DiscoverStoicism: The Unconquerable MindEpisode 18 – Justice: On Dealing with Difficult People
Episode 18 – Justice: On Dealing with Difficult People

Episode 18 – Justice: On Dealing with Difficult People

Update: 2025-08-26
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This episode offers practical Stoic wisdom for one of life's most common challenges: dealing with difficult, annoying, or even malicious people. It begins with Marcus Aurelius's famous morning meditation, where he would prepare himself by anticipating the uncharitable, treacherous, and envious individuals he would likely encounter throughout his day. This was not a pessimistic exercise, but a form of mental preparation designed to prevent being emotionally hijacked by the negative actions of others.


The episode unpacks the core Stoic strategy for this challenge: recognizing that the wrongdoing of others is ultimately not within our control and stems from their own ignorance of what is truly good. This perspective allows us to respond with a degree of empathy and understanding, rather than with reactive anger or frustration. Furthermore, the Stoics remind us that we are social creatures, made for cooperation. Even difficult people are part of our shared humanity, and our task is to find a way to work with them, or at least endure them, without compromising our own inner peace and virtue.


The ultimate goal is to maintain our own tranquility and integrity, regardless of how others behave. This involves applying the "discipline of assent"—choosing not to be harmed by an insult or injury, because the true harm lies not in the external act, but in our own judgment about it. By mastering these internal responses, we can navigate even the most challenging interpersonal situations with an unshakeable sense of calm and a steadfast commitment to our own ethical principles.

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Episode 18 – Justice: On Dealing with Difficult People

Episode 18 – Justice: On Dealing with Difficult People

Maitt Saiwyer