Relationship and Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt talked about her childhood with an abusive father and how his violence and addiction created this feeling of vulnerability and fear in her at an early age.  She had to be hyper vigilant and on point to avoid the wrath which created a need to be perfect and accepted by people in her life.  This began her life long journey of seeking approval and the relationships that mirrored to her the lesson of healing and knowing her own self worth.

At a young age she dropped out of college and hitched ride on a Semi her uncle was driving down to L.A. with the dream of being a dancer.  Without a green card her only option was to accept a dancing opportunity in the Four Seasons Japan.  It was through dancing topless and sharing her feelings with her fellow French dancers of feeling a bit dirty and ashamed, they taught her that her body is a temple to be loved.  She embraced the goddess within learning to transmute that gross energy coming from the men into respect and bowing to her as she performed.

She then met and married a multimillionaire and being young she found herself deferring to his knowledge, wealth and success and diminishing herself and self esteem.  She was enticed by the 5 star vacations and luxury lifestyle they had in N.Y. to stay, but ultimately had to choose herself and divorced him.  

Shortly thereafter she met husband number two and the father of her son Gabriel.  She was vulnerable at the time because her mom was dying of cancer.  She had a spiritual awareness as she looked at her mom's lifeless body that she was moving through pain towards love, then 9 months later had the reverse experience with the birth of her son, experiencing pure love that switched to fear and pain wondering how she would care for this precious baby.  Her marriage fell apart shortly after turning into a 13 year custody battle where her reputation was tarnished and cost her $250,000 and losing her home.  Her ex fought dirty during the custody battle and at the end of 13 years her son made a huge show of wanting to live with his Dad.  The door was open so his father could witness the whole thing.  This left her absolutely gutted as she crumpled on the floor.  

She has since done energy work and her own healing process to fully let go of her son Gabe who she hasn't had contact with in 2 years. There has been a tremendous growth in her surrender.  Since then her business has thrived as a Relationship Coach, published author of 6 books, guest appearances on major networks including coaching Leeza Gibbons on Dancing with the Stars. She is currently creating a relationship app called Heart Mates where you become the ONE to attract the ONE and made a bold decision to go to India for a few months to make sure the app is done right!

Learn more about Allana's offerings at https://www.allanapratt.com where you can schedule a one on one session, sign up for her newsletter, or join her Heart Mates group.  You can also follow her on her podcast Intimate Conversations online and find her on Instagram, FB and other social media outlets.  

To learn about me, Wendy Hutchinson, the host of this podcast, visit my website: https://www.alinealifecoaching.com where you can purchase my book "Finding the Path of Me" and sign up for my newsletter.  

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