What is a High Value Woman (And How To Become One)
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Most advice about becoming a high-value woman is surface-level: wear this, say that, wait three days to text back. But true high-value energy is not about tactics or performing to get the man, the job, or the money. It is a state of being. It is how you carry yourself, how you see yourself, and how you show up when no one is watching.
In this episode, we redefine what it really means to be a high-value woman and how to embody that energy from the inside out. You will learn the three layers of value (intrinsic, perceived, and lived), how to shift your mindset, build self-trust, raise your standards, and create habits that reflect your worth without chasing approval or validation.
Episode Details:
00:00 Introduction
02:01 What “value” actually means
02:43 You have intrinsic value
03:53 Self-image sets your perceived value
04:34 Your lived value is how you show up
05:57 Have valuable thoughts about yourself
06:52 Wrap a red velvet rope around your life
07:54 Keep your word to yourself
08:42 Prioritize your well-being
09:15 Dress to impress yourself
09:53 Learn how to master your emotions
10:51 Celebrate yourself
12:31 Invest in your own growth
13:44 You don’t have to fake it ‘til you make it
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Episode Transcript:
The Problem with Performing For Value
Do you know what's been driving me crazy lately? All this advice out there on how to be a high-value woman, because it usually goes something like this, dress this way. Say these three things, don't text back too soon so that you can land the man or get the job or attract the money. But here's the thing, when you are truly in your high-value energy, you're not doing it to get anything. You're not performing for some prize. You're not manipulating outcomes. Being high value isn't some tactic. It is a state of being. It's how you carry yourself, how you see yourself, and how you show up whether someone's watching or not. So today we're going to redefine what it really means to be a high-value woman and how to actually embody that energy. Because spoiler alert, it's not about the handbag, it's not about the man, it's not even about the job, it's about who you are when you stop chasing and you really start owning your worth. Welcome to the School of Self-Image, where our motto is simple. Elevate your self-image, elevate your life. I'm Tonya Leigh, your hostess, and I'll guide you to become the woman who doesn't just dream bigger. She lives bigger. Let's dive in.
Hi there, and welcome back to my channel. I'm Tonya Leigh, and today I am diving into a topic that is no stranger to the internet. If you go on YouTube, you see these videos everywhere and it's on how to be a high-value woman. And I'm going to be really honest with you right now. A lot of the stuff out there really rubs me the wrong way because it is so performative. It's full of tactics to appear high value instead of the high value. There's a big difference, my friends. So I want to set the record straight. I am not here to teach you how to get him to text you back faster. I'm here to teach you how to text yourself back faster, to keep your own word and to elevate your own life. This work is about the relationship between you and you.
Redefining Value From Within
It is the most important relationship. It's the one that matters the most, and it's the one that we focus on around here at the School of Self-Image. So before we dive into what a high value woman is, let's clear up the word of what value actually means because it gets tossed around everywhere and usually I feel like in the wrong way. When you think of the word value, what comes to mind? Because most people, what they think of is what you bring to the table for other people. And yeah, that's a part of it, but if that's all you ever focus on, you're going to spend your life performing for approval. I know this to be true for my own experience of wanting to feel valuable. And so let me be a certain way. Let me show up a certain way. Let me get the accolades, let me get people to approve of me. But that just you down and it ends up making you feel low-value.
Three Layers of True Value
So I want to break it down into three parts of what it means to be high value. The first part is your intrinsic value. This is your birthright. You were born valuable, period. Yeah, you're just valuable. What if you believe that to be true? It's just who you are. You don't have to earn it, you don't have to perform for it. Just you being here if you think about it, is such a miracle. Think about all of the things that had to line up in order for you to be a human being. Right now walking this planet, it's miraculous. That alone makes you valuable. But the trap is when women are performing to be valuable, they're wearing certain things, trying to look valuable, trying to say the right things, but it's coming from a low-value state.
They don't see themselves that way. They haven't claimed the value first. And whenever you are performing for your own value, it just keeps you on this hamster wheel of life. So what if you just honored your intrinsic value? What if you just decided right now I am a valuable human being? Because when you do, it makes the next one so much eas
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