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You’re Not the Narcissist, But You Might Be Fueling the Fire

You’re Not the Narcissist, But You Might Be Fueling the Fire

Update: 2025-08-06
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If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I the high-conflict co-parent?” — this episode is for you. In today’s honest and eye-opening conversation, we’re talking about the moms who second-guess themselves, feel guilt over their decisions, and just want to do what’s best for their kids. (Spoiler alert: the fact that you're asking this question is a sign you're not the problem.)

But even if you’re not the narcissist, you might still be unintentionally feeding the high-conflict dynamic. From engaging in every argument to trying to co-parent like it's a team sport — we're breaking down 10 ways you might be enabling your high-conflict co-parent without even realizing it.

Whether you’re dealing with gaslighting, boundary-pushing, or constant chaos, this episode will help you shift out of reaction mode, stop fueling the fire, and protect your peace.

In this episode, we cover:

  • Why narcissists never ask, “Am I the problem?”

  • Subtle behaviors that enable high-conflict dynamics

  • Why parallel parenting may be your best strategy

  • The role of guilt, reactivity, and lack of boundaries

  • What to do instead — and how to reclaim your power

Ready to stop second-guessing yourself and co-parent with confidence? Inside The Next Chapter membership, you’ll get the tools, support, and weekly guidance you need to heal, set boundaries, and raise emotionally healthy kids — even with a high-conflict ex.

Join us here → https://www.samandleah.com/services


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You’re Not the Narcissist, But You Might Be Fueling the Fire

You’re Not the Narcissist, But You Might Be Fueling the Fire

Sam and Leah