If you are not feeling amazing about something, say No.

Throw yourself into projects that resonate with your process. Say hell yeah when you feel like you need to start something and are willing to drop something else because of that.

I started to say No in 2006, when I was 27 years old. I thought I had to say yes to everything otherwise I was going to lose opportunities.

I had fear inside every possible no. What would they say if I can’t show up into that event? What people say if I say what I believe? If I don’t see that talk, how can I keep up with my colleagues? How can I find more ways to sleep less and produce more, so I can have more time available and so I don’t need to say no?

Wrong question.

The question, actually two questions… (1) what are my limits? And (2) what are my needs?

With question 1, about limits we can understand what will drop automatically when we think about yes/no decisions. With question 2, you understand what is the real need you have now. It’s not about desire. They will come and go. Think about needs.

You can create choices, always. If you miss an event, schedule a pair session with someone to share thoughts with you about the talk. If you miss a party, call the person scheduling the party and share how happy you are with the party and with the best.

Saying no is not the end of the world. It’s the start to feel present and feel JOY every time you say no.

Saying no is about saying yes to you, your needs and your limits.

And if you have people close to you saying something like “I can’t say no, I have a very difficult time doing that!”, remember them that they are able to say no to themselves every single time they say yes to someone else.

— Daniel Wildt

P.S.: I was listening Derek Sivers and his classic text Hell Yeah or No. https://youtu.be/1ehWlVeMrqw