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3190: Emotional Safety is Necessary for Emotional Connection by Ellen Boeder with Gottman on Emotional Intimacy

3190: Emotional Safety is Necessary for Emotional Connection by Ellen Boeder with Gottman on Emotional Intimacy

Update: 2025-11-16
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Episode 3190:


Ellen Boeder explores how emotional safety is essential for deep, lasting connection in romantic relationships. She outlines how nervous system regulation, authentic expression, and trust-building practices create the conditions for vulnerability and intimacy to thrive.


Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/emotional-safety-is-necessary-for-emotional-connection/


Quotes to ponder:


"Emotional safety is what allows us to let our guard down and be authentic with our partners."


"When we feel safe, our nervous system is regulated enough to access the higher brain functions necessary for connection."


"Without emotional safety, the parts of ourselves that are scared, ashamed, or hurt stay hidden."


Episode references:


Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges: https://www.amazon.com/Polyvagal-Theory-Neurophysiological-Emotion-Communication/dp/0393707008


Healing Developmental Trauma by Laurence Heller and Aline LaPierre: https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Developmental-Trauma-Resolution-Nervous/dp/1583944893


Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson: https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/031611300X

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3190: Emotional Safety is Necessary for Emotional Connection by Ellen Boeder with Gottman on Emotional Intimacy

3190: Emotional Safety is Necessary for Emotional Connection by Ellen Boeder with Gottman on Emotional Intimacy

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