We take a dive into Byron Katie, her four-question format for living in the present and the criticisms. Is 'the work' dangerous - is it traumatising victim-blaming? Could it persuade abused people to take responsibility for the abuse they have experienced (or are experiencing)?

We discuss Jude's experience of working with Byron Katie on a live call and our joint experience of trying to do the process together. 

Loving What Is https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/9762.Loving_What_Is

www.thework.com: the Byron Katie website where you can download worksheets, get guidance on the format and access a free helpline of volunteers if you're stuck. 

Melanie Tonia Evans recovery from narcissistic abuse: https://www.melanietoniaevans.com

John-Paul Flintoff https://flintoff.org

Homecoming: Reclaiming Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/12124.Homecoming?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=Rjlb2o58wb&rank=1

Have you done The Work? If you have, what was your experience? 

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Note: we are two fairly well informed people with opinions that we like to talk about. We're not expert voices telling things how they are, just how the are for us. When we talk about difficult topics, we always have in mind that with work, trauma can be alchemised into resilience, strength and recovery.

Music: New Dawn by Ruth Blake. Listen to her music at www.ruthblake.com

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