Cliff is joined by his cousin and advocate, Wendy about her own experiences of parenting neurodivergence.  Wendy talks about the challenges she has faced with her children, including delayed diagnosis and the impact of the invisible struggles in education for children who aren’t neurotypical. She shares the tools and mechanisms she has used to manage her family and their challenges and opens up about the support she has and has not received. 

So many families are quietly carrying these challenges every day, and Cliff wants to remind every parent that support is out there, and it doesn’t always come from the places you might expect. So reach out and know you are not alone.

Episode Reveals

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  Wendy’s youngest child started having challenges at school immediately, including school refusal and denial from her class teacher.

  
  


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  The challenges of mainstream school for getting support and diagnosis

  
  


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  How school failed her child, who is still waiting for an EHCP after 9 years

  
  


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  The additional challenges neurodiverse girls have with getting support and a diagnosis

  
  


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  Why the school and education system are outdated

  
  


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  Why the world needs freethinkers, but the school system doesn’t allow for this

  
  


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  How small adaptations can transform how a neurodiverse child performs in education

  
  


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  The lasting impact of the school system on children’s confidence and self-esteem

  
  


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  Homeschooling isn’t helpful for all neurodivergent children, it isn’t a viable option for those who are very social or parents who need more support

  
  

BEST MOMENTS 

“If you’re navigating similar struggles, remember support is out there and it sometimes comes from the most unexpected places”

“At times there would be teachers dragging her off of me with her screaming to get her into school”

“It’s a constant battle”

“The world needs freethinkers”

“Having that extra time to be children really benefits people”

EPISODE RESOURCES

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HOST BIO

Cliff Kilmister is a dedicated parent, advocate, and cat whisperer with firsthand experience raising a child with autism, ADHD, and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). Having navigated the challenges of school refusal, meltdowns, and sensory sensitivities, Cliff brings an empathetic, real-world perspective to the podcast. When he's not helping his child thrive, he’s dodging the evil stares of his three cats, who are plotting to take over the world (fortunately, they still haven’t figured out how to use the tin opener). Cliff offers practical advice, expert insights, and personal stories to help families facing similar struggles. Cliff’s daughter will be a regular guest, sharing her experiences and strategies that work for her. And joining him in this journey is his wife, Annie, who will also contribute to the podcast with her unique perspective and support. Cliff is focused on connecting with professionals and networks to raise awareness about the growing need for the education system to adapt to the increasing neurodiverse population. Join the community on Patreon to share experiences, access exclusive content, and work together for change! 

CONTACT ME

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