How can parents better partner with schools and protect their kids’ capacity?

In this episode of All Aboard ADHD, Claire is joined by expert guest Kate Steer to discuss the daily challenges faced by neurodivergent children in the classroom, and how we as parents can partner positively with schools to better support our children's needs. Kate is a neurodivergent family coach, education consultant, former teacher, and founder of Nurtured Neuro Kids. She specialises in supporting children with autism and ADHD, alongside their families.

Claire and Kate discuss:

• What it’s like being “That Parent” and how a reframe can help to see advocating for your child, as a badge of honour

• Why “just coping” through school isn’t good enough for our children and how rigid, one-size-fits-all systems can put neurodivergent kids at a disadvantage

• The impact of flexibility and interest-led learning in school, plus why school policy often creates a barrier - for example using children’s interests (e.g. rollercoasters or dinosaurs) to unlock motivation vs how whole-school rules (e.g. no laptops until Year 5) can often block support that could benefit all children

• Understanding reasonable adjustments as a legal entitlement under the Equality Act, plus how to identify your child’s biggest challenges and advocate for what they need

• The potential sensory triggers our kids encounter throughout the school day and how they can be supported within the classroom to help regulation with accommodations like movement breaks and fidgets (which are “tools, not toys”!)

• Practical tips to support children with their home routines, capacity and after-school decompression, such as keeping demands low and having lots of snacks available!

• Ideas for smoother transitions, for example, navigating drop-offs and “making the unfamiliar feel familiar” when going back after the school holidays

This episode is honest, validating, and essential listening for any parent standing up for their neurodivergent child within a system that often doesn’t fit or suit their needs. Kate encourages parents to trust their instincts, parent the way their child needs, and find their community.

Kate’s home-educated neurodivergent son is patiently playing off camera whilst she and Claire recorded this conversation, so you will hear some toy noises in the background.

Further resources and links

Learn more about Kate Steer: https://www.nurturedneurokids.com/

Follow Kate on Instagram: @nurturedneurokids

For more information on understanding reasonable adjustments as a legal entitlement under the Equality Act, listen to the All Aboard ADHD Episode “SEN at School” with Laurent Lambert https://www.allaboardadhd.com/blog/sen-at-school-senco-lauren-lambert 

EBSA is a term used to describe children and young people (CYP) who experience challenges in attending school due to negative feelings (such as anxiety). Find out more here: https://www.supportservicesforeducation.co.uk/page/20029 

ADHD coaching & resources from Claire: https://allaboardadhd.com

Follow Claire on Instagram & TikTok: @allaboardADHD

The views shared in this episode are those of the guest, based on their personal experience and professional expertise. This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical, educational, or psychological advice. Please consult a qualified professional for personalised support relevant to your individual circumstances.