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Usually, when we talk about improving our lives, we focus on what we should be doing more of—more exercise, more learning, more productivity. But sometimes, the biggest breakthroughs come not from what we add, but from what we subtract.

That’s right. Today’s episode is all about the 10 things you need to stop doing for a better life.

As I go through this list, I want you to think about which ones hit home for you. You don’t need to change everything overnight—just pick one or two, and start there. Small shifts lead to big results.

 

 

1. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Comparison is a trap. We scroll through social media, see someone with a bigger house, a nicer car, or a more “exciting” life, and we instantly feel behind. But remember—social media is just a highlight reel.

You don’t see the arguments behind the vacation photos, or the credit card debt behind the new car. When you compare yourself to others, you’re not being fair to yourself—you’re comparing your real life to someone else’s staged version.

Instead, compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Are you growing? Are you moving forward? That’s the only race worth running.

To stop comparing yourself to others, recognize that you are only seeing their "outsides" and not their full reality, identify your personal triggers like social media, practice gratitude and self-compassion, focus on your own progress rather than others' achievements, and limit exposure to situations that fuel comparison, such as taking a break from social media.

 

 

2. Stop Saying “Yes” to Everything

We live in a culture that glorifies being busy. But saying yes to everything means you’re saying no to your own priorities.

Think about it—how many times have you agreed to something, then regretted it because it drained your energy? Maybe you said yes to another work project when you were already stretched thin. Or maybe you agreed to a social event when what you really needed was rest.

Saying no doesn’t make you rude—it makes you wise. Protect your energy like it’s your most valuable asset—because it is.

 

 

1. Understand Your "Why"

    Identify your priorities:

    Determine what truly matters to you and if saying "yes" to requests aligns with those goals.

Address people-pleasing:

Recognize if a fear of rejection or a need for approval is driving your habit of saying "yes".

2. Set Boundaries

    Define your limits:

    Establish what you are and are not willing to commit your time and energy to.

    Know your capacity:

    Be aware of your current workload and time commitments so you don't overextend yourself.

3. Practice Saying "No"

    Embrace the pause:

    Instead of an immediate "yes," take a moment to check your schedule or consult with others before giving a definitive answer.

Use prepared phrases:

Have polite "no" phrases ready, such as "Thanks for thinking of me, but I'm unable to commit to that right now" or "Let me get back to you on that".

Offer alternatives:

If possible, suggest a different solution, like doing the task later or finding someone else to help.

4. Shift Your Mindset

    Embrace "JOMO":

    Replace the fear of missing out (FOMO) with the joy of missing out (JOMO), understanding that protecting your time is a positive choice.

Prioritize yourself:

Realize that you are not responsible for everyone's problems and that saying "no" is a form of self-care.

Accept consequences:

Understand that some people may be disappointed, but true friends will respect your boundaries.

5. Practice and Reinforce

    Start small:

    Begin by saying "no" to less significant requests to build your confidence.

Be kind to yourself:

If you slip up and say "yes" when you meant "no," don't overthink it. Focus on how you'll approach the next situation.

 

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