In this Wellish conversation, I'm sitting down with Erica Bonham — licensed professional counselor, somatic and attachment-focused EMDR trainer, and author of Always Enough, Never Done — to explore why healing can’t be thought into existence.

Together, we're dive into the messy, liberating truth that self-criticism and overthinking don’t create transformation. Instead, real healing asks us to trust the body’s wisdom, practice radical self-compassion, and make peace with imperfection.

This episode unpacks:

• Why your brain alone can’t heal trauma — and what the body knows that the mind can’t
• The neuroscience of emotional regulation and why self-criticism backfires
• The dance between self-reflection and self-compassion in personal growth
• Boundaries that connect vs. boundaries that isolate
• The impact of ancestral trauma on both individual and collective healing
• How to hold space for pain without getting stuck in toxic positivity
• Why embracing uncertainty and mystery is central to growth

If you’ve ever felt like you’re “bad at healing” because you still get triggered or spiral into old patterns, this conversation is here to remind you: healing doesn’t require perfection — it requires compassion, embodiment, and being just wellish enough.

Resources:

Poly Vagal Nerve Exercises

Signed Book Always Enough Never Done

Work with Erica!