You know the message you need to send - your body knows it too. The heart race at each notification, the late‑night rehearsals, the drafts you delete because every time you raise a concern it explodes into denial or a character assassination. Today we go straight to that paralysis and unpack why it isn’t a “communication skills” problem at all, but a control dynamic that punishes you for advocating for your kids.

Then we offer a practical path out, but none of this sticks without nervous system capacity - with regulation first and strategy second, you can finally stop chasing “magic words” and "silver bullets", and start building momentum. 

The goal isn’t perfection; it’s progress you can feel - fewer 2am intrusive thoughts, steadier changeovers, stronger evidence if orders need to be varied, and more presence with your kids.

If you’re done being labelled “high conflict” for protecting your children, this conversation gives you language, structure, and tools to act. Follow, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review telling us the one boundary you’re putting in place this week.

About Danielle Black:

Danielle Black is a respected authority in child-focused post-separation parenting in Australia, helping parents cut through professional pressure and harmful myths to make decisions, and advocate strategically, based on what their children actually need.

Having worked in the education, counselling and coaching space for over twenty years - with experience navigating her own complex separation and divorce - Danielle has guided hundreds of clients to successful outcomes.

Ready to transform your approach to parenting after separation? Learn more by visiting the website: danielleblackcoaching.com.au

*This podcast is not legal advice and is provided for educational and informational purposes only.

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