In this emotionally rich and affirming episode of Blindsight, host Bill Lundgren welcomes back therapist Darran Zenger for a deep conversation on the often misunderstood emotion of happiness. Together, they dissect the difference between genuine happiness, put-on smiles, and the more enduring sensation of joy.


Darran opens up about his own challenges, including navigating life with Usher Syndrome, and how reframing small moments—like enjoying French fries or a favorite soda—can rewire the mind toward happiness. He emphasizes that happiness is a moment-to-moment experience, while joy is the cumulative result of consistent presence and meaningful connection.



Bill and Darran also discuss:

Why society often discourages men from feeling emotions

How feelings are tools, not judgments

The subtle ways addiction can numb happiness

The power of gratitude and vulnerability

Why we need to give ourselves permission to be happy

From McDonald’s Coke to Brene Brown’s research, this episode is a vibrant blend of personal stories, clinical wisdom, and soul-nourishing reminders that you’re not alone—and that you deserve to feel happy.



Chapter Markers:

00:03 – Welcome to Blindsight: Introducing feelings series

01:52 – Men, emotions, and societal norms

04:45 – What is happiness? Reframing and redefining joy

07:13 – Positive affirmations and “fake it till you make it”

09:38 – Blindness, dating, and reframing rejection

11:48 – The power of identity beyond disability

13:57 – Connection over perfection and Brene Brown’s research

16:22 – Joy vs. happiness: Daily choices and long-term reward

18:31 – Outdoor joy: Hiking and hunting analogies

20:45 – Chemical imbalance, grief, and suppressing emotion

23:12 – The danger of judging emotions as “bad” or “good”

25:35 – Emotional numbness: Brene Brown and the hand analogy

27:59 – Using emotions as data: Embracing the full spectrum

30:25 – Permission for happiness and being your own worst critic

32:48 – Comparing ourselves, social media, and boundaries

35:13 – Final encouragement: Give yourself grace and pursue connection



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