Get your free taster of the Stop people Pleasing Reset programme here: https://www.theshiftinside.com/tryreset/ How would you like to go from being ruled by your limiting beliefs to not only replacing them, but have a focus on the future and the life that you want to create? How would you like to replace all the time you spend trying to fit in, but feeling like an outsider and resenting people for not accepting you? No. And how about breaking the unhelpful invisible contracts you've had with others? Contracts that allowed them to walk all over you. How would you like to finally honour your true nature? No matter what other people think. How would you like to set stronger boundaries without feeling that it has to be going to war with other people? What about neutralizing self sabotage, the self sabotage that says you're not allowed to stand up for yourself? And getting rid of imposter syndrome and managing overwhelm. Well, all this is available to you in the Stop People Pleasing Reset. This is an online self study course that you just take at your own pace. It's out now, but I have a special offer for you if you're listening to this now at the end of June or beginning of July 2024. I am offering a maximum of eight people the chance to join me on two 90 minute Zoom calls. Sun 21st July at 8am UK, repeated at 8pm UK And Saturday 10th August at 8am UK, repeated at 8pm UK And what I'm going to do in these sessions is help you explore your fear of boundary setting using two processes not covered in the online programme. Here's The Deal You get the course and I want you to go through three modules. - about half an hour to 40 minutes of video content each. Give me full honest feedback and I will take you through these two powerful processes. Free Taster: https://www.theshiftinside.com/tryreset/ Details of the full programme: https://www.theshiftinside.com/thereset/
Be sociable…on your terms. Parties: most empaths and highly sensitive people have a biiiiiig problem with them, due to massive sensory overload. The noise. The crowds. The music. Waaaay toooo muuuuch. But never fear, for Harriet is here! Why should you have to carry all the overwhelm of the party, then reach a point where you can no longer stand it and just walk out, taking a boatload of guilt that doesn't belong to you? There is a better way, which I describe in this episode. Harriet Morris Email info (at) theshiftinside dot com
Send me your most annoying narc phrases to decode! Email info (at) theshiftinside dot com The Stop People Pleasing Podcast is back :) Standing up to narcissistic behaviour starts with getting some distance…and what better way to do that than to decode the same old same old nonsense you've heard a million times before. In this episode, I give you three translations of things that narcissists commonly say. Warning! The sarcasm level goes through the roof. My hope is that you will feel lighter and maybe even chuckle. What better way to stand up to these self-centred ego merchants than with a bit of humour 🙂 Cheers now Harriet Morris Wellness Coach helping empaths and HSPs stand up for themselves and navigate a world that doesn't understand them
Have you ever thought that a powerful and liberating reframe to stop people pleasing is to focus on protecting your energy? You defocus on conflict and trying to change other people, and pivot to how you are showing up. This is completely independent of others' ideas and how much - or little- they agree or understand the new stopped people pleasing you. Sound good? In this episode I explore three very different ways to do this. My email address is info {at} theshiftinside.com - use the subject line PROTECT Check out The Motivational Fasting podcast.
https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/ has all the details about the September Stop People Pleasing group coaching Launchpad. Today I talk about a question I used to ask myself when I was mired in people pleasing, and give you a MUCH better alternative. Find out what it is in this minisode. Doors close for the launchpad at 9.30pm UK time tonight 31st August.
Heads up! https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/ Places are now open for the September group coaching programme. Today we discuss empath confidence. Many pieces of advice around improving your sense of self are written by , and for, non empaths...and are likely yo leave you feeling inadequate. The truth is that you need tailor-made ideas for dealing with a world that is not set up for you. I give you some ideas for developing this skill. Launchpad Group Coaching Programme Find out more at https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/ In only 30 days, go from putting everyone else's needs before your own to honouring and standing up for yourself - without it being a struggle. What You Will Learn: *How to reduce overwhelm *Rock solid empath confidence *How to stop wasting your energy living in reaction *Change how you show up with family and friends *How to say no to people without fear of conflict *How change the silent agreements you have with people, often without them even noticing! *Transform how you see yourself in a month *Share your fears in the welcoming environment of the group, gain inspiration from their wins - and have your achievements recognised *Work out if people around you are Well Meaning Energy Drainers https://www.stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/
https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/ has all the details of September's Stop People Pleasing launchpad group coaching programme. Starts Wed 1st :) Today a short story called The Lie, with a twist in the tale. You might not like the twist, but if you want to stop people's good intentions draining the life out of you, listen up! Harriet Morris info (at) theshiftinside.com
Heads up! https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/ Places are now open for the September group coaching programme. Episode #33 - The Empath Drama Triangle In this fourth part of this series on the key skills to stop people pleasing, we look at what the drama triangle is , and dive into its variant that every empath must learn about. Launchpad Group Coaching Programme Find out more at https://www.theshiftinside.com/launchpad/ In only 30 days, go from putting everyone else's needs before your own to honouring and standing up for yourself - without it being a struggle. What You Will Learn: *How to reduce overwhelm *Rock solid empath confidence *How to stop wasting your energy living in reaction *Change how you show up with family and friends *How to say no to people without fear of conflict *How change the silent agreements you have with people, often without them even noticing! *Transform how you see yourself in a month *Share your fears in the welcoming environment of the group, gain inspiration from their wins - and have your achievements recognised *Work out if people around you are Well Meaning Energy Drainers https://www.stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/
Today in installment #3 of our series on developing the key skills for stopping people pleasing, we discuss Askholes, and especially emotional ones. What are they? And why does recognising them matter in this area of life? All is revealed today. Harriet Morris Ex People Pleaser in Chief Email: info (at) theshiftinside dot com
Today is the second part of this week's series on the key skills of stopping people pleasing. Today I reframe oversensitivity as hyperreactivity and explain why it is a much more useful and kind way to think about this issue. Harriet Morris info {at} theshiftinside.com https://www.stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/
This is an empath's dilemma, set in an escape room. The question is: What would you do? This is the first of a series of minisodes coming to you daily this week around the key skills needed to stop people pleasing. Answer coming to you tomorrow! Harriet Morris https://www.stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/ Contact me: info (at) theshiftinside.com
Go to https://yourquiz.scoreapp.com/ to do the quiz: Are you ready to stop people pleasing? Today's episode is a look at Paul Thomas Anderson's 2017 film Phantom Thread through the lens of stopping people pleasing. WARNING: SPOILER ALERT! I talk about the lessons, as well as the ANTI lessons for you. This will be an especially important episode if you have ever got caught up in a relationship where there was a power imbalance. For example: How easy it is to fall under the spell of a brilliant wo/man What the 1950s setting is a metaphor of An alternative to having power over someone else The meaning of Alma and Cyril as lessons and anti lessons Where boundary setting comes into all this For more info on coaching go to https://www.theshiftinside.com/stop/ Email me: info (at) theshiftinside dot com
https://yourquiz.scoreapp.com/ is your Transformation Quiz to help you determine if you are actually ready to stop people pleasing. FILM OF THE WEEK …is The Hudsucker Proxy, a total joy of a film that will put a spring in your step. Are You Ready To Stop People Pleasing? Today I talk about the difference between wanting to stop people pleasing and actually being ready. I give you a thought-provoking question to give you some clarity here. Don't forget to take the quiz here: https://yourquiz.scoreapp.com/ Next episode will be a spoiler-tastic review the film Phantom Thread. Here's the trailer: https://youtu.be/xNsiQMeSvMk You can watch it on Iplayer if you are in the UK.
Better than I think at WHAT, Harriet??? All will be revealed There is still time to get access to the Boundary Setting 101 week videos - completely free Watch masterclass 1 now: https://www.theshiftinside.com/freed/ Film of The Week: The Half Of It, directed by Alice Wu. 3 reasons I love this film: #1 It disrupts the rom-com cliches you will be used to #2 Everyone is basically decent #3 It pokes fun at narcissism
https://www.theshiftinside.com/freed/ - yes it's Boundary Setting 101 Week soon! Today is a follow on from the last episode on overwhelm which you can listen to at https://stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/24-how-to-stop-feeling-overwhelmed The key to today's teaching is to accept the invitation inherent in overwhelm. I discuss what that could be. QUOTE OF THE WEEK Comes from The Language of Emotions by Karla Mclaren MORE ABOUT BOUNDARY SETTING 101 WEEK Q: WHAT IS IT? A: Three free masterclasses to help you start setting empowering boundaries, even if you feel like you are no good at this skill. You can attend on Zoom or get the videos in your inbox. Q; WHAT'S IN THE MASTERCLASSES? Masterclass 1 ~ Turn Down The Volume on Your Fear of Setting Boundaries Discover why you are already better than you think at boundary setting, and learn all about your fear centre. Something akin to a blind and stubborn bouncer living inside your head, your fear centre is actually trying to protect you by resisting setting boundaries. By the end of this session, you will understand how you have more influence over this part of your mind than you think. Masterclass 2 ~ Setting Your First Empowering Boundary Learn what the crucial difference is between reactive and empowering boundary setting. In this liberating masterclass, I take all the pressure off this challenge in two important ways that allow you to step into your power. Masterclass 3 ~ From Struggle To Adventure How to reframe this skill so that it excites you instead of fills you with dread. Step two foot to the side of the nonsense your inner critic tells you as we uses two powerful and inspirational reframes that will make you want to stretch your comfort zone. Q: HOW DO I ACCESS THE MASTERCLASSES? Make sure you sign up https://www.theshiftinside.com/freed/ You can attend on Zoom or get the videos in your inbox.
Ever felt so weighed down by everything in your life that you fantasised about breaking your leg, just to give yourself some time out of life? Well, I have. I talk about a more constructive way of lightening your load… Today is the first part of two episodes where I explain three ways to stop feeling so overwhelmed. Overwhelm is a very common side effect of people pleasing – but guess what? You need to create some mental and emotional space to start showing up differently – and that means dealing with overwhelm. POWER MOVE OF THE WEEK …sounds so boring that I am not going to tell you what it is, but is so powerful that you won't want to miss it once I explain why it is so awesome. Trust me on this! TWO STRATEGIES TO STOP FEELING SO OVERWHELMED #1 Filter very carefully what media you expose yourself to. This is a very personal thing. Also, you may want to think about how you consume news for example. Print is easier to deal with than moving images. Not all violent media deserves a blanket ban from me. I really got a lot out of Fight Club for example. Certain clients love thrillers – and so do I – if I have vetted them. #2 Overwhelm Circuit Breakers These are actions you can take to reduce overwhelm, whatever the root cause of your stress. Listen for examples of this, plus some uncommon wisdom about managing the stress hormone cortisol RESOURCES Boundary setting 101 Week https://www.theshiftinside.com/freed/ Cavebrain episode https://stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/17-what-is-cavebrain-and-why-it-matters-in-stopping-pleasing One-to-one empath coaching: https://www.theshiftinside.com/stop/
I am hosting an informal coffee chat on Zoom tomorrow Wednesday 28th April. It will last about 45 minutes. No cost. No need to register - just turn up. Bring your favourite beverage! When is it? Because of the different time zones of my listeners, I'll be doing this twice - at 11am UK time then again at 8pm UK time You can check the time in your own time zone here https://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/converter.html Here are the links and passcodes 11AM CHAT https://us02web.zoom.us/j/88918134729 Passcode 4321 8PM CHAT https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87373610264 Passcode 4321 Why Do This? Because it is an opportunity to ask me any questions or discuss anything you hear on the podcast Because I really enjoy meeting my listeners and getting to know more about what they want. I am obsessed with quality podcasting, so the better episodes I can produce, the happier I am :) Because I often share about experiences that I would not talk about publicly Because it will probably be really fun! Because you never know what you might learn or think of as a result Because I think it is is so important for us empaths to get together in a way that is super empowering
Google advantages of being an empath and you will get a laundry list of benefits: intuition, ability to connect, an understanding of animals and so forth. In today's episode, I want to look at some lesser known positives which may get you thinking more deeply about this topic. HEADS UP: LET'S DO COFFEE I am hosting two coffee chats on Zoom next Wednesday 28th April at 11am and 8pm UK time. Check your own time zone. No need to book, just turn up with your favourite beverage. You can get the link if you join the Stop people Pleasing Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/stoppeoplepleasingclan Or you will get an email if you previously attended a Zoom with me or have downloaded my free Lifesaver 10 phrasebook for empaths. Get yours here https://www.theshiftinside.com/lifesaver/ Interview of The Week Today's interview of the week comes from the brilliant Comedian's Comedian podcast and features Dave Gorman. I talk about how Dave shares about the comedic power of vulnerability on stage https://www.comedianscomedian.com/161-dave-gorman-live-at-soho-theatre/ I also talk about belonging and give it a slant that I don't think you will have been aware of. RESOURCES More details about one-to-one coaching: https://www.theshiftinside.com/stop/ Episode 2: What Is A Rebel Empath? https://stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/02-what-is-a-rebel-queen-empath Episode 17 on Cavebrain https://stoppeoplepleasingshow.com/17-what-is-cavebrain-and-why-it-matters-in-stopping-pleasing Email me : info [at] theshiftinside dot com
HEADS UP! - BOUNDARIES COURSE COMING I am in the process of creating a course on setting better boundaries. At the moment I want your feedback. Here are the problems that I see block empaths from creating boundaries. Do these resonate with you? Give me your feedback by emailing me info {at} theshiftinside.com or join the SPP Facebook group (link below) #1 I really wish I could stand up for myself, but I don't know how #2 It would be difficult to set boundaries with X, because s/he has a hard life and they really need me. How could I do that to them? #3 Setting boundaries equals creating massive conflict, which scares me #4 I am resentful that people do not give me the time and attention I give them - why should I have to set a boundary? #5 I feel too overwhelmed to do this work, and end up stuck giving too much energy away. It's catch 22. #6 I am so hurt by how narcissists and energy vampires treat me, it's kind of paralysing. Catch 22 - nothing changes. #7 I can't deal with the negative comeback I would get if I did set boundaries. ................................... Lauren Amman Interview In this interview, coach and ex-people pleaser Lauren Ammon shares about *How her entire previous career – HR - was born out of people pleasing *How her empath nature led to overwork *How she changed to living life on her own terms *Taking responsibility for the way she was showing up with others *Her fears about changing careers RESOURCES Connect with Lauren Ammon https://www.laurenammon.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurenammon/ Join The Stop People Pleasing Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/stoppeoplepleasingtribe Lifesaver 10 download https://www.theshiftinside.com/lifesaver/ Email Info @theshiftinside.com
Yes, you heard that right! You can stop people pleasing by watching TV. Well, almost... Find out how you can use your favourite films and documentaries to lay the groundwork for standing up for yourself as an empath or highly sensitive person. This is a continuation of the previous episode on Silent Agreements, but I give a quick recap on what that phrase means, so it will make sense even if you have not listened last week. Today I'm going to help you become a detective to start to become more aware of the dynamics of other people's relationships in films, documentaries and television shows. This in turn will help you be more objective and discerning as regards your OWN relationships. A very powerful anti-people pleasing skill building exercise and all through watching TV! I look at two very different pieces of television to do this. RESOURCES Find out more about coaching with Harriet https://www.theshiftinside.com/stop/ Silent Agreements episode https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/rebelqueenempath/SPP19SilentAgreements.mp3 Join the Stop people Pleasing facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/stoppeoplepleasingwithharriet The Art of Misdirection TED talk https://www.ted.com/talks/apollo_robbins_the_art_of_misdirection Free Solo trailer https://youtu.be/urRVZ4SW7WU Email Harriet: info @ theshiftinside.com