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If you’ve ever pushed your own needs aside, tried to be “the perfect stepmum,” or carried emotions you didn’t feel allowed to express, this episode will feel like a deep breath out. Helen shares two decades of stepmum wisdom — the mistakes, the regrets, the breakthroughs — and the powerful reminder that you don’t have to be the hero to everyone else.

In this episode, Katie talks to Helen, a stepmum veteran with 20 years of experience. Today, Helen enjoys a strong marriage and a close, loving relationship with her adult stepchildren — but the journey wasn’t easy. She opens up about the jealousy, anger and resentment she buried for years, the boundaries she wishes she’d set sooner, and the self-compassion she’s finally learned to give herself.

Together, they explore the importance of asking for what you want, owning your needs, and recognising that looking after yourself isn’t selfish — it’s essential.

Thank you Helen, for your honesty, humour and heart.

In This Episode We Explore:

• Why so many stepmums try to be the “hero” at their own expense
• The emotions Helen hid for years — and how they affected the family dynamic
• What she wishes she’d done differently (and what she’d do again)
• Why you must ask for what you want — clearly and without apology
• How relationships with stepkids can transform over time
• The importance of compassion, boundaries and self-respect
• What 20 years of hindsight teaches you about stepmum stress

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Keywords:
stepmum advice, experienced stepmum, 20 years stepmum, stepmum resentment, stepmum boundaries, asking for what you need, stepmum self-care, blended family wisdom, struggling stepmum, stepmum podcast, emotional support for stepmums

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You don’t have to carry everything. You’re allowed to take up space, ask for more, and look after yourself too.

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