Excellence doesn’t require obsession—it requires integration.

We’ve all heard the advice: focus on one thing, say no to everything else, single-minded purpose is the path to success. Books like Gary Keller’s The One Thing and Greg McKeown’s Essentialism make a powerful case for focus. But what happens when that focus becomes obsession?

In this episode of Tales from The Lane, Kate unpacks the dark side of a single-minded pursuit—burnout, isolation, and the crushing disappointment of reaching the “top” only to find it lonely. Drawing on insights from Benjamin Hardy, research from the Harvard Study of Adult Development, and real-world examples from Yo-Yo Ma to Venus Williams, Kate makes the case for a different kind of excellence.

One rooted in balance, relationships, and impact.

You’ll learn:

• Why obsession is not the same as excellence.

• How even your biggest achievements can feel hollow without integration.

• The critical role relationships and contribution play in long-term fulfillment.

• Practical strategies for pursuing excellence without sacrificing everything else.

If you’ve ever felt the pressure to “go all in” on one singular purpose—or if you’ve achieved success but still feel something’s missing—this episode is for you.

Tales from The Lane is the podcast for high achievers and successful creatives who want more than just accomplishments—they want a deeply fulfilling life.

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