We’re back for part two of my conversation with embodiment coach Emma Elmoza — and if you haven’t listened to part one yet, go back and tune in first so you’ve got the full context. In this second half of our chat, we move from naming retroactive jealousy into the heart of healing it. Emma shares how she built deep self-trust, confidence, and inner safety — and how those shifts completely transformed the way she experiences her relationship. This conversation will open your eyes to what’s po...
So many women secretly struggle with this, but almost no one is talking about it… retroactive jealousy. In today’s episode, I’m joined by embodiment coach Emma Elmoza, who opens up about her own journey from insecurity and self-doubt to building deep confidence and self-worth through embodiment work. Together, we explore the concept of retroactive jealousy — what it is, how it shows up in relationships, and why it often comes with so much shame. If you’ve ever spiraled over your partner’s p...
Today, I’m pulling back the curtain on something I’ve seen time and time again in my own journey and in my clients’ lives: when you commit to healing your anxious attachment and developing secure attachment, the ripple effect is massive. This transformation isn’t just about dating or finding “the one.” It shifts your friendships, your career, your self-worth, your hobbies, your boundaries – literally your entire life opens up. In this episode, you’ll hear: - Why anxious attachment keeps you...
In today’s episode, I’m sharing a personal story about grief, nostalgia, and the versions of ourselves that relationships leave behind. Sometimes we think we’re yearning for an ex, when really we’re grieving the version of ourselves who existed in that chapter. And while it’s tender and sometimes gut-wrenching, this grief can also be a doorway into growth, self-love, and a deeper understanding of who you are now. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: - The difference between missing a person vs...
You don’t get the relationship or life of your dreams just by wanting it harder. You get it by expanding your capacity to hold it. In this episode, I’m breaking down why desire doesn’t equal readiness, the mistakes that keep you stuck even when you’re “doing the work,” and how to stretch your nervous system so you can finally hold more love, success, and visibility without sabotaging it. Inside this episode, you’ll discover: • Why wanting more isn’t the problem (and what really is) • The hi...
This episode is one of the most powerful conversations I’ve had on the podcast. I’m joined by Teagan Woodgate, founder of Reform Body Coaching, whose journey from surviving domestic violence to creating a thriving global coaching business will leave you feeling both shaken and deeply inspired. Teagan shares openly about her past — the warning signs she missed, the fear that kept her stuck, and the breaking point that finally set her free. We talk about the messy, painful reality of abuse, but...
In this episode, I’m sharing an interview I did with my beautiful friend Hillary McVeigh — Human Design teacher, Retreat Facilitator, Certified Coach, intuitive, and the kind of woman who will lovingly see straight into your soul. Before we even hit record, she pulled up my Human Design chart (Vessel of Love, Generator 2/4 for my HD lovers) and read me like a book. Then we went deep into all things dating, love, and self-worth. In this episode, we talk about: • The real difference between c...
This episode is one of the most vulnerable and raw I’ve ever shared. For the last 12 months, I’ve been quietly navigating something that has shaken me to my core and challenged my identity in ways I never expected… and today, I’m bringing you behind the curtain. In this ep, I open up about: - The journey of questioning my sexuality and why it’s felt terrifying and liberating all at once. - How I’ve hidden behind fake tan and perfectionism for years, and what I’m learning about beauty, self-w...
If you’ve ever felt afraid that once you really like someone, you’ll slip back into old habits… abandon yourself… and forget everything you worked so hard to heal—this episode is for you. After a long pattern of anxious dating, emotionally unavailable partners, and constantly losing myself in love, I decided to do something radically different: I took 12 months off dating completely. In this episode, I share what happened during that year—what I learned, how I reconnected with myself, and h...
If you’ve ever found yourself spiraling over a situationship, stuck in a cycle of "I know he’s not good for me, but I can’t walk away" - this episode is your medicine, my love. Today, I’m joined by the beautiful Majo Torreli - somatic coach, Oxford grad, and nervous system wizard - for a powerful convo on how your body (not your brain) holds the key to finally breaking your anxious dating patterns. Majo spent over a decade feeling small, powerless, and anxious in love, even while doing all t...
You know that moment where you get invited to something amazing — a room full of women you know you’d vibe with — but your body starts screaming, “Nope! Stay home, it’s safer on the couch”? Yeah… that was me last night. In this episode, I’m bringing you behind the scenes of a beautiful women’s networking dinner that totally cracked me open. What started as excitement quickly spiraled into social anxiety, fear of being judged, and a resurfacing of my teenage sisterhood wounds — you know the o...
Can you actually date casually and feel emotionally safe, respected, and secure? Short answer: yes. But most people out here trying to be the “cool girl” in casual dating are actually just abandoning their needs and calling it chill. Let’s clean that up. In this episode, I break down what a secure casual dynamic actually looks like and how to stop treating situationships like a slot machine that might pay out if you just stay cool enough. You’ll learn: The four key ingredients for a secure c...
Today’s episode is for the over-thinkers, the self-doubters, and the “was it something I did?” spirallers. If you’ve ever felt triggered after a date and immediately asked “What did I do wrong?” Caught yourself on a mental hamster wheel wondering if you’re too much, not enough, or just cursed in love… Or tried to dissect someone’s texting patterns like it’s a code to crack…this episode is your wake-up call. We’re talking: - Why the questions you ask yourself are the key to your confidence -...
If you’ve ever hit a point in your healing where you thought, “Why is this happening again?” or “I thought I already worked through this!” this episode is your reminder that healing isn’t a straight line… but every challenge is an invitation to EVOLVE. We’re talking: - How to catch yourself before spiraling into victim mindset - What self-sabotage is really trying to protect you from - A deeply personal story about my most recent PA launch and the shadow it brought up - Why your challenges a...
This episode is for every human who’s ever thought: “Am I actually into men… or am I just addicted to their validation?” 😳 …or “I think I might be queer, but I’m terrified of what that means.” Today I’m joined by the brilliant Inez Bye - queer content creator, business coach, and one of my real-life besties, for a no-holds-barred convo on coming out later in life, dating women for the first time, and how anxious attachment still finds a way to sneak in… even when you finally feel like yo...
Today’s episode is a full-on DATING DEBRIEF. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in dating burnout 🙃, ghosted someone because you weren’t sure how to say “I’m not feeling it,” got ghosted and spiraled hard, or stared at your phone thinking “Do I even want to be dating right now??” 😒 This episode is for you. We’re talking: Why online dating feels so bloody different to meeting someone IRLHow to tell if you actually want to date or if you’re just “should-ing” yourself into itFirst date ne...
If your dating life feels like a never-ending loop of ghosting, confusion, and anxiety… you need this episode. In this episode of The Secure Love Club Podcast, I’m breaking down the subtle, yet game-changing, difference between dating from scarcity vs. abundance. This conversation was sparked by a real-life moment from a 1:1 client session that I knew I had to share with you. If you’re sick of overthinking every text, afraid to speak your truth, or constantly worried you’re “too much”… then m...
Ever caught yourself planning your wedding playlist after one flirty date? 👀 Already imagining what your couple selfies will look like before you even know their last name? You’re not alone, my love—and you’re not crazy. In today’s juicy episode of The Secure Love Club Podcast, I’m answering a question I get all the time: “How do I stop myself from spiraling into fantasy land and imagining my whole life with someone I barely know?!” If dating has you exhausted from mentally fast-forwarding ev...
If you’ve ever caught yourself saying “I’ll be happy when…” — when I find my person, when I make more money, when I finally feel chosen — this episode is your wake-up call. Fresh from my Europe trip, I’m sharing the biggest shift I had around what it actually means to live fully — without waiting for the relationship, the job, or the external milestone to give you permission to enjoy your life. We dive into why so many women (especially those with anxious attachment) press pause on their joy,...
You think you’re searching for a relationship, but what you’re really craving is relief. A break from the spiral of overthinking and the constant need to feel “enough.” In this episode, I’m sharing a truth I learned the hard way: When you haven’t learned how to regulate your own emotions, you’ll unconsciously make your partner responsible for doing it for you. And that, my love, is where anxious dating patterns are born. We’re diving deep into why love isn’t the fix you think it is—and how ch...