74. The thought error keeping you stuck
Description
If you’ve ever found yourself thinking “My life will only improve when my ex changes,” this episode is for you.
In this conversation, Danielle unpacks one of the most common - and painful - thought errors that keeps protective parents trapped in reactivity: believing peace will come only when the other parent behaves differently.
You’ll learn why waiting for change keeps you powerless, what true emotional and what emotional and nervous system capacity really means.
This episode covers:
- Why your wellbeing can’t depend on your co-parent’s behaviour
- The difference between performance calm and genuine regulation
- How to stop fighting reality and start creating stability for your children
- A real-life story of transformation that proves peace is possible without external change
If you’re navigating a high-conflict separation or parenting alongside a difficult ex, this episode will help you understand what actually changes your life - and what doesn’t.
About Danielle Black:
Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.
Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.













