“You have to love yourself more than your need to be loved by other people.” I don’t say this lightly: this conversation altered my brain chemistry. This week, we’re joined by one of my absolute dream guests, Sabrina Zohar—dating coach, entrepreneur, and host of the wildly successful podcast The Sabrina Zohar Show. Sabrina gives us a masterclass on attachment styles—how they shape the way we love, how these behaviors manifest in relationships, and how to understand our patterns. We unpack how to self-regulate when we’re feeling triggered and how to truly sit in the discomfort instead of spiraling, catastrophizing, or self-sabotaging. We also explore what it actually means to choose yourself—to stop abandoning yourself in the process of loving someone else. To give yourself permission and compassion to reconnect with your self-worth and learn to feel safe in love again. Ultimately, this is your guide to building the most beautiful and fulfilling relationship with yourself and with those around you. If you’ve ever felt like you’re too much but simultaneously not enough, this conversation is entirely for you. As always, take whatever you need and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI (to LISA): IG: @lisaxgilmore TikTok: @lisaxgilmore Pinterest: @lisaxgilmore (to UNWINEDING): IG: @unwinedingpod TikTok: @unwinedingpod (to SABRINA ZOHAR): IG: @sabrina.zohar TikTok: @sabrina.zohar Podcast: The Sabrina Zohar Show Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
A conversation on redefining beauty standards in a trend-obsessed world — and discovering who your favorite self really is—with my beautiful friend Natalie McMillan. We explore past and current trends and why we’ve chosen to participate in them, talk about how fashion and beauty respond to the political climate, and unpack why “thinness” is suddenly “back.” In short, we’re giving our younger selves all the love, advice, and words of affirmation we would’ve wanted to hear about staying true to ourselves and our identities. And more importantly, we realize we’re becoming our favorite selves—and isn’t that the goal? SAY HI (to LISA): IG: @lisaxgilmore TikTok: @lisaxgilmore Pinterest: @lisaxgilmore (to NATALIE: IG: @nataliemcm TikTok: @natalie.mcm Podcast: Into It With Natalie McMillan (to UNWINEDING): IG: @unwinedingpod TikTok: @unwinedingpod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Here’s what’s going to happen: you’re going to lock in for the next 4 months, because you deserve to achieve everything you want. It’s just us this week, and I’ve been so inspired by all the “great lock-in” content I’ve been seeing online that I decided to create a guide for us—a roadmap to finish the year strong. We’re talking about how to check in with yourself, realign your goals, and actually make the most of the time we have left in 2025 (with a few neuroscience-backed tips!!!). This is your reset button and I hope you leave the episode feeling as inspired as I did. LOVE YOU. x DM me @unwinedingpod with the word 'BADDIE' and I'll send you this episode's template <3 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
256: Would you be your own friend? Why do friendship breakups hurt so much? How do you navigate outgrowing a friend? And what do you do when jealousy shows up in friendship?—just a few of the questions my girl Zayit Bemmel and I get into in this episode. We talk about the messy, complicated, and beautiful parts of female friendship—from the grief of losing someone you thought would be in your life forever, to the moments we’ve had to admit we were the “bad friend,” to learning how to set healthier boundaries and actually show up better for the people we love. If you’ve ever struggled with friendship breakups, growing apart in your 20s or 30s, or dealing with jealousy in your friendships, this episode will remind you that you’re not alone—and that we all go through this. The best reminder? You haven’t met all the people (and friends) you’re going to love yet. EP. 226: you're not asking for too much, you're just asking the wrong person ft. Zayit Bemmel SAY HI (to LISA): IG: @lisaxgilmore TikTok: @lisaxgilmore Pinterest: @lisaxgilmore (to ZAYIT): IG: @zayitbemmel TikTok: @zvb.beauty (to UNWINEDING): IG: @unwinedingpod TikTok: @unwinedingpod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
255: Things diet culture stole from us—and how we’re getting them back. I’m joined by my friend Danielle Dietzek, Nurse Practitioner and Co-founder of the dating app PlotTwist, to unpack our messy experiences with disordered eating, body dysmorphia, and self-worth. Together, we open up about calorie counting (hi MyFitnessPal), over-exercising, family comments, and the way comparison shaped our twenties. We also talk about recovery, therapy, and what it actually looks like to heal your relationship with food, your body, and yourself. This conversation is raw, vulnerable, and extremely honest—the kind we both wish we heard when we were struggling. If you’ve ever battled negative body image, diet culture, or felt stuck in the cycle of “discipline,” this episode will remind you you’re not alone. As always, take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU x TW: This episode contains open and honest conversations about eating disorders, disordered eating, and body image. Please listen with care, and if this subject feels too heavy right now, feel free to skip this episode. If you or someone you love is struggling with an eating disorder, you’re not alone. Visit NEDA or The Alliance for support and resources. SAY HI (to LISA): IG: @lisaxgilmore TikTok: @lisaxgilmore Pinterest: @lisaxgilmore (to UNWINEDING): IG: @unwinedingpod TikTok: @unwinedingpod Youtube: @unwinedingpodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
254: Two Hispanic b*tches talking about friendships, relationships, and everything in between. This week, we're talking to one of my IG besties, Andrea Lugo—who I finally got to meet IRL in LA a few weeks ago. This episode has three segments: how to date a Latina 101 (and why we’re misunderstood), our favorite dating & relationship hot takes, and the lessons we’ve been learning in our love lives lately. A few questions we answer: + should your partner be your best friend? + does long distance actually work? + do they "always come back?" + does Tinx's Box Theory apply to friendship? + should you have access to your partner's phone? + how long is the honeymoon stage? + is physical chemistry overrated? and so much more. As always, take whatever you need, leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI (to LISA): IG: @lisaxgilmore TikTok: @lisaxgilmore Pinterest: @lisaxgilmore (to ANDREA): IG: @theandrealugo TikTok: @theandrealugo (to UNWINEDING): IG: @unwinedingpod TikTok: @unwinedingpod Youtube: @unwinedingpodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
253: Class is in session today, and we're mastering the law of detachment to get absolutely everything we want. We're talking what it actually means to detach, why letting go is the secret to attracting what you want, and how to practice it in real life. Whether it’s in dating, friendships, or your career, detachment isn’t about not caring—it’s about caring without clinging. In this episode, I'm giving you the mindset shift I want us ALL to have to be abundant, magical b*tches. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI (to LISA): IG: @lisaxgilmore TikTok: @lisaxgilmore Pinterest: @lisaxgilmore (to UNWINEDING): IG: @unwinedingpod TikTok: @unwinedingpod Youtube: @unwinedingpodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
252: "There will always be another guy but there won't always be another friend." This week, we're unwineding with Emma Paige, host of the Too Much Podcast, and my personal therapist for the next 45+ minutes. We dive deep into the complexities of female friendship, the importance of self-worth, and how our hyper-independence and attachment styles impact our romantic relationships. We explore Emma's 5-box theory, the concept of self-forgiveness, and the moments when we've felt the need to prove ourselves in order to be loved. If you’ve ever struggled with vulnerability, felt the weight of hyper-independence, or needed a reminder that you deserve the relationships you truly want, this episode is for you. SAY HI (to EMMA): IG: @lifeofemmapaige Too Much Podcast: @emmastoomuch Episode I mentioned: Raised in a revolving door (to LISA): IG: @lisaxgilmore TikTok: @lisaxgilmore Pinterest: @lisaxgilmore (to UNWINEDING): IG: @unwinedingpod TikTok: @unwinedingpod Youtube: @unwinedingpodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
251: If you've ever wondered if you're settling or asking for too much, this one's for you. This week, I’m joined by best-selling author Amber Rae to talk about her newest memoir, Loveable—available now. In this conversation, we dive into what it really means to settle, why women stay in the wrong relationships (for too long), and the blurry line between feeling like we’re “too much” and “not enough” simultaneously. Amber shares tangible tips for tuning into our intuition and strengthening our ability to differentiate anxiety or fear from inner knowing (which, as an anxious queen, I absolutely loved). I’m so grateful for Amber’s vulnerability, and I can’t wait for you to listen. As always, take whatever you need from this conversation and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x Shop Loveable SAY HI (to LISA): IG: @lisaxgilmore TikTok: @lisaxgilmore Pinterest: @lisaxgilmore (to UNWINEDING): IG: @unwinedingpod TikTok: @unwinedingpod Youtube: @unwinedingpodcast (to OUR EPISODE SPONSORS): BETTERHELP: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give therapy a try at: betterhelp.com/UNWINEDING HUNGRYROOT: Get 40% off your first Hungryroot box + get a free item in every box for life. Go to: hungryroot.com/unwineding + use code UNWINEDING. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
250: This episode has *big sister* energy all over it. I’m joined by my beautiful friend Laurice Imani to talk dating, self-worth, recovering pick-me behavior, and the invisible ways grief shows up in everyday life. We’re unpacking the difference between dating in our 30s vs. our 20s, feeling lonely inside relationships, the gap between confidence and self-worth, and how losing a parent has completely shifted the way we love. As always, take what you need and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x CHAPTERS: 0:00—4:01: hi, intro, NYC trip! 4:01—10:32: navigating grief + loss 10:32—23:52: dating in your 30s vs. your 20s 23:52—32:11: self-worth & building confidence 32:11—40:17: trust issues, attachment styles 40:17—53:32: the invisible sides of grief 53:32—end: final reflections SAY HI (to LISA): IG: @lisaxgilmore TikTok: @lisaxgilmore Pinterest: @lisaxgilmore (to UNWINEDING): IG: @unwinedingpod TikTok: @unwinedingpod Youtube: @unwinedingpodcast (to LAURICE): IG: @lauriceimani TikTok: @lauriceimani (to OUR EPISODE SPONSORS): BETTERHELP: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give therapy a try at: betterhelp.com/UNWINEDING HUNGRYROOT: Get 40% off your first Hungryroot box + get a free item in every box for life. Go to: hungryroot.com/unwineding + use code UNWINEDING. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
249: POV—three girly pops in Miami talking all things friendship. This week, I'm joined by Kelsey and Emily for a heart-to-heart on what female friendship actually looks like in your 30s. We’re talking friendship breakups, the jealousy and competition no one talks about, and the green & red flags we’re paying way more attention to these days. Whether you're craving deeper friendships or healing from ones that didn’t last, I think you'll love this episode. Watch this episode on Youtube CHAPTERS: 0:00—1:00: hi MIAMI! 1:00–7:32: friendship lessons 7:32—9:30: friendship breakups 9:30—19:49: building meaningful friendships 19:49—26:52: red & green flags in friendship 26:52—30:40: mistakes we’ve made 30:40—36:40: making new friends in your 30’s 36:40—43:45: communication is everything 43:45—48:00: our favorite moments together & wrap-up SAY HI (to LISA): IG: @lisaxgilmore TikTok: @lisaxgilmore Pinterest: @lisaxgilmore (to UNWINEDING): IG: @unwinedingpod TikTok: @unwinedingpod Youtube: @unwinedingpodcast (to KELSEY): IG: @kelseylapolla TikTok: @kelsey_lapolla (to EMILY): TikTok: @emilyosmow (to OUR EPISODE SPONSORS): BETTERHELP: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give therapy a try at: betterhelp.com/UNWINEDING HUNGRYROOT: Get 40% off your first Hungryroot box + get a free item in every box for life. Go to: hungryroot.com/unwineding + use code UNWINEDING. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
248: I called you on FaceTime and we talked about: Love Island, body image/body dysmorphia, being too hard on yourself, & best-case-scenario-thinking. As always, I hope there was something in this episode you needed (and please let me know what it was, I'm feeling needy). LOVE YOU. x Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
247: We're joined by my new favorite person (and everybody's favorite from The Bachelor), Alexis Waters, for an absolute sh*tshow of an episode. We're talking: things that would send a Victorian child into a coma, the dumbest things we've done for a man, boob jobs, mental illnesses, and how we found out we were being cheated on. An episode for the girls—and for the girls ONLY. I'm sure you're already obsessed with Alexis but if you aren't, you're about to be. LOVE YOU. x CHAPTERS: 00:00—quick intro 2:00 to 6:45—hi ALEXIS!!!! getting married, Hoop Nation 6:45 to 12:00—things that would send a victorian child into a coma 12:00 to 30:11—what are the dumbest things you’ve done for a man? *plus a million tangents because we both have severe ADHD* 30:11 to 1:04—cheating should be a crime 1:04 to 1:07—solicited advice & pick-me-girls 1:07 to 1:10—wrap-up & ily Alexis SAY HI (to LISA): IG: @lisaxgilmore TikTok: @lisaxgilmore Pinterest: @lisaxgilmore (to UNWINEDING): IG: @unwinedingpod TikTok: @unwinedingpod (to ALEXIS): IG: @alexiswaters_ TikTok: @alexiswaters244 Podcast: @literallynotokpodcast (to OUR EPISODE SPONSORS): BETTERHELP: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give therapy a try at: betterhelp.com/UNWINEDING HUNGRYROOT: Get 40% off your first Hungryroot box + get a free item in every box for life. Go to: hungryroot.com/unwineding + use code UNWINEDING. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
246: Because sometimes you have to be the bad friend first to learn how to be a great one. This week, my beautiful friend (and Unwineding Podcast favorite) Angie Lassman is BACK. Think of this episode as part two of our 'Friendship Playbook' series—this time, we’re diving into the mistakes we’ve made as friends (and humans), and how those moments helped us grow, evolve, and show up better in our friendships. I hope there's something in this episode you needed—let us know what it was. LOVE YOU. x Episode 239: the friendship playbook: the art of being (& having) the best friends ever, ft. Angie Lassman CHAPTERS: 00:00—intro & weekend recap 09:10—hi Angie! & mistakes we've made 17:17-20:46—eating disorder mention 25:16—navigating expectations in friendships 25:49—understanding survival mode 26:23—the catch-22 of communication 27:58—you're not a burden to your friends 36:34—the power of forgiveness 44:16—it's the little things 47:56—the art of talking shit 48:50—concluding thoughts on friendship SAY HI (to LISA): IG: @lisaxgilmore TikTok: @lisaxgilmore Pinterest: @lisaxgilmore (to UNWINEDING): IG: @unwinedingpod TikTok: @unwinedingpod (to OUR EPISODE SPONSORS): BETTERHELP: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give therapy a try at: betterhelp.com/UNWINEDING HUNGRYROOT: Get 40% off your first Hungryroot box + get a free item in every box for life. Go to: hungryroot.com/unwineding + use code UNWINEDING. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
245: We’re gathered here today to unpack our May Book Club pick: The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler. This book lovingly DRAGGED me—and I loved every second of it. I’m so excited to be joined by my friend (and incredible photographer) Remy Hernandez as we dissect our perfectionism: the parts that drive us, fulfill us, and also—the parts that make us feel never good enough (we're working on it). I hope there's something in here you needed & as always, I'd love to know what it was. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
244: This week, you're basically on FaceTime with Em (my bff) & I—and it's one of my favorite conversations yet. We're talking heartbreak, hyper-independence, becoming someone you'd want to date, and all the lessons we've learned (and maybe ignored) along the way. A few dating & relationship mantras you'll hear us say in this episode: + if it's not love, it's a lesson + why don't you think you're worthy of the relationship of your dreams? + you attract who you are + trust your gut feeling, it's your guiding point + your person is looking for you, too + when it's meant to be, it'll be + two great people don't necessarily make a great relationship + if it's not a f*ck yes, it's a no + nobody is busier than a man who doesn't care about you & more. Hope there's something in this conversation you needed, let us know what it was. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI (to LISA): IG: @lisaxgilmore TikTok: @lisaxgilmore Pinterest: @lisaxgilmore (to EMILY): IG: @_emosmow TikTok: @emilyosmow Episode 237: building a 7-figure swimwear brand with Nyud Co-owner, Emily Osmow (to UNWINEDING): IG: @unwinedingpod TikTok: @unwinedingpod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
243: Just us this week with a little hi, bye, and advice that has truly altered my brain chemistry. Should we make this a series? Because I could probably record 1,000 of these. This week's advice is for my *fellow* overthinkers and for anyone wanting to have more bravery in their decisions... maybe take a few more risks? Maybe stop underestimating yourself? All of the above? I hope it hits & let me know if it does. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI (to LISA): IG: @lisaxgilmore TikTok: @lisaxgilmore Pinterest: @lisaxgilmore (to UNWINEDING): IG: @unwinedingpod TikTok: @unwinedingpod (to OUR EPISODE SPONSORS): BETTERHELP: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give therapy a try at: betterhelp.com/UNWINEDING HUNGRYROOT: Get 40% off your first Hungryroot box + get a free item in every box for life. Go to: hungryroot.com/unwineding + use code UNWINEDING. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
242: So you wanna become a content creator? Or you’ve been thinking about starting your own brand? Maybe both? This is the episode for you. I’m joined by my beautiful friend Kira Jones—content creator, founder of Cacti Wellness, and branding QUEEN—to talk all things consistency, building a brand you actually love, and becoming the kind of creator you’d follow. We talk all things content creation, brand building, and what it really takes to grow on platforms like Instagram and TikTok in 2025. From developing physical products to navigating creative burnout, Kira shares the behind-the-scenes of scaling her business while staying true to her vision. We also dive into: Building a personal brand that stands out Product development from scratch TikTok & IG growth strategies in 2025 Evolving your content style Finding your editing voice Balancing creativity with consistency What makes content actually worth sharing & more. Hope you love! SEE YOU NEXT WEEK. X SAY HI (to LISA): IG: @lisaxgilmore TikTok: @lisaxgilmore Pinterest: @lisaxgilmore (to UNWINEDING): IG: @unwinedingpod TikTok: @unwinedingpod (to KIRA): IG: @kirajones & @cactiwellness TikTok: @kirajonesmatousek (to OUR EPISODE SPONSORS): BETTERHELP: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give therapy a try at: betterhelp.com/UNWINEDING HUNGRYROOT: Get 40% off your first Hungryroot box + get a free item in every box for life. Go to: hungryroot.com/unwineding + use code UNWINEDING. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
241: Because not everyone deserves to experience you (in fact, I wish people could un-experience me, you know what I mean?). You wouldn't know by the title, but this episode is slightly chaotic and I did, in fact, cry of laughter because that's just what happens when I'm with Lauren. It's Lauren's third time on Unwineding for a little dating/relationship/& friendship talk - again, like we're on FaceTime but happened to be recording. Take whatever you need from this episode & leave the rest - LOVE YOU. x SAY HI (to LISA): IG: @lisaxgilmore TikTok: @lisaxgilmore Pinterest: @lisaxgilmore (to UNWINEDING): IG: @unwinedingpod TikTok: @unwinedingpod (to OUR EPISODE SPONSORS): BETTERHELP: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give therapy a try at: betterhelp.com/UNWINEDING HUNGRYROOT: Get 40% off your first Hungryroot box + get a free item in every box for life. Go to: hungryroot.com/unwineding + use code UNWINEDING. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
240: Another round of solicited dating advice led by my favorite comedian & returning guest, Zack Signore. Whether you should or shouldn't take our advice is up to you, but we're getting into: exclusivity vs. boyfriend/girlfriend, emotionally unavailable men, picking hot a$$holes, de-centering men (while still falling in love), and tooooo much more. Hope you enjoy (but I know you will!!!), LOVE YOU. x SAY HI (to LISA): IG: @lisaxgilmore TikTok: @lisaxgilmore Pinterest: @lisaxgilmore (to UNWINEDING): IG: @unwinedingpod TikTok: @unwinedingpod (to ZACK): IG: @zacksignore EP. 200 x Unwineding: a comprehensive guide to falling in love ft. Zack Signore (to OUR EPISODE SPONSORS): BETTERHELP: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give therapy a try at: betterhelp.com/UNWINEDING HUNGRYROOT: Get 40% off your first Hungryroot box + get a free item in every box for life. Go to: hungryroot.com/unwineding + use code UNWINEDING. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices