Many people often describe themselves as “conflict avoidant.” Some who ascribe to this label see it as a problem or hurdle they have to overcome, while others are seemingly okay with this being a character trait they possess. But, never have we heard someone talk about this phenomenon as something to be desired.

That said, is it possible that we intuitively know that being conflict avoidant at minimum isn’t helpful for our relationships, and at most, hurtful? If so, does this mean that we intuitively understand that conflict not only can be good for relationships, but also necessary for the growth and development of the relationship?

In this episode, Carrie and Josh discuss these types of nuances to this common couple phenomenon we often refer to as “conflict.”

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00:00 - Hi Carrie!

01:55 - Overview

11:14 - Difference in Good and Bad Conflict'

18:20 - Good Pain vs. Bad Pain

25:35 - Not About Winning or Losing.

31:30 - Conflict as a Doorway to Intimacy

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Books & Other Helpful Resources

Speaker-Listener Technique - https://marriagemissions.com/speaker-listener-technique/

Fighting for Your Marriage Book - https://amzn.to/3v2IPq3

The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage work - https://amzn.to/3IuBMtm

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Therapy Resources:

Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com

Betrayal Trauma Therapist Directory: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357

The Gottman Institute (Relationship Research) - https://www.gottman.com/

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About the Hosts

Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com.

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