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Navigating the Default Parent Role: How Modern Moms Can Share Parenting Responsibilities

Navigating the Default Parent Role: How Modern Moms Can Share Parenting Responsibilities

Update: 2025-06-09
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The Mental Load of the Default Parent (Even in a Great Partnership)

In this episode of The Early-Momming Podcast, Hillary and Erica dive into the complex and often overwhelming role of being the “default parent.” Even in supportive, balanced partnerships, moms often carry the emotional and mental weight of parenting—and it adds up fast.

Join Hillary and Erica as they discuss:



 
  • What it means to be the default parent (and how to tell if it’s you)
     
  • Why communication is essential to maintaining connection and reducing resentment
     
  • How modern dads—Millennial and Gen Z—are showing up differently
     
  • Practical strategies to divide responsibilities without constant reminders
     
  • The emotional toll of being “in charge” of everything, even when your partner helps
     
  • How to reset boundaries and shift expectations in a healthier direction

    Whether you're in the baby trenches or chasing toddlers while juggling a job, this conversation will help you feel seen—and give you language and tools to talk about it at home.

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    About Hillary: Hillary is a board-certified lactation consultant, masters-level registered nurse, author of Babies Made Simple, mom of four, and the founder/lead consultant at Baby Settler located in Charleston, SC (virtually worldwide). 

    Disclaimer: This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always consult your healthcare provider regarding questions or concerns about your or your baby’s health.

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    Navigating the Default Parent Role: How Modern Moms Can Share Parenting Responsibilities

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