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Attorney Cara Tuttle Bell shares strategies for setting effective boundaries at work and beyond, revealing how assertiveness can be developed as a skill rather than seen as a personality trait. Women in their forties often discover their strongest boundary-setting abilities as they become more comfortable with themselves and less tolerant of harmful behaviors.
Visit https://caratuttlebell.com for free resources on boundary setting and assertiveness in various contexts.

• Setting boundaries requires different approaches for different contexts
• Assertiveness differs from aggression—it's about showing up and participating without steamrolling others
• Strategic timing matters—don't wait until after probation periods to clarify roles
• Approach boundary conversations with positive framing to maximize persuasion
• When you do your job well, supervisors often don't see it happening—requiring self-advocacy
• Start with small, low-stakes situations to build your assertiveness muscle
• Lead with your specific ask rather than extensive justification or explanation
• Consider the power dynamics in workplace relationships before choosing your approach
• People who appear fearless are often just strategic—assertiveness gets easier with practice
• Choose what pleases you more often—there's room for women to feel more entitled

Visit caratuttlebell.com for free resources on boundary setting and assertiveness in various contexts.

The opinions expressed in this episode reflect those of Cara Tuttle. 

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