Jay explains many deception tactics he used to hide his addiction. From robotic denials to fake confusion, playing dumb to calculated outbursts, this video exposes the manipulation patterns that betrayed partners recognize but often can't prove. It also covers:



-Specific moments Lori caught him using these tactics

-Addicts’ delusions and brain fog

-Calculated timing of confessions

-Partial truths



If you're a betrayed partner questioning your sanity or an addict wondering how long your tactics will work, this conversation will open your eyes. The lies addicts think are CLEVER are actually TRANSPARENT—and prolonging deception only makes healing harder for everyone.



Timestamps

00:00 Intro

01:31 What tactics did you use to lie and cover up your porn use?

02:28 Minimizing is lying

03:48 Becoming re-sensitized

05:35 Ever play dumb or fake confusion to avoid getting caught?

06:27 USED THE TRUTH to make your lies more believable?

07:54 Addicts test the waters by dripping the information out

10:03 Ever knowingly PLAYED UPON MY SYMPATHIES?

12:08 Phrases or emotion did you fake to throw me off?

13:12 Robotic lines

13:53 Using anger to hide

15:15 Ever not think too hard?

16:22 The DELUSIONAL Brain Fog*

17:18 Ever used my trauma fog or MY KINDNESS against me?

17:55 Waited me out, hoping I would forget?

20:02 What tactics did we forget? Let us know in the comments.



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Who is This Channel For?



If porn addiction has you stuck--whether you want freedom as an addict, or you want the pain to stop as a betrayed spouse, or you need trust rebuilt in your relationship--this podcast can help. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay’s porn addiction, but we found ways to make life and marriage much better than before. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we’re using those best practices to help you find the peace, joy and love you’re seeking.



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