Talk More, Listen Less—to Yourself: How to Reframe Negative Self-Talk and Lead with Confidence.

In this episode of Change Agent Leadership, Jonathan Hankin flips the classic phrase “talk less, listen more” on its head—and applies it to your internal dialogue.

You’ll learn why your inner voice is often your biggest critic and how to reframe that voice to boost confidence, reduce discouragement, and grow as a leader. Jonathan outlines 4 actionable steps to change your internal conversation: Monitor, Prepare, Ask for Feedback, and Speak Truth to Yourself.

 If you’ve ever felt stuck in negative thoughts or discouraged by past failures, this episode gives you the mindset tools and leadership insights to break free and step into your value.

Topics Covered:

• The power of self-talk in leadership
• Why we believe lies from our inner critic
• How to track and reframe negative thoughts
• Getting helpful feedback from trusted voices
• Creating a personal affirmation rooted in truth

Take the Challenge:

Track your thoughts, ask for feedback, write truth statements, and speak to them aloud daily.

Because you’re not just leading others—you’re leading yourself.

00:00 Introduction: Talk More, Listen Less

00:25 The Power of Self-Talk

01:23 Coaching Insights: Overcoming Internal Criticism

03:02 Four Steps to Better Self-Communication

03:06 Step 1: Monitor Your Self-Talk

03:53 Step 2: Prepare for Better Conversations

04:51 Step 3: Ask for Feedback

05:51 Step 4: Have a Positive Conversation with Yourself

07:34 Key Takeaways and Action Steps

08:47 Conclusion and Next Steps

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