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Author: Danielle Black

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The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast

Hosted by Danielle Black


A direct, evidence-based podcast for people navigating all-things separation and divorce, including; post-separation abuse, family violence, parenting, property settlement and the family law system - with a relentless focus on protecting children and building a life beyond separation.  Because, the advice your lawyer gives you is only the beginning.  Family law tells you what the system can do. This podcast helps you understand what to seek, what to challenge, what to bring into the room - and how to live with the decisions, and move on with your life, afterwards.


Danielle Black is a specialist post-separation parenting coach and the founder and principal coach of Danielle Black Coaching.   Having navigated her own complex separation, and guided hundreds of clients to successful outcomes, Danielle and her coaching team specialise in helping protective parents to optimise the outcome for themselves and their children, and support clients to navigate post-separation situations that other professionals don't properly address.  


Drawing on her extensive tertiary qualifications, developmental science, research, trauma-informed practice and both professional and lived experience, she examines how abuse can continue after separation, how systems and professionals respond, and what genuinely informed decision-making and credible advocacy requires when risk, fear or power imbalance is present.


Because understanding family law is not enough.

Having a lawyer is not enough.

A lawyer can advise you about the law, legal process and evidence. But optimising your parenting outcome also requires knowledge of child development, attachment, coercive control and trauma; the capacity to remain strategic under pressure; and the confidence to advocate for what you and your children genuinely need.

This podcast examines all of those layers.


It challenges the assumptions that routinely shape post-separation outcomes: the fixation on 50/50 shared care, the misuse of “friendly parent” ideals, the belief that compromise is always constructive, and the fantasy that engaging the right professional means you can safely hand over the strategy, decision-making and advocacy.


Across the podcast, Danielle explores:

  • how post-separation abuse operates through parenting, financial and legal processes;
  • what children need after separation - and why adult notions of fairness are an inadequate guide;
  • what lawyers and other post-separation professionals were, and were not, trained to understand;
  • why standard co-parenting frameworks often fail families affected by coercive control and other forms of family violence and post-separation abuse;
  • how to assess the benefits, risks and real-world costs of negotiation, litigation and other pathways;
  • how knowledge, capacity and advocacy can materially change outcomes;
  • and what comes next, when separation and survival no longer occupy the centre of your life.


Expect direct language, research-backed analysis, practical guidance and a few cuss words - not platitudes, false balance or simplistic promises of justice.


This is not only about understanding what happened in your situation.

It is about making informed decisions now - and becoming the author, and authority, of what comes next.


To go deeper, explore The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™, Danielle’s flagship program for parents building the knowledge, capacity and advocacy skills needed to make informed, protective decisions after separation.

Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au.

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Your barrister might be excellent. Your lawyer might know family law inside out. They may have decades of experience, strong professional judgement and a far better understanding of the legal system than you do. They still cannot see the future. In Episode 4 of the When Children Resist or Refuse series, Danielle turns the spotlight toward legal advice, professional opinion and the enormous temptation to turn uncertainty into certainty when the stakes feel impossibly high. Because there is a d...
This series explores what a child's resistance or refusal might mean. When a child says no, our job isn't to immediately decide what the no proves. It's to understand what might be happening, notice what every adult is bringing to the interpretation, and work out how to respond without losing sight of the child. What does your nervous system have to do with a child resisting or refusing time with a parent? Quite a fucking lot, actually. In the first two episodes of this series, we've turned o...
This series explores what a child's resistance or refusal might mean. When a child says no, our job isn't to immediately decide what the no proves. It's to understand what might be happening, notice what every adult is bringing to the interpretation, and work out how to respond without losing sight of the child. What the fuck is a "meaningful relationship" anyway? We use phrases like meaningful relationship, substantial time, shared care, attachment and best interests so often in separated-pa...
This series explores what a child's resistance or refusal might mean. When a child says no, our job isn't to immediately decide what the no proves. It's to understand what might be happening, notice what every adult is bringing to the interpretation, and work out how to respond without losing sight of the child. What does it actually mean when a child says they don't want to spend time with the other parent? In the first episode of our new series, When Children Resist or Refuse: Why don't the...
Is nine nights/five nights becoming the new default parenting arrangement after Australia’s 2024 family law reforms? Danielle Black examines the rise of 9/5 recommendations in family reports and final outcomes, why mathematical ‘balance’ is not the same as a child-focused assessment, and what protective parents should ask when expert recommendations do not clearly connect the evidence to the proposed parenting schedule. This episode explores equal parenting time, attachment, child...
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