No matter what you do, you’ll never make everyone happy.

Considering other people’s feelings and treating them with kindness is something we should all strive to do. But sacrificing our wellbeing to make others happy is not. When you compromise who you are and what you need, people-pleasing has crossed the line from kind and generous to self-abandonment — not being your authentic self because you’re afraid others will disapprove, criticise, or reject you.

In this episode, I touch on people pleasing signs and offer practical solutions to help you stop people pleasing.

According to Psychologists, the following 15 signs indicate you’re a people-pleaser

How many signs of people-pleasing do you recognise in yourself?

1. You want everyone to like you.


2. You over-apologise.


3. You crave validation.


4. You let people take advantage of you.


5. You feel guilty or mean when you set boundaries.


6. You’re afraid of conflict.


7. You’ve always been a “good girl” (or guy); a rule-follower.


8. You think self-care is optional.


9. You feel tense, anxious, or on-edge.


10. You expect yourself to be perfect and hold yourself to high standards.


11. You put yourself last and don’t know how to ask for what you need.


12. You’re sensitive to criticism.


13. You think your feelings, needs, opinions, and ideas aren’t as important as other people’s


14. You're a "fixer"; you hate to see anyone hurt, afraid, sad, or uncomfortable.



15. You resent always being asked to do more and wish people would consider your feelings and needs.

    
    

Remember, you can’t make everyone happy. You can fool yourself for a while, just like I did. But at some point, what you really want and who you really are will catch up with you. If you give yourself permission to pursue what you really want, you can be more at peace with yourself and your life!.

References and self help guides:

• People Pleaser: 22 Signs and Tips (healthline.com)


• Are You a People Pleaser? | Psychology Today United Kingdom


• 8 Ways to Stop Being a People-Pleaser (verywellmind.com)

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