What happens when you replace drinking with a relentless pursuit of self-improvement?

In this episode, Amanda and Melissa explore the never-ending cycle of striving to be “better” in sobriety—and why it can be just as exhausting as drinking itself.

They unpack the pressure to constantly optimise, hustle, and perform, especially in a world saturated with self-help and personal growth culture.

Amanda reflects on her own perfectionism, the “arrival fallacy” that kept her chasing external goals, and the realisation that self-worth isn’t something to earn—it’s something to recognise.

From online validation traps to "digital & geographic cures", this episode is a must-listen for anyone who’s ever felt like they need to do more, be more, or achieve more just to feel okay.

Tune in for real talk on learning to be enough—without the endless chase.

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