Most couples stay stuck in the same painful cycles because they believe their partner makes them feel unloved, unwanted, disrespected or upset.

But when you hand someone else the keys to your emotional state, you give up your agency and ability to regulate your own emotions. The result? Endless reactivity, blame, and miscommunication that leaves both people hurt and defensive.

In this solo episode, I'll explain why "triggers" aren't created by your partner - they're revealed. Drawing on nervous system science, childhood attachment patterns, and real client examples, I'll show you how to separate facts from stories, regulate emotions, and communicate with curiosity instead of accusation.

Here's some highlights:

• The orange juice metaphor that flips the script on blame

• A real-life birthday gift debacle one tik tok lady is facing example that reveals fact vs. story in conflict

• How your reticular activating system and amygdala work together in emotional spirals

• Why anger is a protective emotion and how to release it safely

• What it looks like to take your power back in relationships

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

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