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You’re a Problem Solver, Therapy Hasn’t Worked - This Is Why

You’re a Problem Solver, Therapy Hasn’t Worked - This Is Why

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Why smart, self-aware people get stuck in rumination - and how safety, not more thinking, creates change...

Tired of doing everything “right” and still feeling stuck?

This episode with Dr Amen Kaur explores a hard truth many capable, self-aware people face: when a sharp, analytical mind tries to heal emotional pain through more thinking, rumination takes over. It feels productive and addictive at times - but research shows it often magnifies negative emotion, narrows perspective, and predicts depression, anxiety, relapse, and stalled healing.

If you grew up intelligent, self-reliant, and undertrained in emotional regulation, your brilliance may actually be working against you - not because you’re broken, but because your nervous system never learned how to feel safe before solving problems.

In this episode, I share the turning point from my own journey- how insight kept piling up while real-life results didn’t change and ground it in long-term psychological research. Large-scale longitudinal studies show that rumination predicts the onset of depression (even in people who weren’t depressed to begin with), increases anxiety and trauma symptoms, and is linked to poorer outcomes in talk-based therapies when rumination isn’t addressed directly.

We break down what actually helps:
 • Why problem-solving fails when the nervous system is dysregulated
 • How rumination keeps you stuck in defense instead of healing
 • Why insight alone doesn’t create relief
 • How biological safety restores clarity, context, and forward momentum

You’ll learn how compassion interrupts the inner courtroom, why your body—not your thoughts—holds the signal for change, and how to recognize the exact moment to shift from thinking to sensing.

We also explore how rumination hijacks attention, causes you to miss real opportunities right in front of you, and keeps highly intelligent people stuck for years - not because nothing changes, but because their system can’t perceive change.

You’ll leave with practical, body-led prompts you can use today:
regulate first, name the feeling without judgment, then choose the next small, grounded action.

Your mind isn’t broken. It’s brilliant and overburdened.
Give it a safer body to think from, and clarity returns naturally.

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It’s called “How to Reset Your Biology for Calm, Confident Success — Even If You’ve Faced Setbacks.”

You’ll learn how to release survival stress, regulate your nervous system, and grow from safety, not struggle.

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⚖️ Disclaimer

This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not replace professional advice.

If engaging in guided practices, ensure you’re in a safe, grounded space.
By listening, you accept full responsibility for how you use this information.

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You’re a Problem Solver, Therapy Hasn’t Worked - This Is Why

You’re a Problem Solver, Therapy Hasn’t Worked - This Is Why

Dr Amen Kaur