My Sober Dating Diary Pt2 - Bath Bombs To Boundaries

Update: 2025-07-16

Description

We're diving into part two of my sober dating diary—a real-life story that involves a cute date, an unexpected trip to a cannabis shop, and a bath bomb that turned into a major wake-up call.

Dating after divorce is awkward enough. But when you're sober and your date casually suggests a relaxing soak in a "CBD" bath—you learn pretty quickly who respects your boundaries and who treats your sobriety like a buzzkill.

I also share:

The truth about "California sober" and why it doesn't work for me

How people-pleasing and old patterns can sneak back in, even after years of sobriety

Why I walked away and what it taught me about owning my sobriety, unapologetically

This story is for anyone who's ever compromised a little too much to seem “chill,” or needed a reminder that you're allowed to have boundaries—and you're allowed to walk away when someone crosses them.

✨ Your sobriety isn’t just “okay”—it’s powerful, it’s valid, and it deserves to be honored.

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Highlights

[00:00 ] First dates after divorce—applying mascara for the first time in years and meeting someone who doesn’t drink

[01:10 ] When a park stroll turns into a casual detour to a cannabis shop (um, red flag?)

[01:55 ] What “California sober” really means—and why it’s not part of my recovery

[02:50 ] The power of “playing the tape forward” and how it helps me avoid old traps

[04:00 ] He says it’s just a CBD bath bomb. I ask (repeatedly) if it has THC. He says no.

[05:10 ] Ten minutes into the tub and I’m feeling like a human gummy bear

[06:00 ] The bold print truth: Delta-8 THC. And a sinking feeling—literally.

[06:45 ] Why I ignored my instincts to be the “cool girl”—and what it cost me