FIGURING OUT INTIMACY, BOUNDARIES & DESIRE

Keywords: intimacy coordination, sex positivity, BDSM, kink, intimacy, consent, sexual education, film industry, Me Too movement, body autonomy

summary

In this conversation, Erin Tillman, an intimacy coordinator, discusses the evolution and importance of intimacy coordination in film and television, particularly in the wake of the Me Too movement. She explains the role of intimacy coordinators in ensuring safety and comfort for actors during intimate scenes, and how this profession has become essential in modern storytelling. The discussion also delves into the concepts of sex positivity, BDSM, and the dynamics of desire, emphasizing the importance of communication and consent in all aspects of sexual expression. Erin shares her personal journey in the field and highlights the significance of creating safe spaces for exploration and understanding in sexual relationships.

takeaways

• Intimacy coordinators ensure safety and comfort in intimate scenes.


• The Me Too movement catalyzed the need for intimacy coordinators.


• Sex positivity is about not shaming consensual choices.


• BDSM can be empowering and is based on consent.


• Communication is key in navigating sexual desires.


• Intimacy coordination is a growing profession in the film industry.


• Play parties can vary greatly in rules and expectations.


• Self-exploration is crucial for understanding personal desires.


• Safety and consent are paramount in all sexual interactions.


• Desire is versatile and should not be confined to boxes.

titles

• Navigating Intimacy in Film: The Role of Coordinators


• The Evolution of Intimacy Coordination Post-Me Too

Sound Bites

• "It's all about finding the joy."


• "I have so much more to say now."


• "You can change, you can shift."

Chapters

00:00

Introduction to Healing and Exploration

00:00

Introduction to Healing and Exploration

00:02

The Role of Psychotherapy in Personal Liberation

00:20

Introduction to Erin Tillman and Her Work

01:18

Exploring Intimacy and Boundaries

01:19

Introduction to Intimacy Coordination

04:14

The Role of Intimacy Coordinators

07:07

Choreography of Intimacy

10:28

The Evolution of Intimacy Coordination

13:22

Navigating Sex Scenes Without Coordinators

16:20

The Importance of Sex Positivity

19:31

Personal Journeys in Sex Positivity

22:24

Exploring BDSM and Kink

25:11

Understanding BDSM Categories

32:46

Exploring Kink and BDSM Dynamics

35:49

The Empowerment of Dominance and Submission

38:37

The Fluidity of Roles in Kink

41:06

Navigating Desire and Communication

51:55

Understanding Play Parties and Their Dynamics

56:19

The Importance of Sex Education and Societal Impact

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