Sober lifestyle creator Suzanne Warye joins Alysse and Tamar to dismantle mommy-wine culture, talk perimenopause in recovery and share how getting sober before the pandemic — with three kids — sparked her mission to help moms trade moderation gymnastics for self-trust and community. We cover identity, shame, “Irish goodbyes” and why sober connection is the REAL life hack.    

Takeaways :

• Sobriety is a proactive choice—don’t wait to “qualify” by losing something big.  
• Moderation rules keep you stuck; flipping the script makes alcohol lose its pedestal.  
• Perimenopause + alcohol = suffering; recovery supports sleep, mood, and sanity.  
• Community (virtual or local) is essential—“we’re only as sick as our secrets.”  
• Gen X superpower: fewer f’s to give; stronger boundaries with age and sobriety.  

Timestamps: 

[01:07 ] - Vibe checks 

[20:51 ] - Suzanne’s pivot: “I quit Jan 19, 2020” and why she didn’t wait to hit bottom.    

[29:28 ] - Calling out alcohol-soaked culture and the moderation myth.    

[43:01 ] - Community as a home base in sobriety (and pants optional).    

[53:29 ] - Tchotchke of the Week: Goonies Little People cameo.   

Resources & Links: 

-Suzanne Warye: Website, Instagram, Facebook 

-Podcast: The Sober Mom Life 

-Book: "The Sober Shift" 

-Meet the Contributors 

-Alcohol + Substance Use Disorder Guide 

-Recovery Nonprofit Resource Guide 

-LBGTQ+ Recovery Resource Guide 

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Sobriety isn’t the end of the party—it’s just the start of a better one. Hosted by Alysse Bryson, media powerhouse and sobriety’s ultimate hype woman, and joined by Sober Curator contributors, The Sober Curator Podcast* delivers bold convos, pop culture deep dives, and zero-proof living that doesn’t suck. Whether you're sober, sober-curious, or just looking for good vibes without the hangover, we’ve got you covered. Subscribe now—because getting sober matters, staying sober matters more. 

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