We talk about the quieter forms of alignment, like making decisions that don’t make sense to others but feel deeply right to you. You’ll hear about the courage it takes to let go of things that are “almost right,” and why aligned living isn’t about perfection — it’s about integrity, even when it’s inconvenient or uncomfortable. This episode is both a reality check and a permission slip to honour your own unique path.

Whether you’re in the middle of a transition, questioning what’s next, or simply craving more depth on your personal growth journey, this conversation offers grounded wisdom and soulful reminders. These 11 insights on alignment will help you trust yourself more deeply, recognise alignment in unexpected forms, and walk your path with more compassion and confidence.

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Celebrating 111

Hello my love! Welcome to episode 111 of the grow through it podcast. That angel number alone feels like a portal, so it’s only fitting we talk about something equally powerful and often misunderstood: alignment.

It’s become a bit of a buzzword, hasn’t it? “Just align with it.” “That’s not aligned.” But what does it really mean to live in alignment? Not in an Instagram caption kind of way, but in a real, embodied, sometimes messy, deeply honest kind of way?

In this episode, I’m breaking down 11 practical shifts: truths, perspectives and tiny mindset recalibrations — that can help you actually feel what alignment is, not just talk about it.

Let’s demystify the word, anchor it into reality, and maybe, by the end, alignment will feel a little less elusive… and more actionable, achievable, possible.

It’s beautiful timing as I am getting in the creative flow zone channelling for the upcoming Flow Retreat Im running in Vietnam at the end of this month with 7 incredible and beautiful women!

Let’s dive in.

11 Things You Need to Know About Alignment (That No One Talks About)

1. Alignment isn’t a buzzword—it’s a felt experience.

It’s not about having the perfect morning routine, or ticking spiritual practices off a list, collective gold stars from the universe. Alignment is about truth. It’s about how honest you’re willing to be with yourself. It asks: Can you be radically honest with yourself? Can you pause long enough to listen—not just to your mind, but to your body, your breath, your subtle yes and your sacred no? Can you soften into your inner knowing before charging ahead with the next task or to-do?

Alignment isn’t aesthetic. It’s a deep, steady resonance that hums when you’re connected to your yes—and brave enough to honour your no.

Alignment is a felt sense of attunement. Like tuning an instrument, it requires presence. Your body, your heart, your energy field—these are your tuning forks. When something’s off, you feel it. When something’s in flow, you know it—not because someone told you it was the right choice, but because something inside settles. Clicks. Resonates.

There’s also a masculine and feminine dynamic at play here. The masculine in us wants to define alignment with structure: clarity, consistency, action plans, execution. It asks: What does aligned action look like? How can I make this real, productive, measurable. The feminine knows that alignment begins in the unseen. In the quiet. She doesn’t need to define it—she feels it. She invites slowness, sensing, inner listening. The feminine attunes before the masculine acts. She’s the current. The masculine is the container.

When you lead from your feminine—when you allow yourself to feel first—then let your inner masculine take aligned action from that place of truth, things begin to flow. That’s alignment: not forced, not hustled, but integrated. Rooted in the body, expressed through the spirit, and carried out with grounded direction.

It’s not about being in control. It’s about being in tune. Alignment doesn’t follow a script. It follows you.

2. Misalignment shows up in the body before it hits the mind.

So often we think we’re burnt out because we’ve done too much. But what if we’re tired because we’ve done too much of what’s not true? Not enough of the things that make us feel alive.

Misalignment drains life force. You might feel foggy, disconnected, resentful, or stuck in loops of overthinking. Your nervous system contracts and tightens. Your creativity shuts down. These are not failures—they’re feedback. They’re your body calling you back into rhythm.

Your body is wise. It often knows long before your mind can articulate. Misalignment begins subtly—in the gut, the chest, the breath—and only later shows up in thoughts like I’m not motivated, I’m confused, or I just don’t feel like myself anymore.

What’s happening in your inner world eventually ripples out into your external reality.

You may find yourself attracting the wrong people into your life or stuck in relationship dynamics and situations that feel like hard work. You might notice projects stall, timing is off…

So when your body speaks—through fatigue, resistance, or tension—listen. Before you try to push through or problem-solve, ask: Is this really burnout? Or is this my body protecting me from betraying myself again?

Alignment isn’t just about what feels good. It’s about what’s real.

3. Your alignment might not look like anyone else’s.

We live in a world that rewards sameness, but alignment is inherently personal. It’s your unique blend of energy, timing, cycles, and capacity. What works for her might not work for you. And that’s not a flaw—it’s a compass. Whether it’s your Human Design, your menstrual cycle, the seasons, or the moon, you’re allowed to orient your life around what actually supports you.

The deeper you know your own unique, natural, beautiful energetic and human design blueprint, the easier it becomes to stop outsourcing authority—and start trusting what feels right over what’s been prescribed.