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When you're going through a separation or divorce, the holiday season doesn't feel magical… it feels like a spotlight on everything that's changed. Waking up in a quiet house… splitting time with your kids for the first time… trying to act "fine" while everyone around you is celebrating,  it can make even the strongest men feel cracked open. In this episode, I share what no one prepares you for during the first (or third) holiday season when your family dynamic looks different than you ever imagined and how to survive it without collapsing into shame, isolation, or panic. More importantly, we talk about how to stop resisting what is so you can start creating a holiday experience that doesn't make you dread December every year. Episode highlights include: Why loneliness hits harder when you're already grieving the life you thought you'd have The difference between pain and suffering (and why one is optional) How to make this season suck less without forcing joy or pretending you're okay Creative ways to redefine holidays when you're without your kids What to do when family expectations make everything worse How to stop seeing being alone as evidence that you're unlovable The mindset shift that turns holidays from something you endure into something you can shape If this season feels heavy, this episode will help you take back choice, control, and dignity even when nothing looks the way you wanted it to. 🎁 Holiday Gift for Our Listeners - The Gift of a Regulated Nervous System AND AS MY GIFT TO OUR PODCAST LISTENERS  IN NAVIGATING THIS HOLIDAY SEASON TO SUCK LESS - come learn to regulate your nervous system with Somatic Breathwork inside of my Breathwork Community called The Self Aware Army for only $1 for your first month in the program (then $39/month thereafter - cancel anytime).  To Learn More about the Self Aware Army and to Get started today for Only $1 www.unblockyourbs.com/blackfriday  You'll get: Live monthly somatic breathwork sessions On-demand 24/7 breathwork library Coaching support A community that gets it and is healing together If there was ever a time to have tools instead of just trying to "get through it," it's right now.   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

When Brian joined Healthy Men-tality, his marriage was on life support. He was desperate to fix the cracks that had formed after trust was broken but what he discovered was that the real repair had to start within himself. In this raw, powerful conversation, Brian shares how learning nervous system regulation, emotional safety, and inner healing shifted him from people-pleasing and fear of abandonment to grounded self-leadership. You'll hear: What happens when men stop fixing and start feeling The cycle of rejection and resentment that kills connection How breathwork became a bridge back to emotional safety Why learning to be present changed his family's dynamic What rebuilding trust really looks like… with yourself and your partner If your marriage feels impossible, this episode is living proof that healing is possible but it starts with you. 👉 Learn more about the Healthy Men-tality program and apply here: www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Men: if you're exhausted trying to "be enough" and fix everything at home, this episode shows how to stop self-abandoning, regulate, and lead yourself so connection actually grows (instead of resentment). In this coaching episode, we unpack the real reason many men feel "not good enough" and why trying to manage your partner's emotions keeps you stuck. You'll learn how codependency forms, why her mood can't define your worth, and the simple, uncomfortable actions that build emotional safety: stop fixing, own your lane, and make choices you're proud of (even if you're scared). What You'll learn: • What codependency looks like in men (plain English) • Why "happy wife, happy life" backfires and what to do instead • Emotional safety basics: predictability, regulation, curiosity over control • How to rebuild connection with your kids (why calls beat texts) • A 30-day check-in rhythm for couples to get out of survival mode If this hit home and you want support to rebuild your identity, calm your nervous system, and lead with clarity, apply for Healthy Men-tality. There's no commitment to join by applying - it just lets us hop on a quick Zoom to figure out what support makes sense for you right now and if this 12 week coaching program is the next right step if you're a man experiencing the same struggles our guest Jim is experiencing: www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

If you've ever been praised at work and lost at home, you're not alone. My good friend and guest on today's episode is Paul Coleman, who thought "providing" was enough for his family… until conflicts, distance, and a daughter's simple note exposed the truth: true connection with loved ones was a skill and he was lacking in it. Paul is a former professional athlete and top 1% California real estate agent, husband, and father to four. Over two years, he has rebuilt his inner world - finally facing childhood wounds he swore he had dealt with already, learning emotional safety for himself and how to create that for others, and choosing presence over performance. In this episode, he shares the exact steps that changed how he shows up for his family differently, because what he believed was "showing up" wasn't working. You'll Hear Why "man up" works- until it absolutely doesn't The household red flags that launched his healing journey The book that unlocked his reactivity as a father and partner ("Parenting from the Inside Out") How reframing his origin story (and writing to his estranged father) melted decades of anger Emotional safety 101: presence, regulation, and not mirroring your partner's  mood The 6-year-old's note that reoriented his entire approach to love How to stop fixing and start holding (and why it changes everything) Building brotherhood: why men's groups accelerate growth Practical boundaries when hormones, stress, and history collide Walk away with a clear picture of what emotional safety looks like in practice from a man's perspective, how to become the grounded "rock" your partner and kids can lean on, and why presence… NOT performance creates lasting connection. And men listening - if you're feeling called out (in the best way) - Learn more and Apply for my men's coaching program: Healthy Men-tality   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Modern dating is a minefield of mixed signals, ghosting, and people saying they want "real connection" while avoiding the real work it takes to build one. But what if the chaos wasn't a punishment - what if it's a mirror? In this episode, two men pull back the curtain on how to date with radical transparency and integrity in a world full of band-aids and quick fixes. Chris Bates, Dating Coach for Men and author of The Dating Edge, and Joel Cochran, mindset and business coach and co-creator of Wife or Bust, are on a mission to help men turn modern dating into a springboard for personal development. They talk about how childhood wounds shape attraction, why most people use dating apps like slot machines instead of filters, and what it actually means to lead with character and clarity in love. You'll Hear: How to turn the mess of modern dating into a personal development game. The mindset shift that makes dating less about "finding her" and more about becoming him. Joel's simple rule that instantly lowers defensiveness and builds connection: "Questions pull. Statements press." Why men hear feedback better from other men - and how to build your own brotherhood. What "dating with integrity" really means (and why you should always close the loop instead of ghosting). Chris's "four legs of the stool" and how to build a solid life foundation before inviting a woman in. Hinge vs Bumble: why your profile isn't a highlight reel -  it's a landing page for the right woman. If you're a man re-entering the dating world post-divorce or just tired of surface-level connections, this conversation shows you how to approach dating as a mirror for growth — to heal old patterns, lead with honesty, and build connection through curiosity instead of control. Links & Resources Chris Bates: ⁠batesdates.com⁠ | @batesdates on Instagram Joel Cochran: ⁠proclivity.co⁠ | @joelcochran on Instagram ⁠Watch Wife or Bust on YouTube⁠ ⁠The Dating Edge book available on Amazon   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Jack is a 24-year Army combat veteran who retired into a quiet house and a loud nervous system. Without the mission and tribe, drinking became the go-to "solution." In this honest conversation, Jack shares how rock bottom in a VA emergency room cracked him open, how default coping mechanisms kept him stuck, and how Healthy Men-tality gave him the structure, community, and tools to regulate, take ownership, and rebuild his identity. You'll hear about: The invisible crash after retirement: losing tribe, purpose, and identity Why anger "worked" in the military and failed at home Drinking as nervous-system management (effective short-term, destructive long-term) The moment of truth in the ER: admitting powerlessness and receiving help Therapy vs. coaching: connecting dots vs. changing behavior Breathwork, body-based regulation, and learning to be present Codependency, people-pleasing, and replacing shame with responsibility Building a new identity: emotionally attuned, regulated, and proud If Jack's story hit a nerve and you're ready to finally let go of the burden you've been carrying and managing (poorly) alone, apply to Healthy Men-tality. Get the knowledge, the brotherhood, and the mastery of taking control back of your life: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen      Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Today I'm joined by Jana McKinney, CEO & Founder of Get Living Breathwork, to unpack why facilitated breathwork can shift you faster and deeper than years of white-knuckling or logic-only therapy. We get into the physiology (vagus nerve, diaphragmatic breathing, nitric oxide), the three layers of breathwork (awareness, daily regulation, journey work), and how journey-style sessions surface and release stored survival energy so you stop repeating the same emotional cycles. We also talk skeptics, safety, and how breathwork + therapy together becomes rocket fuel for growth. If you've ever wondered whether breathwork is "just woo," this one bridges science and lived results—beautifully. What You'll Learn Why belly/diaphragmatic breathing instantly tones the vagus nerve How "over-breathing" keeps you anxious and the 5 breaths/min fix The 3 types of breathwork: awareness, daily protocols (e.g., box breathing), and journeys What happens in a journey: stress → parasympathetic rebound, endogenous DMT release, memory reconsolidation, and somatic discharge Why gentle vs. intense protocols unlock different layers of healing How co-regulation & mirror neurons ripple healing through families A practical frame to combine therapy + breathwork for faster change Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join Coach Tara's healing community to do a breathwork session today + learn more nervous system healing tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Men on a Healing Journey - Ready to regulate, lead, and stop repeating patterns: Join Healthy Men-tality Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen   Connect with Jana: Follow @g.e.t.l.i.v.i.n.g on Instagram Check Out Her Signature "Get Living Breathwork Facilitator Certification Program   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Kyle's story is proof that you don't have to stay stuck in the pain of divorce, disconnection, or old patterns. In this episode, Kyle,  one of the men currently inside Healthy Men-tality my 12-week coaching program just for men - shares his journey of hitting rock bottom after a blindsiding divorce, how he almost drowned in alcohol and isolation, and why he finally chose to get support. Inside the episode Kyle share how this program has helped him: Release decades of bottled-up emotions through breathwork. Find brotherhood and safety in a group of men all doing the work. Start communicating differently in dating and relationships — no longer trying to fix everything or fawn for approval. Learn to regulate his nervous system instead of spiraling. And even noticed his golf game improve because he's no longer beating himself up hole after hole. This is what happens when men commit to healing. 👉 If Kyle's story resonates with you, apply now for the next round of Healthy Men-tality at www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen.   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

When we're lonely, it's easy to throw money, time, and hope into quick fixes for love. Matchmaking services promise "high-quality partners" but are they really delivering? I dropped $7,000 on a service that matched me with men who were… let's just say, not exactly husband material. From shocking disclosures to ghosting to inappropriate texts on Christmas, I quickly realized I'd paid a premium for more disappointment than the free dating apps. In this episode, I (embarrassingly) share my real story of hiring a matchmaker - the good, the bad, and the straight-up bizarre - so you can learn from my mistakes (and save yourself the expensive learning lessons). More importantly, I unpack what desperation does to our decision-making, and why self-work and nervous system regulation are a far better investment than outsourcing love.  Episode highlights include: The truth about what matchmaking services actually offer The red flags I ignored because I wanted love so badly Why compatibility > chemistry > desperation every single time How to date without settling or self-abandoning If you've ever felt the pull to settle or rush love, this episode will help you pause and reset. ✨ For women: Join the Self Aware Army for breathwork + coaching → unblockyourbs.com/saa ✨ For men: Apply to Healthy Men-tality → unblockyourbs.com/healthy-men or DM me HEAL on Tik Tok or Instagram   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Most couples stay stuck in the same painful cycles because they believe their partner makes them feel unloved, unwanted, disrespected or upset. But when you hand someone else the keys to your emotional state, you give up your agency and ability to regulate your own emotions. The result? Endless reactivity, blame, and miscommunication that leaves both people hurt and defensive. In this solo episode, I'll explain why "triggers" aren't created by your partner - they're revealed. Drawing on nervous system science, childhood attachment patterns, and real client examples, I'll show you how to separate facts from stories, regulate emotions, and communicate with curiosity instead of accusation. Here's some highlights: The orange juice metaphor that flips the script on blame A real-life birthday gift debacle one tik tok lady is facing example that reveals fact vs. story in conflict How your reticular activating system and amygdala work together in emotional spirals Why anger is a protective emotion and how to release it safely What it looks like to take your power back in relationships   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist Free 60 Minute "Rebuild" Masterclass for MEN Struggling with Relationships Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Most of us get hijacked by spirals of anger, shame, or the "should storms" of life. We either shut down, blow up, or perform our pain for approval. But the cost is high: broken relationships, wasted energy, endless regret, and a nervous system that never feels safe. And while the internet is full of "healing tips," few people are embodying them in real time. Enter Eric Palacios, returning guest, creator of the Stay Light journal and Palaciosophy, and a living example of turning breakdowns into breakthroughs. In this episode we revisit the fateful Waffle House night in Nashville that shifted his life and unpack how Stoicism, Buddhism, and Taoism meet in the messiness of everyday life. In this episode we dive into… The "Waffle House breakdown" that became Eric's catalyst for emotional autonomy The 3-part detachment framework: pause (Buddhism), control what you can (Stoicism), trust the flow (Taoism) Why performative healing isn't the same as living in alignment How reframing "should" → "could" → "can" changes everything The trap of trying to heal partners who don't choose their own growth  Ready to stop spiraling and start leading yourself? Follow Eric: @palosciosophy on TikTok Grab his Stay Light Journal Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Why is it you can be so chill and peaceful single but the second you start the talking phase or go on a single date with someone - it triggers the anxious spirals, shutdowns, and self-abandonment that leave you doubting your worth and all of the healing work you've been doing single?!?  From that feeling of desperation as you wait on a text response (and the torture that ensues when more than a few minutes have passed)  to over-functioning in relationships where you turn on the charm and performative "mating ritual" of the early stages of modern dating trying to get any kind of approval, validation and a dopamine hit of attention - the nervous system hijacks connection. Add perfectionism, "earning love," and ignoring red flags in the name of empathy or people-pleasing, and that's a sure fire recipe for exhaustion masquerading as intimacy and "courtship". Enter today's guest expert, Shaina Richardson, a dating and relationship hypnotherapist for powerhouse women. In this episode, we'll unpack how to decode nervous system "activations" as Shaina calls it (aka triggers), how to stop gaslighting yourself, and the path to creating relationships that feel safe and soul-aligned. What all we'll cover: Why your body freaks out in dating and how to translate its language Hypnosis as a tool to rewire reactions (yes, beyond funky chicken stereotypes) The meaning you attach to texts, "I'm busy," and "not my person"... and how to shift it The trap of micro self-abandonment (aka putting his needs above yours) Vulnerability as the bridge to masculine, healthy love  Ready to build relationships as powerful as your career?   Work with Shaina: Follow @hey.shainamarie on Instagram @hey.shainamarie on Tiktok   Coach Tara's Breathwork + Healing Community: www.unblockyourbs.com/saa Apply to Healthy Men-tality - Coach Tara's Men's Coaching Program: UnblockYourBS.com/healthymen or DM HEAL on Tik Tok or IG to learn more   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

A post I shared went viral on "roommate marriages" and it highlighted the same core pains from over 400,000 men: no intimacy, eggshell communication, codependency, betrayal wounds, mental health strain, financial/family entanglements, and deep isolation. When you're dysregulated, you can't desire. Logic can't land when emotions flood the brain. And people-pleasing feels "kind" or loving until you realize it's just self-abandonment at it's core. Stay here long enough and you'll start calling a war "gender" that the other side is the problem - when it's really nervous system (hers) vs nervous system (yours)  fighting for safety in the only (toxic/dysfunctional) ways they know how. In this episode, I break down the top common themes I noticed in these types of relationships and give you a nervous-system-aware playbook that leads with curiosity over defensiveness, boundaries over control, and language that reveals AND rewires beliefs - thus hopefully… unblocking your bs ;)  Here's what we get into: Why "roommate marriages" happen and how to restore safety and intimacy (that's not just physical) Stonewalling/defensiveness decoded (and the "fix/advice/listen?" script) Codependency vs care: the exact line where kindness becomes self-abandonment Betrayal repair basics: trust yourself first, then rebuild together When to stay, when to go, and how to do the consequence math Why men struggle to share and how to get real support that works Men - if you're ready to overhaul your nervous system so you stop feeling stuck and like a ghost in your own home/marriage/life? Apply to Healthy Men-tality and let's see if it's the right next step for you on your journey to stop destructive or unhealthy cycles in your relationships: www.UnblockYourBS.com/healthymen  or DM me on Tik Tok HEAL   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

For 20 years, John lived in the "nice guy" role… fawning, avoiding conflict, and losing himself in the process. His marriage looked stable on the outside, but inside he felt empty, resentful, and disconnected.   When the relationship ended, his first instinct was to date again and fill the emotional hole with someone new. But without facing the childhood wounds and nervous system patterns that shaped his behavior, he knew he'd bring the same baggage into another relationship. Through breathwork, inner child work, and the Self Aware Army, John learned that fawning isn't kindness - it's survival mode. Reconnecting with himself, setting boundaries, and building a life he enjoys have made him confident, calm, and clear about what he wants in love.  You'll hear: The childhood dynamics that led to 20 years of people-pleasing How breathwork became the catalyst for deep emotional release Why vulnerability is the foundation of true connection The freedom that comes from building a life you love… before adding a partner If you're interested in learning more about Breathwork and healing your nervous system inside of our Self Aware Army healing community - check out www.unblockyourbs.com/saa  If you're ready to stop outsourcing your worth and start leading in life and love, apply to Healthy Men-tality at UnblockYourBS.com/healthymen or DM me HEAL on Instagram or Tik Tok.   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

When emotions run high, most people react from their wounds, not their wisdom. The result? Miscommunication, spiraling arguments, and a lot of "fixing" that doesn't actually solve anything. Whether it's your partner blowing up over a text you didn't answer fast enough or you shutting down the second you feel criticized, these moments aren't about the present, they're about old patterns. And unless you learn to recognize them, you'll keep recycling the same conflicts. In this solo episode, I break down my coaching approach: how I listen for the beliefs behind your words, why I see emotional reactions as inner child moments, and how curiosity can change the whole conversation. You'll learn: Why coaching isn't about fixing you (because you're not broken) How language reveals the beliefs driving your behavior The "inner child lens" for understanding emotional reactions Why curiosity > defensiveness in conflict Want to work with me 1:1 or as a couple to stop cycling the same conflicts? Check out my coaching packages at UnblockYourBS.com/workwithme or DM me on Instagram/TikTok @unblockyourbs   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Healing gave her insight. Inner child work gave her peace. In today's episode, I sit down with Jen Peters, an internationally recognized inner child healer and the founder of a 127,000-person inner child healing community. Together, we unpack what actually creates lasting healing for our students and clients - especially for those who've done all the things but still feel stuck. Inside this episode we dive into: How your nervous system holds onto trauma you don't even remember Why your relationship issues are actually childhood wounds in disguise What makes somatic and subconscious healing faster and more effective than mindset work alone Jen shares her own story of adoption, emotional neglect, narcissistic abuse, and rebuilding her life from rock bottom Why healing doesn't need to take years—and what to do when therapy stops working Whether you're the codependent, the avoidant, or the overfunctioner in your relationships… this episode will speak to the parts of you that just want to feel safe. Be sure to download Jen's free digital book , Coming Home, as an exclusive gift for our Unblock Your BS listeners and start your inner child healing journey today. https://jen-peters.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Coming_Home_-_The_Path_to_Healing_Your_Inner_Child_-_Digital_version-2.pdf   Connect with Jen Peters:  Instagram: @jenpeters_soulguide_healer Website: www.jen-peters.com   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

What if your patterns in love weren't proof that you're broken but invitations to finally come home to yourself? In this powerful episode, I'm joined by Leona Schrock, a fellow coach, podcast host, and former member of the Amish community who shares her journey of leaving religious shame behind, healing after a toxic marriage, and learning how to reconnect with the version of herself she never got to be in her strict religious upbringing. We talk about: Growing up in the Amish culture and navigating the trauma of leaving How identity loss and people-pleasing shape women from a young age Why dating after divorce is a mirror for emotional healing Being both anxious and avoidant in love—and what that looks like in real life The subtle ways women self-abandon in relationships (even when they think they're helping) And what it means to reclaim your standards without sacrificing yourself in love If you were raised to be quiet, "good", self abandoning or repress who you are based on your religious upbringing and now you're trying to figure out how to be authentic, powerful, and free to be you - this episode is going to speak directly to your soul! 🎧 Listen now and let this conversation remind you…  You don't have to perform for love. You just have to come back home to yourself. Listen to my episode on Leona's Podcast Unchained and Untamed here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/becoming-aware-of-the-unaware-with-tara/id1676547980?i=1000673009492&l Connect with Leona:  Follow @schrock_leona on Instagram Follow @schrock_Leona on Tiktok Visit Harmony Home Organization to learn more about Leona   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Learn More about My Men's Program: Healthy Men-tality Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

What if the way you've been showing up in relationships wasn't your fault but it was your responsibility to change? In this powerful case study, Shawn, a men-ber of the Healthy Men-tality program, shares how his fear of abandonment and ADHD led to intense relationship dynamics, shame, and people-pleasing. But through the program, he started healing the root issues… not just the surface symptoms. Inside this episode, we explore: What fear of abandonment really looks like in relationships How ADHD masked as "laziness" and shaped his beliefs about worth Why breathwork changed everything—even though he thought it was BS The difference between shame and accountability How showing up with integrity shifted how he dates now Why he's no longer future-faking or seeking validation Whether you've been called "too much" in love, struggle to stay present, or overthink your way out of connection… this episode is a must-listen!  AND MEN - if you're ready to start doing the work to radically transform your relationships (including the one with yourself!) applications for the next round of the Healthy Men-tality program are now available at: www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen  Click the link to apply and schedule a time to chat and see if this program is the next right step for you! Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Learn More about My Men's Program: Healthy Men-tality Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

He couldn't eat. He couldn't sleep. His wife had left, moved on, and was still emotionally entangled with him—while dating someone new. And Chris? He was stuck. In this powerful case study episode, I interview Chris, a former firefighter and Healthy Men-tality Graduate,  about his journey through a heartbreaking ending of his 10 year marriage, the subsequent emotional collapse, nervous system dysregulation, and the slow climb toward healing, peace, and purpose. You'll hear: Why traditional therapy wasn't enough to help him move forward How breathwork helped him remember childhood trauma he'd blocked out What boundaries finally set him free from his ex-wife's emotional grip The difference between surviving and living again after betrayal The exact moment Chris said "I feel hope again" If you've ever felt lost after a breakup or divorce, like your nervous system is hijacking your healing, or like you have no idea how to rebuild your life - this episode will feel very relatable. MEN! If you're done pretending you're fine and ready to actually feel like yourself again - the Healthy Men-tality program  is the container that will change your life and put you back in the driver's seat Applications for the next round of this program are open NOW - we kick off next month! https://www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen  Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

You ever feel like you're the one who gets it emotionally, but still can't stop chasing people who aren't good for you? In this listener Q&A episode, I answer real questions from women and men navigating heartbreak, avoidance, divorce guilt, and that all-too-familiar spiral of "why do I keep doing this?" You'll hear coaching around: Why your body craves people who are bad for you (even when your brain knows better) What to do when you're drowning in guilt after leaving your marriage How to stop using casual sex as a substitute for connection What it actually means when calm feels boring and chaos feels like love The sneaky self-sabotage of dating emotionally unavailable people And how to stop punishing yourself for choosing peace This episode is packed with nervous system insight, real-life client reflections, and hard truths delivered with heart. If you're ready to stop repeating the same patterns in dating and start leading yourself differently in love, listen in. Want to be coached on the podcast (for Free!) or submit a question about what you're going through? Go to unblockyourbs.com/podcast  MEN! Ready to regulate, lead, and love differently? We kick off the next round of the Healthy Men-tality program next month! Learn more at unblockyourbs.com/healthymen 📥 Download the FREE 5-Minute Breathwork Audio HERE Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.