EP132 The difference between behavior-based and identity-based changed
Description
How often do you pour a drink that you wish you had the willpower to resist?
There’s a big difference between knowing what you should do and having the motivation to follow through.
The mistake most people make when they want to cut back on their drinking is to use an all or nothing approach. Because it seems easier to avoid alcohol than to worry about that slippery slope of temptation.
But if you’re in the habit of overdrinking, you’ve come to see yourself as someone who likes to drink more than you should. Which means that no matter how good it feels to wake up without a hangover, you’ll eventually feel deprived or get tired of making the effort.
In contrast, people in the habit of stopping when they’ve had enough see themselves as moderate drinkers. Turning down another drink doesn’t feel hard for them. Because they really don’t want it.
Everything you think, feel and do is a reflection of your self-image. Trying to change how you drink before changing how you see yourself forces you to swim against a riptide of subconscious programming.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
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Why setting behavior-based goals such as limiting yourself to two drinks is a fast-pass to failure
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How to improve your self-image without denying you want to change
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The four phases of neuroplasticity that explain why it’s not possible to change all at once
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Practical strategies for how to use willpower to design processes that make it easier to drink in moderation
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