Episode 41: Becoming Unstuck: Why Perfectionism & People-Pleasing are Making You Sick with Shenal Arimilli
Description
In this powerful conversation, Dr. Mary sits down with fellow physical therapist and cancer survivor Shanel Arimilli to unpack how perfectionism, people-pleasing, and chronic stress patterns can silently sabotage your health. Shanel shares her personal journey—how a cancer diagnosis ultimately guided her transformation from a traditional PT to a holistic healer.
Together, they explore the intersection of quantum physics, neuroscience, human physiology, and spirituality, and how true healing goes far beyond just treating symptoms. If you’ve ever felt stuck, burnt out, or like your body is begging for help while you're trying to “do everything right,” this episode will speak to you.
00:00 Introduction to TMI Talk with Dr. Mary
00:15 Meet Shanel Arimilli: A Journey from Physical Therapy to Healing
02:14 Diving into Shanel's Cancer Journey and Healing
05:46 The Power of Emotions and Intuition in Medicine
07:42 Understanding Pain and Its Messages
11:59 Integrating Physical and Spiritual Healing
25:27 The Role of Patterns in Healing
34:31 Exploring Different Types of Journaling
34:46 Understanding and Connecting with Emotions
40:34 The Importance of Asking for Help
41:17 Healing Through Community and Self-Awareness
44:01 Personal Stories of Overcoming Cancer
52:06 The Power of Imagination and Self-Discovery
52:50 Challenging Societal Norms and Embracing Authenticity
55:36 Taking Baby Steps Towards Self-Improvement
56:38 Final Thoughts and Resources for Healing
You can learn more about Shenal here
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