DiscoverShadow Work, WTF?Ep. 119: Why 10 Years of Personal Development Didn't Work (Until Shadow Work): Student Spotlight with Lucy
Ep. 119: Why 10 Years of Personal Development Didn't Work (Until Shadow Work): Student Spotlight with Lucy

Ep. 119: Why 10 Years of Personal Development Didn't Work (Until Shadow Work): Student Spotlight with Lucy

Update: 2025-08-27
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In this episode, Caitlin and Lurinda sit down with Lucy, a mum of three who's been in the personal development space for a decade. Lucy gets honest about why all that mindset work and manifestation coaching helped her intellectually but never actually healed anything, and how Shadow Alchemy became the first approach that actually worked.

From judging women in the gym to realising she was projecting her own desire for confidence, Lucy shares the messy truth about spiritual bypassing and what it really takes to move from understanding your patterns to actually healing them. Plus, some excellent tangents about going clubbing in your 30s and why we stop having fun as adults.

This episode is for you if:


  • You've done years of mindset work but keep running the same bloody patterns
  • You judge other women's confidence and secretly wish you had it too
  • You can connect all the dots about your childhood trauma but still feel triggered by the same stuff
  • You've lost parts of yourself to motherhood or "adulting" and want them back

What we'll cover:


  • Why Lucy used to judge women in the gym and what that really meant
  • The difference between intellectually understanding your patterns and actually healing them
  • How spiritual bypassing keeps you stuck in analysis without feeling
  • What happened when Lucy finally let her alterego come out at the nightclub


Resources Mentioned:


  • Shadow Alchemy Certification: shadowalchemycoaching.com
  • Shadow Alchemy Coaching Academy: @shadowalchemycoachingacademy

Connect with Us:

This conversation will probably make you think about all the parts of yourself you've shut down in the name of being "appropriate." Share your thoughts with us @shadowalchemycoachingacademy - especially if you're ready to stop intellectualising your way through healing.

If you've been doing mindset work for years but still find yourself stuck in the same patterns, maybe it's time to stop thinking your way through your trauma and start feeling it. Lucy's story is proof that understanding yourself isn't the same as healing yourself - sometimes you need to get out of your head and into your body. And maybe, just maybe, you need to go dancing.

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Ep. 119: Why 10 Years of Personal Development Didn't Work (Until Shadow Work): Student Spotlight with Lucy

Ep. 119: Why 10 Years of Personal Development Didn't Work (Until Shadow Work): Student Spotlight with Lucy

Caitlin Clark | Shadow Alchemy Coaching Academy