This week, we talk about how victim-blaming, gaslighting and personal radical responsibility relate to each other. It's fair to say that we take a few detours on the way there - fruitful ones, we hope - and that we have no slick answers to any of our questions. 

There are a few blips and bumps and scratchy noises on this recording. Soz.

TRIGGER WARNINGS: We mention/discuss domestic abuse, sexual abuse in ways that some people may find triggering (but without descriptive detail).

Homecoming - Reclaiming and Healing your Inner Child by John Bradshaw: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/12124.Homecoming 

Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA) 12-step recovery program: www.adultchildren.org

Byron Katie's 'The Work': https://thework.com

Melanie Tonia Evans NARP program - recovery after narcissistic abuse. www.melanietoniaevans.com

Refuge - support for women, children and men against domestic abuse: https://www.refuge.org.uk/get-help-now/. (UK)

Women's Aid: https://www.womensaid.org.uk (UK) or womensaid.ie (Ireland)

Key and Peele sketch:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TLnUJzueBOQ 

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Note: we are two fairly well informed people and self-confessed bangers-on with opinions that we like to talk about. We're not expert voices telling things how they are, just how the are for us. Neither of us is a trained psychotherapist or counsellor, so we're unable to offer direct support for specific situations, but there are always organisations or programs that can help.  

Music: New Dawn by Ruth Blake. Listen to her music at www.ruthblake.com - check out her newly recorded song here: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CVqilTAoldo/?utm_medium=share_sheet

Logo image based on Psychopomp by Hollie Chastain. Check out her art and amazing collage book at www.holliechastain.com