I feel as though that there is a, oftentimes, at least for me, there was a honeymoon, right? In early sobriety, you're really trying to stack those days and maintain a degree of clarity." He discusses the exhaustion that can accompany long-term recovery and the importance of staying engaged in the journey despite the challenges. Ray emphasizes the value of finding tools and support that work for each individual's recovery journey. Whether it's therapy, support groups, or creative outlets, he encourages listeners to explore what resonates with them personally. Links to media mentioned Podcast with Tiffany Haddish: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-conversation-with-amanda-de-cadenet/id1514866495?i=1000650119199 Article by Ashe Davenport: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2024/mar/30/giving-up-drinking-alcohol-tips-advice Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/ Add Stack’n’days to your calendar: https://id.podcal.app/1668847465.ics Instructions: Apple Calendar (iOS): Click “Calendars” > “Add Calendar” > “Add Subscription Calendar,” then provide the URL above Apple Calendar (macOS): File > “New Calendar Subscription,” then provide the URL above. Google Calendar: Go to calendar.google.com > “Other calendars” > “+” > “From URL,” then provide the URL above
Jeny Rodrigue is a licensed mental health professional specializing in substance abuse within the BIPOC community. She shares her journey and insights into addressing addiction and mental health within communities of color. In her discussion with Ray she highlights the importance of normalizing conversations around mental health and addiction to provide better support and understanding. Overcoming Stigma and Apprehension in Seeking Help in BIPOC Communities Jeny discusses the common apprehension within communities of color when it comes to seeking therapy and mental health support. She emphasizes the historical context and societal influences that contribute to the stigma surrounding mental health in communities of color. By humanizing the conversation and sharing personal experiences, Jeny aims to break down barriers and encourage individuals to seek the help they need without feeling ashamed or judged. Connection Between Mental Health and Addiction Jeny addresses the interconnected nature of mental health and addiction. She explains how mental health issues like depression and anxiety can often coexist with addictive behaviors. She emphasizes the importance of addressing both aspects holistically to support individuals in their recovery journey. By recognizing the link between mental health and addiction, individuals can receive more comprehensive and effective treatment. Supporting BIPOC in Recovery and Sobriety Jeny shares her approach to supporting individuals who may experience setbacks or relapses in their recovery journey. She emphasizes the importance of normalizing relapse as a part of the recovery process and providing a supportive environment for individuals to restart their journey without judgment or shame. By focusing on building on past successes and offering personalized support, Jeny aims to empower individuals to continue their recovery efforts. Educating and Empowering Communities The discussion touches on the need for education and awareness within communities of color regarding mental health and addiction. Jeny highlights the importance of providing resources, tools, and information to empower individuals and families to address these issues openly. By promoting conversations, normalizing mental health discussions, and offering support, communities can create a more inclusive and understanding environment for individuals struggling with mental health and addiction challenges. Resources mentioned by Jeny: SBIRT: https://www.sbirt.umaryland.edu/about-us/what-is-sbirt/#:~:text=SBIRT%20stands%20for%20Screening%2C%20Brief%20Intervention%2C%20Referral%20to%20Treatment. 988 https://988lifeline.org/ SAMHSA Recovery Support https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/recovery Treatment Locator- https://findtreatment.gov/ Anxiety Screening https://adaa.org/sites/default/files/GAD-7_Anxiety-updated_0.pdf Depression Screening https://www.apa.org/depression-guideline/patient-health-questionnaire.pdf National Institute on Drug Abuse Assessment and Screening Tools https://nida.nih.gov/nidamed-medical-health-professionals/screening-tools-resources/chart-screening-tools Jeny’s details Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenyrodrigue_therapist/ Website: https://apathwaytolifecounseling.com/ Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/
Loved ones play such a huge role in recovery with Ray and guests often speaking about the impact this had on their sobriety journeys. Well today in this special episode of Stack'n'Days, Ray is joined by his wife Eva. They share candid insights into their journey of love, struggle, and growth, shedding light on the complexities of navigating sobriety as a couple within BIPOC communities. Early Days and Intertwined Drinking Ray and Eva reminisce about the early stages of their relationship, where alcohol played a central role. They fondly recall the moments of laughter and connection, yet recognize how heavily drinking was intertwined with those memories. Recognizing the Problem Eva bravely shares her realization that Ray's drinking was problematic, acknowledging the challenges she faced in trying to support him. Their conversation unveils the burden partners of alcoholics often bear in managing and monitoring their loved one's drinking, highlighting the emotional toll it takes. Loss and Growth Both Ray and Eva reflect on the loss of certain aspects of their relationship that were linked to alcohol. They openly discuss the challenges and rewards of Ray's journey towards sobriety, emphasizing that it's an ongoing process requiring self-reflection and addressing various life areas. Coping Mechanisms and Emotional Honesty Ray and Eva delve into the role of alcohol as a coping mechanism and how sobriety has allowed Ray to confront his emotions more honestly. They explore the intricacies of navigating sobriety within a relationship, acknowledging the friction and misunderstandings it can cause. Living Intentionally and Finding Strength They highlight the importance of living intentionally. Ray and Eva emphasize the need for internal strength and peace, highlighting the transformative power of honest self-reflection and growth. Support and Gratitude Ray and Eva express gratitude for their journey of growth and evolution. They underscore the significance of creating a safe, non-judgmental environment to support a loved one in recovery and the importance of honest conversations with yourself and each other. Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/ Add Stack’n’days to your calendar: https://id.podcal.app/1668847465.ics Instructions: Apple Calendar (iOS): Click “Calendars” > “Add Calendar” > “Add Subscription Calendar,” then provide the URL above Apple Calendar (macOS): File > “New Calendar Subscription,” then provide the URL above. Google Calendar: Go to calendar.google.com > “Other calendars” > “+” > “From URL,” then provide the URL above
Creator of Sober Girls Houston Danay Jones joins Ray to talk about the importance of community in recovery, having role models of color, her bipolar diagnosis and how her life has changed for the better since quitting drinking. Her story is a testament to the transformative power of sobriety and self-discovery. Danay’s Toolkit Physical Activities Therapy A Sober Community Spirituality Medication Creativity Education about Addiction Danay's Journey with Alcohol Danay opens up about her early experiences with alcohol, starting at a young age due to loneliness and seeking connection. Moving to a big city intensified her destructive path, leading to arrests, mental health struggles, and a decade-long battle with addiction. The turning point came during the COVID-19 lockdown, prompting Danay to confront her drinking habits and make a life-changing decision on May 10th, 2020, marking her sobriety date. Overcoming Shame and Embracing Recovery Through therapy and self-reflection, Danay addresses the shame and guilt associated with her actions under the influence. She emphasizes the importance of self-love, understanding her true self, and setting goals to navigate the recovery journey successfully. Creating Sober Girls Houston Danay's initiative, Sober Girls, aims to provide a supportive and inclusive space for women in sobriety or exploring sobriety. Danay wants to reshape the narrative around socializing, showing that alcohol isn’t necessary for creating connections. Challenging Recovery Misconceptions Danay challenges misconceptions around recovery, highlighting the diversity of paths to sobriety and the significance of individualized approaches. She advocates for destigmatizing medicated-assisted treatments and embracing a holistic view of addiction recovery. The Power of Sobriety Danay reflects on the empowering transformation sobriety has brought to her life, emphasizing the newfound confidence, clarity, and purpose she experiences daily. She shares insights on recognizing signs of struggle, breaking the cycle of isolation, and supporting loved ones through their recovery journey. Danay’s details: Instagram: @randomly_rude and @Sobergirlshtx Website: www.sobergirlshouston.com Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/ Add Stack’n’days to your calendar: https://id.podcal.app/1668847465.ics Instructions: Apple Calendar (iOS): Click “Calendars” > “Add Calendar” > “Add Subscription Calendar,” then provide the URL above Apple Calendar (macOS): File > “New Calendar Subscription,” then provide the URL above. Google Calendar: Go to calendar.google.com > “Other calendars” > “+” > “From URL,” then provide the URL above
Vasavi Kumar is an author, podcaster, TV host, group coach, therapist, entrepreneur, and lifestyle expert. She shares her personal journey of recovery and growth, offering valuable insights and tools for speaking one's truth out loud. This episode features a deep dive into Vasavi’s sobriety journey and self-love experience. This is the Stack’n’Days podcast, a platform that highlights underrepresented journeys of sobriety, growth, and well-being for BIPOC communities hosted by Ray Donovan. Vasavi's Sobriety Journey Vasavi opens up about her first encounter with alcohol at a young age of 12, leading to a tumultuous relationship with substances in her 30s. She candidly shares her struggles with addiction, particularly to cocaine, and the pivotal moments that led her to seek help and embark on a path to sobriety. Turning Point in Recovery Vasavi reflects on the turning points in her recovery journey, highlighting the moments that compelled her to seek help and end the chaos. She emphasizes the importance of self-realization and the decision to prioritize self-love and well-being. Tools for Self-Love and Growth Drawing from her personal and professional experience, Vasavi offers valuable insights on cultivating self-love and creating a safe space for honest conversations with yourself. She emphasizes the power of speaking your truth out loud, challenging negative self-talk, and building a supportive environment for personal growth. Creating a Safe Space Vasavi discusses the significance of creating a safe environment for yourself, free from external validation and toxic influences. She shares the importance of cultivating inner safety and authenticity, which ultimately leads to healthier relationships and personal empowerment. Embracing Vulnerability Vasavi encourages listeners to embrace vulnerability and authenticity, emphasizing the strength in seeking help and sharing struggles with trusted individuals. She highlights the importance of open communication and self-compassion in navigating challenges and fostering personal growth. Looking Ahead Vasavi shares her aspirations for a fulfilling and balanced life, including a focus on self-love, healthy relationships, and continued personal development. She emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, prioritizing self-care, and staying true to her own values. Vasavi’s Details Website: https://vasavikumar.com/ Book: https://vasavikumar.com/orderthebook Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mynameisvasavi/ Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/ Add Stack’n’days to your calendar: https://id.podcal.app/1668847465.ics Instructions: Apple Calendar (iOS): Click “Calendars” > “Add Calendar” > “Add Subscription Calendar,” then provide the URL above Apple Calendar (macOS): File > “New Calendar Subscription,” then provide the URL above. Google Calendar: Go to calendar.google.com > “Other calendars” > “+” > “From URL,” then provide the URL above
Jamil, a first-generation American, opens up about his struggles with alcoholism and the pivotal moments that led him to seek help. He discusses his childhood with an alcoholic father, his career in law enforcement, the different things his family tried to do to help him, almost dying from alcohol abuse and his path to recovery. Jamil’s Toolkit Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) Alcohol treatment centers Spirituality Finding a sense of purpose in entrepreneurship Early Life and Family Background Jamil reflects on his upbringing as the youngest of four siblings in a family where alcoholism was prevalent. He shares vivid memories of his father's struggles with alcohol and the impact it had on his childhood. Jamil recounts traumatic incidents, including a car accident caused by his intoxicated father, and the subsequent passing of his father due to cancer. Journey to Sobriety After facing multiple challenges and setbacks, including a DUI and suspension from work, Jamil reaches a breaking point. He describes his desperate desire to change his life and seek help for his alcohol addiction. Jamil's journey to sobriety includes multiple attempts at treatment, relapses, and encounters with fellow members of Alcoholics Anonymous. He highlights the pivotal role of a sponsor in guiding him towards recovery. Challenges and Triumphs Despite facing obstacles and setbacks, Jamil perseveres in his quest for sobriety. He shares the struggles of reentering the workforce and finding his place in society as a recovering alcoholic. Jamil emphasizes the importance of perseverance, humility, and seeking support from others. He shares his aspirations for the future and his commitment to helping others on their path to recovery. Jamil’s details @copturnsentrepreneur Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/ Add Stack’n’days to your calendar: https://id.podcal.app/1668847465.ics Instructions: Apple Calendar (iOS): Click “Calendars” > “Add Calendar” > “Add Subscription Calendar,” then provide the URL above Apple Calendar (macOS): File > “New Calendar Subscription,” then provide the URL above. Google Calendar: Go to calendar.google.com > “Other calendars” > “+” > “From URL,” then provide the URL above
Ahead of this International Women’s Day host Ray Donovan is joined by Sweta Sansara, who shares her personal story of overcoming alcohol addiction and sugar addiction. Sweta sheds light on her experience growing up as a Nepalese immigrant in the US, feeling like she didn't fit in, an eating disorder, alcohol addiction, being in the US Marines and eventually finding out her body metabolizes sugar into alcohol meaning she had to quit sugar too in her path to sobriety. Sweta’s Toolkit: Drug and alcohol counseling 12-step program Trauma therapy Having a strong support system Setting boundaries Surrendering to a higher power Healthy habits such as meal planning Acceptance and trusting in the recovery process Therapeutic tools such as CBT Education and awareness about addiction and wellness Setting an example for her children Sweta's Journey with Alcohol and Food Addiction Sweta opens up about her family history of alcoholism and how she started drinking at a young age. She shares how alcohol became a coping mechanism for her childhood trauma and struggles with fitting in due to cultural differences. Sweta also delves into her co-occurring eating disorder, highlighting the vicious cycle of using food and alcohol to numb her emotions. Joining the Marines and Struggles with Addiction Sweta recounts her decision to join the Marines as a way to overcome her addictions but ultimately faced challenges with drinking on the job and developing physical issues due to her lifestyle. Despite her efforts, Sweta's addiction continued, leading to a downward spiral. Finding Sobriety and Then Learning About the Sugar Problem After hitting rock bottom, Sweta sought help and found sobriety through addiction counseling. Five years later she discovered that her body was metabolizing sugar into alcohol and had to go through the process of giving up sugar. She says that this was much harder than giving up alcohol. She shares her journey of surrendering to a higher power and making significant lifestyle changes to break free from the cycle of addiction. Family Dynamics and Cultural Stigma Sweta reflects on the challenges of discussing addiction within her South Asian family and the cultural norms that influence their perceptions. She emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and being an example for the next generation to break the cycle of addiction. Sweta’s details Instagram: @sweta YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SwetaSansara Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/ Add Stack’n’days to your calendar: https://id.podcal.app/1668847465.ics Instructions: Apple Calendar (iOS): Click “Calendars” > “Add Calendar” > “Add Subscription Calendar,” then provide the URL above Apple Calendar (macOS): File > “New Calendar Subscription,” then provide the URL above. Google Calendar: Go to calendar.google.com > “Other calendars” > “+” > “From URL,” then provide the URL above
In this episode Ray welcomes Miles Orman. Miles opens up about his struggles with alcohol and addiction, shedding light on his past experiences and how he found his way to recovery. He discusses generational alcohol abuse, being a high functioning alcoholic, holistic healing and the importance of community in healing. Miles’ Toolkit Personal development podcasts, e.g. Recovery Elevator podcast Becoming a certified nutrition coach DDP Yoga Fitness Meditation and mindfulness practices Mindset coaching Early Life and Influence Miles shares how his relationship with alcohol was influenced by his mother's struggles with alcohol abuse and addiction. Growing up in a chaotic environment, he witnessed the negative impact of alcohol, which initially deterred him from drinking during his high school years. College Experience Upon entering college on a basketball scholarship, Miles was exposed to the party scene and binge drinking culture. This shift in environment led him to lose focus on his goals, affecting his performance on the court and in the classroom. Transition to Adulthood After college, Miles continued his binge drinking habits, eventually leading to a daily consumption of alcohol and the introduction of other substances. The pressures of adulthood, coupled with personal struggles, further fueled his addiction. Turning Point Miles discusses his decision to relocate to Florida, which served as a catalyst for change in his life. Through personal development, meditation, and physical fitness, he began to rebuild his life and work towards sobriety. Finding Purpose As Miles embarked on his journey to recovery, he discovered a passion for coaching and helping others. By sharing his story and creating a platform for mindfulness and self-awareness, he found a sense of purpose in guiding individuals towards a better life. Reflection on Family Miles reflects on his relationship with his mother and the impact of her addiction on their family dynamic. Despite the challenges, he acknowledges the importance of compassion and understanding in healing past wounds. Advice for Others Miles emphasizes the significance of seeking support and community when facing addiction. He encourages individuals to reach out for help, embrace patience, and believe in the possibility of change. Miles’ details Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/miles.orman/?hl=en Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@miles_orman Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/ Add Stack’n’days to your calendar: https://id.podcal.app/1668847465.ics Instructions: Apple Calendar (iOS): Click “Calendars” > “Add Calendar” > “Add Subscription Calendar,” then provide the URL above Apple Calendar (macOS): File > “New Calendar Subscription,” then provide the URL above. Google Calendar: Go to calendar.google.com > “Other calendars” > “+” > “From URL,” then provide the URL above
What is the worst thing you have done under the influence of alcohol? Is it manslaughter? Martin Lockett shares his story of becoming aware of systemic racism from a young age, a yearning to fit in, being in a gang and eventually doing something that would put him behind bars for almost 20 years. He took his time in prison as an opportunity to work on himself, heal and help others. Martin’s Toolkit Education: Martin used education as a tool in his recovery by taking college courses while in prison. Spirituality: Martin returned to his Christian roots, reading the Bible, praying, and having fellowship with others in prison. Self-reflection: Martin engaged in self-reflection to understand the impact of his actions and to determine how he could make a positive impact moving forward. Mission and Purpose: Martin made it his mission to help others struggling with addiction and mental health issues, turning the tragedy into a purpose for his life. Identity Formation: Through education and self-reflection, Martin worked on establishing a healthy identity as a black man in America, which contributed to his overall well-being and recovery. Counseling: Martin utilized counseling services as part of his recovery, later becoming a counselor himself. AA: Martin attends Alcoholics Anonymous meetings regularly. Martin's Early Life and Struggles Martin shares his upbringing in Portland, Oregon, during the 80s, a time marked by gang violence, drug epidemics, and racial tensions. He reflects on the impact of his environment on his self-esteem and identity formation, leading to a struggle with alcohol from a young age. The Tragic Turn Martin recounts the fateful New Year's Eve in 2003 when he, under the influence of alcohol, caused a fatal car crash that took the lives of two individuals who had, ironically, dedicated their lives to sobriety and community service. After realizing the gravity of his actions, Martin vows to honor the legacies of the victims by dedicating his life to helping others struggling with addiction and mental health issues. This commitment becomes his driving force as he navigates the legal consequences and begins his journey towards rehabilitation. Educational Pursuits and Personal Growth Despite facing a lengthy prison sentence, Martin seizes the opportunity to further his education while incarcerated. He immerses himself in college courses, delving into African American studies and psychology, which not only enhances his academic knowledge but also fosters a positive sense of identity and self-esteem. Martin’s Details Instagram: @martinllockett Website: https://www.martinlockett.com/ Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/ Add Stack’n’days to your calendar: https://id.podcal.app/1668847465.ics Instructions: Apple Calendar (iOS): Click “Calendars” > “Add Calendar” > “Add Subscription Calendar,” then provide the URL above Apple Calendar (macOS): File > “New Calendar Subscription,” then provide the URL above. Google Calendar: Go to calendar.google.com > “Other calendars” > “+” > “From URL,” then provide the URL above
In this episode of Stack'n'Days, host Ray Donovan interviews Kelvin Young, a recovery coach and entrepreneur, about his path to sobriety. Kelvin's story highlights transformation and liberation from addiction, emphasizing the importance of community support and holistic approaches to healing. Kelvin’s sobriety toolkit Drug treatment program: Kelvin participated in a drug treatment program while in prison, which helped him understand addiction and its impact on his life. Yoga: Kelvin practiced yoga as a way to connect with his body and find inner peace. He initially had misconceptions about yoga but found it to be a powerful tool for healing. Meditation: Kelvin started practicing meditation to calm his mind and go within. It allowed him to process his emotions and find a sense of calmness, even in a restrictive environment like prison. Sound healing: Kelvin utilized sound healing, specifically crystal singing bowls and Himalayan singing bowls, to open up his emotions and release suppressed feelings. Sound healing helped him connect with his inner self and find a sense of relief from emotional distress. Creative expressive arts: Kelvin engaged in creative expressive arts like poetry and journaling to process his emotions and experiences. Writing poetry was particularly therapeutic for him. Sobriety support: Kelvin sought support from recovery coaches and organizations like Access to Recovery and Connecticut Community for Addiction Recovery. These support systems provided him with guidance, resources, and a sense of community during his reentry into society. Reevaluating language and identity: Kelvin shifted his mindset and language around addiction. Instead of identifying as an addict or alcoholic, he focused on his identity as a person in recovery. Building sober community: Kelvin connected with other sober individuals, particularly Black men, to create a support network. These connections allowed for open conversations about addiction, trauma, and healing within the Black community. Addressing root causes: Kelvin emphasized the importance of addressing the root causes of addiction, such as trauma and emotional distress. Kelvin's Background Kelvin grew up in a strict religious household, struggling with mental health issues and low self-esteem. He turned to alcohol and drugs to cope with his pain and fit in with his peers. Initially social drinking, Kelvin's addiction escalated to cocaine, heroin and other drugs as he faced more challenges and traumas. Multiple incarcerations made him realize the harm his addiction caused, especially to his daughter. Holistic Healing in Prison In prison, Kelvin underwent a transformative drug treatment program, discovering holistic practices like yoga and meditation. These tools helped him confront suppressed emotions and connect with his inner self. Reentry Challenges and Community Support After release, Kelvin navigated reentering society with support from organizations like Access to Recovery. He formed Sober Black Men, a support group fostering open dialogue about sobriety in the Black community. The Power of Sound Healing Kelvin found solace in sound healing, using singing bowls to facilitate emotional release and inner connection. This practice remains a cornerstone of his journey and advocacy for holistic healing. Kelvin’s Details Website: https://soulcarelovellc.com/ Cacao mix: https://soulcarelovellc.com/cacao-mix Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesobersoundhealer/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuva2PHsgY_nTulv71W7mMQ Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/
After 27 years of sobriety Tammi Scott has definitely learned a few things. She shares her experience and advice with Ray in this week’s Stack’n’Days podcast. She talks about her journey from being a single mother of three to getting sober in a 12 step program, from connecting with herself through yoga to becoming a teacher and a mentor in the sobriety space and eventually comin home to herself. Throughout the episode she talks about her experience as a black woman in the US and this ties in with her journey. Tammi’s Toolkit: 12 steps program Yoga Therapy Writing Learning about self compassion Hiking Community The Early Struggles Tammi opens up about her early days as a single mother of three, using alcohol and drugs to cope. Overwhelmed and internally struggling, it took a therapist's insight to link her substance use with her depression, sparking the beginning of her self-discovery journey. The 12-Step Program Tammi shares her journey into the transformative 12-step program, underscoring its pivotal role in her recovery. Her first AA meeting marked a turning point, providing a sense of community and resonant stories. Tammi stresses the importance of supportive communities and mentors in the recovery process. Holistic Healing As Tammi progressed in recovery, she explored holistic healing modalities like yoga and writing. These practices deepened her self-understanding and offered comfort and grounding. Tammi emphasizes the significance of self-compassion and cultivating kindness towards oneself. Ongoing Growth Throughout the episode, Tammi acknowledges that recovery is an ongoing process. She urges mindfulness against complacency and emphasizes prioritizing sobriety, even during stable periods. Healing as a Woman of Color Tammi's experience as a woman of color has had a significant impact on her journey of recovery. Throughout her early days of sobriety, she faced the double-edged sword of being a person of color in predominantly white spaces. She felt the weight of societal expectations and the lack of support for women of color in professional settings. This added layer of complexity made it challenging for Tammi to fully express herself and find her place in the recovery community. Additionally, the racial injustices and violence against people of color deeply affected her, but she struggled to find understanding and empathy within the 12-step community. Despite these obstacles, Tammi has persevered and found her own path to healing and self-discovery, embracing her identity as a black woman and using her experiences to uplift and support others. Current Involvements Tammi is actively involved in facilitating sober support community meetings and co-teaching online sober courses both at The Luckiest Club. Her passion lies in sharing experiences and assisting others in their recovery journeys. Tammi plans to teach yoga, focusing on heart-centered work and creating spaces for healing and self-discovery. Tammi’s details Instagram: @QueenieT_ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alwayseverinward?mibextid=ZbWKwL Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/ Add Stack’n’days to your calendar: https://id.podcal.app/1668847465.ics Instructions: Apple Calendar (iOS): Click “Calendars” > “Add Calendar” > “Add Subscription Calendar,” then provide the URL above Apple Calendar (macOS): File > “New Calendar Subscription,” then provide the URL above. Google Calendar: Go to calendar.google.com > “Other calendars” > “+” > “From URL,” then provide the URL above
Alcohol and music go hand in hand, especially for singer songwriters. Conversely it is music that enabled Aliah Sheffield to pursue a life of sobriety by providing her with an outlet for her feelings. In this episode Aliah vulnerably discusses her music career, her big feelings, social anxiety and stage fright finding community in a way that works for her. Aliyah unfolds her story, starting with the age of 21 when she began drinking while performing in bars and working as a singer. Alcohol became her coping mechanism for social anxiety and stage fright, a crutch in a world saturated with the substance. The Turning Point The pivotal moment in Aliyah's journey occurred during the pandemic when she moved to Mexico. Realizing the extent of her drinking problem, she embarked on a solo journey to sobriety. Achieving three months of sobriety became a turning point, leading her to confront the mental aspects of her relationship with alcohol and seek therapy. Embracing Emotions Aliyah shares her newfound coping mechanisms, discussing how she confronts emotions and anxiety without alcohol. Her creative outlet involves expressing emotions through music. She has also found solace in herbal teas, particularly chamomile and lavender, as a replacement for alcohol. Navigating the Urge Despite ongoing challenges, Aliyah has learned to respond differently to thoughts and urges to drink. Engaging in activities such as songwriting, reading, and using calming lavender products helps her navigate these moments. Aliyah acknowledges that the journey to sobriety is a continuous path of healing. Community and Connection Aliyah emphasizes the importance of a supportive community during the sobriety journey. While not actively participating in AA or sobriety groups, she connects with like-minded individuals through her music and social media. She mentions the Sober for Black Girls Club as a resource she finds useful. Connect with Aliyah Sheffield Website: www.Aliyahsheffield.com Instagram: @Aliyah.sheffield Twitter: @Aliyah_music Facebook: facebook.com/Aliahsheffieldmusic TikTok: tiktok.com/@aliahsheffield Twitter: twitter.com/aliahsheffield Patreon: patreon.com/user?u=50447001 Linktree: linktr.ee/nikkialiah Listen to Aliyah's Music: https://www.youtube.com/@AliahSheffield https://music.apple.com/ie/album/these-songs-are-for-anyone-sick-of-earth/1690652289 https://music.apple.com/us/album/never-drinking-again/1690652289?i=1690652633 [Closing Music] https://youtu.be/DchKjpL02ks?feature=shared Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/ Add Stack’n’days to your calendar: https://id.podcal.app/1668847465.ics Instructions: Apple Calendar (iOS): Click “Calendars” > “Add Calendar” > “Add Subscription Calendar,” then provide the URL above Apple Calendar (macOS): File > “New Calendar Subscription,” then provide the URL above. Google Calendar: Go to calendar.google.com > “Other calendars” > “+” > “From URL,” then provide the URL above
You don’t have to be “an alcoholic” to benefit from cutting out alcohol. In this episode Ken Makimsey Middleton talks about how quitting alcohol radically increased the positives in his life, and caused his business to grow exponentially. He also talks about how quitting alcohol has positively impacted his mental clarity, his health and his professional life. Ken's Journey with Alcohol Ray and Ken explore the roots of Ken’s relationship with alcohol. Ken candidly shares how he used alcohol in college as a means to boost his confidence and fit into social circles. This pattern persisted throughout his career in sales, where alcohol was deeply ingrained in the job culture. The Turning Point in 2017 In a pivotal moment in 2017, Ken decided to depart from his corporate role and embark on an entrepreneurial journey. He made the bold decision to abstain from alcohol for 90 days as he wanted to give his business his best effort. To his surprise, this experiment brought about substantial positive changes in his life, both professionally and personally. The financial gains, mental sharpness, and an enhanced sense of purpose made him reevaluate the role of alcohol in his life. Creating "Alcohol Is Not Your Friend" and "Bamboozled" Inspired by his transformative experience, Ken launched the Alcohol Is Not Your Friend publication on Medium. He also penned a book titled Bamboozled: How Alcohol Makes Fools of Us All, combining scientific insights and personal anecdotes to shed light on the adverse effects of alcohol. Ken stresses that his mission is not to enforce abstinence but to empower individuals with knowledge to make informed decisions. Navigating Corporate Pressure Ray and Ken address the unique challenges faced by people of color in the corporate world, and about how the pressure to conform to drinking norms can be overwhelming. Ken advocates for increased representation and awareness, urging society to reevaluate its relationship with alcohol and acknowledge its detrimental effects on individuals and communities. Practical Sobriety Tips Ken offers practical advice for those contemplating sobriety, suggesting a 90-day challenge. He encourages daily exercise, exploring quit-lit books for education, and pursuing hobbies to fill the void left by alcohol. These activities contribute not only to sobriety but also personal growth and well-being. Ken’s details Websites: https://www.dry90.com/ https://thebamboozledbook.com/ Book: https://www.amazon.com/Bamboozled-How-Alcohol-Makes-Fools-ebook/dp/B0C15PM1T8#:~:text=Bamboozled%20is%20a%20transformative%20guide,thing%20holding%20them%20back%20%2D%20alcohol. Alcohol is not your friend: https://ainyf.com/ IG: @kenmmiddleton @bamboozledbook Tiktok: @thekenmmiddleton Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/ Add Stack’n’days to your calendar: https://id.podcal.app/1668847465.ics Instructions: Apple Calendar (iOS): Click “Calendars” > “Add Calendar” > “Add Subscription Calendar,” then provide the URL above Apple Calendar (macOS): File > “New Calendar Subscription,” then provide the URL above. Google Calendar: Go to calendar.google.com > “Other calendars” > “+” > “From URL,” then provide the URL above
This episode features a compelling and inspiring conversation with recovery coach Caleb Harris. Joining host Ray Donovan Caleb share’s his history of alcohol starting aged 10, feeling too black for the white kids and too white for the black kids, pornography addiction and navigating the difference between spirituality and organized religion. Early Introduction to Alcohol Caleb opens up about his early encounter with alcohol at the tender age of 10, highlighting how it became a coping mechanism for him. As a young black boy, he shares his struggles of not feeling like he fit in anywhere, setting the stage for increased drinking during his formative teenage years and college. Impact on Relationships and Well-Being Caleb reflects on the profound impact his alcohol use had on various aspects of his life, from relationships to education and overall well-being. Caleb bravely shares the turning point in his life when he decided to quit drinking on January 2, 2019, emphasizing the importance of taking the recovery process one day at a time. Faith and Addiction As the son of a pastor, Caleb explores the challenges of reconciling his faith with the struggles of addiction. He sheds light on the lack of support and understanding within the church regarding addiction and mental health issues within the black community. Porn Addiction Caleb started to notice similar patterns in how he treated porn to how he treated alcohol. He saw it as another way of escaping the real world for a fantasy world. Recovery Program Caleb attended a faith based recovery program called Celebrate Recovery by the Church of Nazarene. He said that while it is faith based it was not judgemental in any way. Becoming a Recovery Coach Today, Caleb is a recovery coach and life coach, dedicating his efforts to helping black men navigate their journeys to sobriety and mental well-being. He discusses the significance of community, vulnerability, and self-care in the recovery process, drawing attention to faith-based programs like Celibate Recovery and other resources that provide safe spaces for open and honest conversations. Tools for Managing Mental Health Caleb shares the tools he uses in his own life, including prayer, meditation, physical exercise, and positive self-talk, as effective means of managing depression, anxiety, and stress. He encourages black men to break the cycle of silence and seek help when needed. The Larger Message Caleb's story illuminates the challenges faced by black men in addressing addiction and mental health issues within the context of their communities and faith. He provides hope and encouragement to those struggling, reminding them that they are not alone and that there is a path to recovery and healing. Caleb’s details Instagram: @amannamedcaleb Website: https://linktr.ee/charr8 Books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Caleb-Harris/author/B079J3PTT3?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/ Add Stack’n’days to your calendar: https://id.podcal.app/1668847465.ics Instructions: Apple Calendar (iOS): Click “Calendars” > “Add Calendar” > “Add Subscription Calendar,” then provide the URL above Apple Calendar (macOS): File > “New Calendar Subscription,” then provide the URL above. Google Calendar: Go to calendar.google.com > “Other calendars” > “+” > “From URL,” then provide the URL above
In this episode of Stack'n'Days, host Ray Donovan sits down with Chris Marshall, a remarkable individual on a transformative journey of sobriety and recovery. Recorded, once again, in Kenya, this conversation delves into Chris's experiences with alcohol, his desire for connections, the challenges he faced as a black man in the recovery community, and the inspiring creation of Sans Bar. Chris’s First Experience with Alcohol Chris opens up about his introduction to alcohol at the age of 16, driven by a desire to fit in with his white friends. Despite initial disgust at the taste, he found a sense of connection through drinking. The conversation explores the rapid escalation of Chris's drinking habits, leading to a DUI and strained relationships. The First Attempt at Treatment At 23, Chris sought treatment for the first time but left prematurely, lacking full commitment to sobriety. Recognizing the need for change, he re-entered treatment a few months later, determined to stay sober. This marked the beginning of a journey towards belonging and connection within the recovery community. Trust and Belonging in Recovery Chris emphasizes the importance of trust, both in himself and in others, as a crucial element of his recovery journey. He shares insights into the challenges faced as a black man in the recovery community, particularly in Texas. Despite feeling like an outsider, Chris found support from other black individuals in recovery who understood his unique experiences. The Birth of Sans Bar In the latter part of the episode, Chris delves into the creation of Sans Bar in 2017, an alcohol-free space that stemmed from his desire to establish a fully accepting environment. Sans Bar was conceived as a space where individuals could be their authentic selves without leaving any part of their identity behind. Chris attributes the inspiration for Sans Bar to the support and love he received from others during his own recovery journey. Chris’s details: San’s Bar website: https://www.thesansbar.com/ Instagram: @San_bar Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/ Add Stack’n’days to your calendar: https://id.podcal.app/1668847465.ics Instructions: Apple Calendar (iOS): Click “Calendars” > “Add Calendar” > “Add Subscription Calendar,” then provide the URL above Apple Calendar (macOS): File > “New Calendar Subscription,” then provide the URL above. Google Calendar: Go to calendar.google.com > “Other calendars” > “+” > “From URL,” then provide the URL above
Welcome back to the second part of Joanne's extraordinary journey. In this episode of the Stack’n’Days podcast Joanne continues her chat with Ray. Joanne share’s about getting out of one last harmful relationship, her suicide support organisation and starting a non-alcoholic wine business. In part 1, Joanne shared about her childhood, her early experiences with alcohol, her son's death and her eventual sobriety as well as her experiences with several unhealthy relationships. We finished up as she was telling us about opening a BBQ restaurant with her partner at the time. Navigating Toxic Relationships Joanne, our resilient guest, takes us through a tumultuous period in her life, entangled in a toxic relationship. Dealing with narcissism, she reflects on the toll it took on her mental health. After two challenging years, she found the strength to walk away from both the relationship and her restaurant. Choosing Sobriety Amid Turmoil In the face of the narcissistic storm, Joanne emphasizes her unwavering commitment to sobriety. She reflects on how the memory of past struggles fueled her determination to never let alcohol regain control. From Loss to Resilience The aftermath of leaving both the toxic relationship and her restaurant unfolds, leading to a period of negotiation and financial settlements. Joanne finds herself devastated, losing her dream restaurant and moving back to Austin. Yet, from this loss, unexpected opportunities arise, showcasing her resilience. A Culinary Comeback Joanne, undeterred by setbacks, finds herself drawn back into the world of barbecue. A chance encounter with a passionate individual eager to pursue a career in barbecue, sparks a collaboration that evolves into a successful partnership named Barb's BQ. Mental Health Advocacy Joanne sheds light on the mental health community page she runs called "A Safe Place Inside Your Head," raising awareness about mental health issues, inspired by personal struggles inspired by the tragic loss of her son. Serial Entrepreneurship Joanne's journey extends into various realms, showcasing her as a serial entrepreneur. From somatic breathwork coaching and real estate to NLP-certified coaching, she exemplifies a commitment to personal growth and continuous learning. Zero Proof Champion A chance encounter with a zero-proof wine sparks Joanne's entry into the alcohol-free beverage business. Leveraging her entrepreneurial spirit, she becomes a champion for zero-proof options, organizing events and introducing others to the world of non-alcoholic alternatives. Sobriety as the Cornerstone Joanne attributes her myriad successes to her sobriety. The blessings that continue to unfold serve as a testament to her unwavering commitment to a sober lifestyle. Her openness about mental health struggles becomes a powerful tool for self-expression and connection. Joanne’s details: Instagram Personal: @therealjoirizarry NA wines: @zeroproofpopupbottleshop Mental health page: @asafeplaceinsideyourhead Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/ Add Stack’n’days to your calendar: https://id.podcal.app/1668847465.ics Instructions: Apple Calendar (iOS): Click “Calendars” > “Add Calendar” > “Add Subscription Calendar,” then provide the URL above Apple Calendar (macOS): File > “New Calendar Subscription,” then provide the URL above. Google Calendar: Go to calendar.google.com > “Other calendars” > “+” > “From URL,” then provide the URL above
Welcome to Stack'n'Days, the podcast that illuminates experiences of sobriety within the BIPOC community. In this special episode, the host, Ray Donovan, is recording in Lamu, Kenya, joined by guest Joanne. This is part 1 of a 2 part series with Joanne. This episode provides an in-depth exploration of Joanne's journey with alcohol—navigating trauma, abusive relationships, and the profound impact on personal and professional aspects of her life. Joanne's Journey Unveiled Joanne opens up about her relationship with alcohol, tracing it back to her first drink at a church event during her teenage years. She candidly shares the challenges she faced after her family moved from New York to Texas for religious reasons, expressing feelings of unsafety and trauma. Joanne also delves into the instability brought about by her parents' divorce and her mother leaving the family. Culinary Pursuits and Escalating Issues Relocating to Austin, Texas, for culinary school did not mark the end of Joanne's struggles. Working as a personal chef for football players, her drinking persisted, and she felt increasingly powerless. Her son faced similar challenges with drugs and alcohol. Desperate Measures and Turning Points Desperation led Joanne to attend AA meetings, but she found it challenging to connect with the community. The fear of intervention, triggered by watching the show "Intervention," added to her apprehension. Months later, Joanne faced the consequences of her actions when she received her first DWI (Driving While Intoxicated). Descent into Chaos Joanne finds herself entangled in the legal consequences of her drinking. Facing not one but two DWIs, Joanne is forced to spend three days in jail, grappling with fear and uncertainty. The impact of her actions starts to unfold as she navigates the legal system, confronting the reality of probation and the challenges that lie ahead. Tragedy Strikes Amidst the chaos, a tragic turn of events shakes Joanne to her core. The podcast delves into the heartbreaking moment when Joanne receives news of her son's death while she's in jail. The emotional turmoil and shock of losing her son add a new layer to Joanne's struggle, reshaping her perspective and further intensifying her commitment to sobriety. Navigating Grief and Sobriety Joanne speaks about coping with grief. As she confronts the complexities of loss, Joanne grapples with the temptation to numb her pain with alcohol, a familiar coping mechanism that had once dominated her life. From Rock Bottom to Resilience Joanne discusses her rock-bottom moments, including the challenges of probation and having an ankle monitor. Joanne's resilience shines through as she shares the profound realization that she needed to stop drinking to rebuild her life. Joanne went through detox, rehab, and a transformative experience that alters her perspective on spirituality and recovery. Building a New Chapter Against all odds, Joanne and her partner embark on the ambitious journey of opening a barbecue restaurant. The challenges of venturing into an unfamiliar field, coupled with their commitment to sobriety, make for a captivating tale of resilience, determination, and the pursuit of a brighter future. Part 2 of Joanne’s story will be out next Wednesday 27th December at 5am. Subscribe to the Stack’n’Days podcast so you don’t miss it. Joanne’s details: Instagram Personal: @therealjoirizarry NA wines: @zeroproofpopupbottleshop Mental health page: @asafeplaceinsideyourhead Connect with the show Website: https://www.stackndays.com/ Apply to be a guest: https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1 Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ Resources https://www.samhsa.gov/ https://www.joinreframeapp.com/ https://www.theluckiestclub.com/ https://www.aa.org/