Ep. 95: Figuring out the emotional, legal, and personal side of becoming a surrogate

Stephanie Bosello never imagined she’d become a surrogate—until a family member’s fertility journey intersected with her own deep sense of purpose.

In this powerful and personal episode, Steph shares her journey with surrogacy, the layers of support required, and what it means to give such a profound gift, even when the outcome doesn’t go as planned.

We dive into everything from counselling and legal prep to the emotional rollercoaster of embryo transfer, the unexpected heartbreak that followed, and how Stephanie’s background as a school counsellor and parent shaped her outlook on the entire experience.

Conversation takeaways:

• Surrogacy is a gift and a privilege—but also an emotionally demanding experience

• Your childhood can shape how you parent and what kind of support you seek

• Open, honest communication with your partner is essential when making big life decisions

• The legal and logistical side of surrogacy is complex and crucial

• You don’t need to be a “risk taker” to do brave things

• Even when the outcome isn’t what you hoped, the impact and connection remain real

FULL SHOW NOTES & TAKEAWAYS

Related episodes:

• Ep. 88: Finding your flock in motherhood with Gemma Van Slyke of The Motherflock – Spotify or Apple

• Ep. 91: Feeling off? Use this 8-part check-in to realign your life  – Spotify or Apple

About the guest:

Stephanie is a Registered Clinical Counsellor and school counsellor with a background in developmental and counselling psychology. She's passionate about supporting youth and families, navigating school and health systems, and helping others feel seen and supported. She's also a proud mom of two high-energy kids who tear around the neighbourhood on bikes.

Connect with Stephanie via LinkedIn here.

About Andrea Barr, host of All Figured Out:

Andrea Barr is a certified career and life coach who helps ambitious parents take charge of their careers and lives with strategy, intention, and freedom. She rejects the idea that success requires sacrifice—showing parents how to create more time, flexibility, and fulfillment without burnout. Through her coaching, workshops, and podcast, All Figured Out, Andrea shares the strategies and mindset shifts parents need to design careers that fit their lives—so they can thrive at work and at home.

Connect with Andrea via Instagram ⁠here⁠ or her website ⁠here⁠.