Episode 17: A Narcissistic Bio Mum & Why Nobody Wins in Court
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If you’ve ever dealt with a high-conflict bio mum, felt scared of the court process, or questioned your sanity inside a chaotic co-parenting dynamic, this episode will hit home. Lucy shares her extraordinary story of navigating the court system while dealing with a bio mum with multiple personality disorders — and the emotional toll it took on everyone involved.
⚠️ Content note: This episode includes discussions of emotional, psychological and physical abuse. Please take care while listening.
In this episode, Katie talks to Lucy* about the reality behind the courtroom doors, the impact of high-conflict behaviour on the children, and the deep resilience required to survive situations that feel unfair, unsafe and overwhelming.
They explore why “nobody wins in court,” how to stay grounded in your truth when you’re being pushed to breaking point, and why prioritising your relationship with your partner is essential when the external pressure becomes too much.
Lucy’s honesty, strength and compassion shine through — offering validation and hope to any stepmum living through something similar.
Not her real name.
In This Episode We Explore:
- What it’s really like to co-parent with someone displaying narcissistic traits
- The emotional, psychological and physical toll of high-conflict dynamics
- How court impacts stepmums, partners and children — long after it’s over
- Why “winning” in court rarely feels like a win
- How to stay centred when you’re being gaslit or manipulated
- The importance of aligning with your partner as a united team
- How to protect your emotional wellbeing in situations you can’t control
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Keywords:
high conflict bio mum, narcissistic co-parenting, stepmum court process, stepmum emotional abuse, struggling stepmum, blended family conflict, family court realities, toxic co-parenting dynamics, stepmum support, stepmum podcast
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You are not alone, and what you’re feeling is valid — even in situations that make you doubt yourself.



