Girly law of power #27: Start being mean
Description
Niceness is a scam. Being "nice" describes someone who is polite and pleasant to be around, focusing on surface-level interactions and social harmony. It's a performance. It's how the patriarchy grooms us for exploitation and disrespect, because the nice girl is taught to that being liked is more important than being respected.
Being mean is the opposite of that -- it's prioritizing being respected more than being liked. (& I don't mean acting like Regina George.)
In this episode, we discuss:
- What it means to be mean
- Why being mean is a form of self-protection & self-preservation
- The 2 main reasons why people will use guilt, shame, and punishment to force you into being nice
- An example of one of my fave historical baddies who was successfully mean
✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.
Love, Neeki xo
About the podcast: Patriarchal power runs like software. Once you understand its code and where its bugs are, you can easily hack it. Inspired by The 48 Laws of Power, The Baddest Bitch in the Building is the first and only podcast discussing how to hack the patriarchy by teaching thousands of women how to:
- Use the patriarchy's loopholes to your advantage
- Unlearn the invisible conditioning keeping you small
- Stop letting guilt and shame control you
- No longer feel depleted in your relationships
- Apply psychological strategies to get what you want
- Understand human nature so well, you'll always win
About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies. That’s where I learned firsthand that power isn’t given – it’s either taken or created.
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