On this Seeking Integrity webinar, Dr. Rob and Tami answer listener questions about cheating, betrayal, sex and more. They address recovery, disclosure, and setting healthy boundaries throughout the recovery process, and offer a realistic timeline for partners to move from betrayal to intimacy and healing.

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[:30] My wife is using my body for sex. Is this just a libido mismatch?

[9:30 ] Setting boundaries after hearing sex threats.

[12:09 ] My partner and I are doing everything right. When will the next chapter start?

[18:15 ] A little about Dr. Rob’s books and his editor Scott.

[22:30 ] Is formal disclosure really necessary?

[25:51 ] How do we navigate the balance between romantic and sexual connection with the need for space and individual healing?

[28:18 ] Distinguishing between sexual entitlement and the need for validation.

[34:20 ] How does ADHD impact betrayal and recovery?

[37:08 ] My husband doesn’t want to label himself as a sex addict. Now what?

[45:37 ] How can I forgive and move on for my child while still navigating grief?

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss

Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss

Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.

 

QUOTES

● “There is no difference between a sex addict and someone who uses sex to self-regulate.”

● “In recovery, you’re learning to live life on a completely different plane than you did before.”

● “If you want to learn and keep moving forward, you will.”

● “You cannot make your partner do anything they don’t want to do.”

● “Forgiveness is something I do for myself.”