Is it really a red flag… or just human?

In this episode of The Relationship Pod, I sit down with our in-house psychotherapist, Reshma, to unpack what’s gone wrong with how we use the term 'red flag' in today’s dating culture. We explore how trauma, attachment styles, and fast-paced social media trends have transformed this once-useful concept into something that can actually block intimacy.

Together, we get into:

🚩 How “red flag” culture has shifted from protection to perfectionism

🧠 Why our nervous systems and trauma responses can distort what we see in others

⏳ The pressure to judge fast—and how it’s keeping us disconnected 💬 The real markers of healthy connection: empathy, boundaries, and repair

❤️ Why building trust means unpacking our baggage together, not avoiding it entirely

This conversation is honest, deep, and filled with nuance, because real relationships are nuanced. If you’re feeling burnt out by dating, stuck in loneliness, or overwhelmed by what’s “okay” and what’s not… this episode is for you.