80. Understanding coercive control (Part 2): The 7 patterns directed at children
Description
If Part 1 helped you understand the patterned aspect of coercive control, this episode helps you finally see the harm.
In Part 2 of this series, Danielle Black breaks down the 7 child-directed patterns of coercive control - the tactics most family law professionals completely overlook, and the ones that cause the deepest developmental harm to children.
Drawing on lived experience, research, and hundreds of real cases, Danielle explains:
- The 7 ways coercive control targets children, not just the other parent
- How to recognise patterns like conditional love, triangulation, undermining authority, isolation, fear-based compliance, parentification, and gaslighting
- How to document these patterns with clarity, accuracy, and strategy
- What professionals need to see (and why they don’t connect the dots on their own)
- How to speak the “language” of the family law system so your concerns cannot be dismissed as conflict
If you’ve ever felt like something is “off” in the way your ex parents - but struggled to explain it - this episode gives you the words, the lens, and the clarity you’ve been missing.
This is the episode that changes how you see everything.
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About Danielle Black:
Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia. With over twenty years’ experience in education, counselling and coaching - and her own lived experience navigating a complex separation - she helps parents advocate strategically and protect their children’s safety and wellbeing.
Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and not legal advice. Please seek independent legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice for your situation.

















