DiscoverThe Gentleman's Take#15 - Ralph Lauren Model Shares Lessons on Looksmaxxing, Discipline, and Alcohol - James Granstrom
#15 - Ralph Lauren Model Shares Lessons on Looksmaxxing, Discipline, and Alcohol - James Granstrom

#15 - Ralph Lauren Model Shares Lessons on Looksmaxxing, Discipline, and Alcohol - James Granstrom

Update: 2025-09-04
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James Granstrom is a male model and executive wellness coach with nearly 30 years of experience modeling for top brands including Ralph Lauren, DKNY, and Orlebar Brown.


If you've ever wondered what life is really like as a male model, how to develop a lean, aesthetic physique, and the biggest mistakes high-performing men make when it comes to their wellbeing, James is the best person to listen to.


Timestamps:

  • 00:00 – James’ origin story
  • 01:18 – Banking stint, misalignment & desire for freedom
  • 03:09 – First agency walk-ins with a holiday snap
  • 04:16 – Getting male model lean
  • 06:27 – First Ralph Lauren booking
  • 08:07 – What model agencies are looking for (height, jawline, X-factor)
  • 10:02 – Early DKNY job; late-’90s/early-’00s scene
  • 10:41 – Model physique vs gym culture: what clients want
  • 11:05 – Training, nutrition, and cutting for shows
  • 14:11 – Values shift: near-fatal crash, sobriety & integrity
  • 16:27 – What a shoot day really feels like (waiting, makeup, set)
  • 24:41 – Simplicity in style (and why it photographs best)
  • 27:04 – Freedom vs possessions; learning to travel light
  • 27:15 – The Orlebar Brown story: getting in GQ
  • 32:02 – Aging in the industry: taking yourself less seriously
  • 36:06 – First business: bringing aloe drinks to the UK
  • 39:05 – Tokyo years, craving roots; move to Marbella & lockdown
  • 42:06 – What “executive wellness coaching” actually is
  • 43:05 – Client case: energy, people-pleasing & better decisions
  • 44:08 – Is sacrifice necessary? Rebalancing the “trivial pursuit”
  • 46:09 – Building years: career/health vs love and happiness
  • 52:04 – Men’s community, loneliness, and connection
  • 53:11 – Going sober and plant-based before it was cool
  • 53:40 – Dating while sober: just own it
  • 56:18 – Self-discipline as an attractive trait; daily non-negotiables
  • 59:32 – From reckless to calm: presence under pressure
  • 1:00:21 – Coaching at the top: calm for high-stakes lives
  • 1:01:18 – Absent parents, patterns & what we pass down
  • 1:04:57 – Advice for 20s/30s: travel, patience, perspective
  • 1:06:56 – Cultural differences & dropping judgment
  • 1:07:56 – Discipline over absolutes; choosing energy daily
  • 1:09:10 – Family & chosen family; investing in relationships
  • 1:15:05 – Accountability partners & staying grounded
  • 1:16:00 – Humility, owning mistakes & not pedestaling people
  • 1:17:39 – Daily rituals that keep energy high (meditation, movement)
  • 1:18:51 – Tracking, journaling & mirroring your day
  • 1:24:54 – Aging like fine wine: plants, water, nature, sleep
  • 1:26:15 – Alcohol vs focus; plant-based since 2004
  • 1:28:06 – Where to find James

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    #15 - Ralph Lauren Model Shares Lessons on Looksmaxxing, Discipline, and Alcohol - James Granstrom

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