✨ #JustLikeYou is a weekly episode where we interview all types of different third culture kids who are #JustLikeYou on sex, intimacy, and on how to navigate life.

🦋 This week we had a little chat with Amber Akilla. Amber is a Chinese-Australian multi-disciplinary creative. She is best known as a DJ and has done work as a creative producer and consultant working with brands like Nike, Adidas, and more. In 2018, she co-founded NVSHU, Chinese for "Women's Skill". The project began as women and LGBTQ+-focused DJ workshop and evolved into connecting creatives across different disciplines. Through her personal project and podcast, Friend Crush, she shares the evolution in her understanding and perspectives on human connection, creativity, and authenticity as a way to encourage others to embrace the journey of self-understanding and empowerment.



💜 Listen in to hear what her learnings were on sexuality and intimacy while growing up in Australia and working in Shanghai, what it means to "self empower" and why having babies is overrated.



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The topics we talk about with Amber Akilla:

01:40 Intro to Amber: where she’s from, where she grew up

03:03 What nationality does amber identify with?

03:27 What did you study and what did you want to become?

05:30 Amber's first awkward sexual moment

06:54 Amber's worst sexual moment

07:35 Would you date a guy after a first bad kiss?

08:40 How did you learn about sexual wellness and how do you keep informed right now?

09:36 Did you talk about sex with friends?

10:00 Amber opening up about racial identity versus sexual identity

11:00 The most compelling TikTok Amber came across on TikTok: Amber's finding that the body automatically responds to creating wetness/discharge to the idea of sexuality but what we conceptualize in our minds is different (primal reactions versus intelligent responses)

13:00 Men and performance anxiety, being turned on mentally but being physically inept

14:05 Socialization of genders

16:20 Going to an all-girls school and how that impacted Amber's views on sexuality and gender

19:30 How did Amber's mom respond to Amber not putting her law degree to use and becoming a DJ and creative consultant

20:34 Does it feel easier to be female in the creative space versus, for instance, working in law?

22:00 Our experiences working in corporate as women in Shanghai and inequality in China in general

30:38 Your biggest lessons regarding wellness and sexual wellness and intimacy that Amber has discovered - Amber on connecting with yourself and to learn what your boundaries are, and how boundaries affect all aspects in your li